<p>I can only go with what I know, but when my mother has her kidney removed due to cancer a few years ago, there was no chemo. Her tumor was self contained in the kidney with no spread; once the kidney was removed, she was fine. </p>
<p>The surgery took a while to recover from, but this was also a woman in her late 70’s. </p>
<p>Wait to see what is needed as far as treatment and then decide when to visit.</p>
<p>My uncle had a kidney removed due to cancer as well. After the removal he was fine for several years. Later, it came back in several places which the docs consider related. He’s been on cancer meds for about 5 years now and still holding his own.</p>
<p>I would probably suggest you just be open to whatever your husband wants to do and to not say much other than you’re sorry if it turns out to be cancer. I don’t know if this is a guy thing or only my husband, but he does not like me to suggest anything to him when he is struggling with something that has him upset.</p>
<p>What didn’t make sense to me was Sarah acting like a schoolgirl at Amber’s door and then rushing off to ask her Dad about Ryan as if she were a responsible and protective mother. Everything else was so well written and very real.</p>
<p>Ha, Sarah makes me look like a star parent ;)</p>
<p>As a 19 year survivor, we turned off the TV because we found all the characters too exaggerated to believe. Kristina hides on her kids bunk bed to complain to her husband(at work) about neighbors staying too long…? She’s how old? Hasn’t learned to politely usher folks out the door?
My kids were 3, 7 and 10. We had no where near the drama. Glad I married someone stronger than what’s-his-name.</p>
<p>Man this show. It continues each week to make me smile at the beauty of contrasting different story lines together and creating a very well done hour of television. </p>
<p>For me the biggest part of this episode was the Amber/Ryan road trip. It was a pretty large plot device that was solely being used for this episode but made some great progress. I love them going to the ocean at the end. Beautiful.</p>
<p>I’ve mentioned before that my brother is returned a couple months ago from a tour in Afghanistan. A friend he met in boot camp was injured in Iraq last October killed himself in August and he had to do the same thing as Ryan did. It was an incredibly rough time for him and very much relatable towards what happened in this episode.</p>
<p>I can barely take this show seriously anymore because of Max. Aspergers or not, the kid needs a smack.</p>
<p>I didn’t want to be the first to say that, Patsmom! I don’t know enough about Aspergers kids to weigh in, but honestly, is raising your voice and employing basic discipline techniques just ineffective? My stomach was in knots every time that kid was in a scene.</p>
<p>Oh my goodness, an over the top episode, if I’ve ever seen one. Is it really necessary to have almost every member of the family in some sort of crisis situation at the same time? I suppose I should be happy that Zeke and Camille were spared. Too much, Jason Katims. Far too much.</p>
<p>Max gets on my nerves too. I can’t imagine having to parent a kid like that irl.
The Bravermans are all so patient with him and just overlook every outburst. </p>
<p>Sarah really annoys me more and more. Is her relationship with J. Ritter on it’s way down the tubes?</p>
<p>What everyone in crisis situation? Are you equating Crosby being grumpy about hosting a party, or Drew getting caught in bed with his ex-ex, with the chemotherapy scenes or Ryan’s response to his friend’s suicide? If the former two count as crises, everyone I know is in crisis 24-7. And the latter two are not so much crises as difficult, chronic conditions that produce a minor crisis now and then.</p>
<p>Anyway, drama series . . . they’ve got to be a little dramatic, or they don’t last long.</p>
<p>Yes, I stopped watching this season after the first episode or two because it was just too predictable, but I read all your comments just to see if I need to jump back into watching. I knew this would happen after they neatly tied everything up at the end of last season. It’s a shame because it was such an intelligently written show.</p>
<p>I liked the episode. I like all of the drama. I am surprised they didn’t have a Thanksgiving episode.</p>
<p>Agree we needed a Thanksgiving episode; I wanted to see Haddie!!</p>
<p>I am always entertained and moved by this show. I do think that Max is a brat- Aspergers or not. As a classroom teacher I have worked with several of these kids and most understand how to interact with more civility and sensitivity toward others. I am tired of Sara and Mr. Sear (?) Bring on Ray Romano and grow up Sara!</p>
<p>i can’t stand sara! i hate how she’s so nervously in her kids’ business. not that parents shouldn’t be involved, of course they should. but she needs to respect boundaries better, especially since mark asked her to trust him on this one-- for many reasons. i think she just can’t deal with the fact that amber and drew are growing up and have their own lives. i suppose that’s understandable.</p>
<p>Ds and I differed on the Drew situation. I told him Mark was wrong to make that promise and that he wouldn’t keep it, that by the end of the show he’d tell Sara. Where we differed is whether Sara did anything wrong. Ds thought she was prying, which she kind of was, but it was Mark who blurted out the “secret.” I don’t think she really did anything wrong in that case, though she was asking a lot of questions.</p>
<p>I do think it points out, again, that Mark is too young for her. He was thinking more like the kid and less like the parent.</p>
<p>Minnymom, I agree with you. I’m also a classroom teacher and Max is out of control. I think they need to get another behavioral therapist.</p>
<p>I would forbid it. Hopefully, I have enough control in my house to carry through. I think it is sad when parents claim they cannot set rules for their children, because their children will defy them.</p>
<p>FYI, if you’re near a TV, Monica Potter is about to be on The Talk.</p>