Thank you for coming back with an update, and for doing so much heavy lifting in correcting all of the assumptions that were made. Assessing any situation described here involves some filling-in-of-blanks and connecting-of-dots, but we all need to avoid relying on stereotypes in the process.
How incredibly frustrating that your parents were pushing Education as a “plan b” all along, and then when you agreed to it, they withdrew their support for their own plan!
Accounting at Kean sounds like a reasonable plan. (Would the Data Analytics major we talked about earlier also be an option, since they were in favor of data science at NJIT?) The lower-division curriculum is pretty similar across the business majors, so you could also consider later whether you might want to slide into an adjacent major like Global Business or Business Analytics. But organizations of all types need accountants, so that credential could be your foot in the door to almost any sector you want to be involved in.
It’s great that you and your sisters are working together on a plan to gain some more independence. One thing you might want to think about, in terms of finances, is that even though you have a loan-free full-tuition package at Kean, you are still allowed to take the guaranteed loans (on your own - no parental involvement needed, at least once you’re 18) providing that you filed the FAFSA (which I think you must have done, since it would have been needed for other schools you applied to). That could be a way to fund your own bank account and have a financial cushion in place. If you don’t spend it, all the better - you can pay the loans back early - but in the meantime at least you’d have some buffer.
You have been so reasonable, flexible, and open-minded about this whole process; I’m sorry your folks haven’t been able to meet you halfway. In most families, the oldest kids bear the brunt of parental inflexibility and the parents soften (or at least fatigue, lol) for the younger ones… but it doesn’t seem to be working that way for you, unfortunately.
The double-depositing isn’t great (and it doesn’t sound as if it was necessary, since Kean’s deadline isn’t for a while) but hopefully you can walk back the Rutgers commitment as soon as you get your parents to sign off on a plan at Kean. Try to appeal to your parents’ consciences about the fact that the pharmacy program is limited-capacity and there are undoubted people on the waitlist who truly want that spot.
I’ve said it before, but your handling of this thread, as well as your situation generally, tells us all we need to know; you will bring an impressive combination of intelligence, resourcefulness, and diplomacy to whatever you decide to do in life. I really hope you’ll come back and update us again in the future, in spite of the aggravations of wrangling a public forum like this one. Wishing you the very best with your path forward.