<p>The posts here do not seem to be implying that success means only financial success. It’s nice when they have successfully launched (and we had a thread about the melancholy feelings when we are less “needed” by our kids a month or so ago) but success means ,IMO, what musicamusica said. How do you define success?</p>
<p>I can’t speak for anyone here. I can only speak for myself.</p>
<p>No, they are busy living their lives. They are successful, in my eyes, because they can support themselves comfortably, maintain happy healthy relationships and friendships, and pursue hobbies and interests that make them happy. I see my grown children about once a week because they live in the area.</p>
<p>That’s it Riproran…back that train up.</p>
<p>I don’t think anyone’s that busy that they can’t pick up a phone or send an email. It’s just not a priority.</p>
<p>I guess I’m dense then. Explain it to me as if I’m a 2nd grader.</p>
<p>Riprorin, will you please share your definition of success in this regard. It’s hard to respond to your questions without an understanding of your definition or thoughts on this matter.</p>
<p>I already did. You said I don’t understand this thread so I asked you nicely to explain it to me.</p>
<p>Are you willing to do that?</p>
<p>Yes Jym 626: Riprorin defines success as an excuse not to call mom. What more do you need to know? ;)</p>
<p>That’s it in a nutshell.</p>
<p>I never said that, riprorin. Must have been someone else. Please pull up the thread (I would if I could) from a few months ago about feeling less needed. This was discussed there.</p>
<p>Lol musica. If that’s the definition of success there are probably a lot of successful kids out there!</p>
<p>You said “You’re clearly not understanding what people are saying here.” and I asked you to explain what they are saying to me.</p>
<p>If you want to see what I think, see post #35.</p>
<p>We all forget…when they were little and did not need us to walk them to school. When they no longer needed us to tie their shoelaces, when they no longer needed us to apply to grad school, when they no longer needed us to open a line of credit, or buy a car etc etc. With each little step forward, there is always a sense of loss. But then again…maybe, just maybe someone on this thread is still tying juniors shoes.</p>
<p>jja567, okay, so tell me what I don’t understand about this thread.</p>
<p>Riprorin, Looks like you are confusing me with another poster who seems to have said what you think I said. See post 48. Success does not mean that kids don’t want to have anything to do with their. parents or families. Seems you are conflating that.</p>
<p>“If you have kids that don’t want to have anything to do with you, is that good parenting?”</p>
<p>I think this said it best in Riprorins post 11.
The rest is feigned ignorance.</p>
<p>I thought this thread is about moms who are saying that they did their jobs too well and that their kids are so successful they don’t have time to call them. Maybe I’m confused; it wouldn’t be the first time. :)</p>
<p>Can we do too good a job of parenting? No. But only your kids can answer how great a job you did and you may not always agree with their answer. Or it may take several years until THEY have kids to decide on how well YOU did!</p>
<p>We live in a mobile, materialistic society and that’s the price we pay.</p>
<p>Some kids are more independent than others. My daughter contacts us more than our son. If you have a good relationship with your kids, they should want to contact you even if they don’t need anything.</p>
<p>I’m reasonably successful career wise and monetarily, and was busy with a family, but I still called my dad at least several times a week until he passed away a few years ago.</p>