<p>I have to vent, too…I’m very happy for you that your kids were accepted at all of these fine schools…I don’t begrudge anyone their success. which is well-deserved. Your kids were the winners in a very difficult elimination contest. You should be grateful and not complain about the cost of travel and tuition, which I’m sure you researched before your kids applied. My kid would love to have the choices your kids have, and I’d borrow up to my eyeballs to pay for it…but we won’t get the chance. And it hurts. I’m just saying. And I promise I won’t say it anymore.</p>
<p>@NewYorkSon; I am feeling your pain. Deposits for NYU are $1500 and still owe for the audition trip! </p>
<p>NYU is easily a quarter of a million dollars so I am not jealous. But, congrats and good luck.</p>
<p>you’re right @EastchesterMom, we shouldn’t complain but some of the expenses do come a s a surprise. Didn’t expect to have to do a second visit to some of the schools. I know Id feel as you do if I was in your shoes. We are all kindred spirits just trying to muddle through this very confusing. nerve wracking and expensive experience for the sake of our kids.</p>
<p>@EastchesterMom I am sorry I did not mean to seem insensitive to you or anyone else who didnt get into the schools they wanted but MTorBust is right we did not anticipate double travel on top of everything. I am so very grateful he has these choices so again didnt mean to seem insensitive.</p>
<p>We had a tough day here…
We were headed to the airport to visit D’s second school. I could tell she was very upset about something. Long story short, over the past few days she has decided she doesn’t want to just major in acting. She wants to major in writing too.
The schools she applied to are not the right type for what she is thinking she wants now. We turned around from the airport and came home.
She may need to take a gap year… I am just shocked. Never thought she would decide this!!
Where are the doughnuts?!</p>
<p>Wow, @dramamom0804- I really feel for you. That’s quite a decision at this juncture- you must have whiplash from this turnaround!
Maybe a gap year is just what she needs…there’s certainly no shame in it. </p>
<p>@dramamom0804 ah… :-?? I don’t know what to say ((hugs)). Do you think its something like cold feet? Or just wore out from the audition process??</p>
<p>Passing doughnuts and a shot of vodka</p>
<p>That is tough @dramamom0804 but trying to be the optimist (I know you will all hate me) it is probably better she decided now before she started going and realized it. Hang in there doughnuts and coffee with Baileys coming your way.</p>
<p>Dramammom, I have a good friend who’s daughter(high school junior, acting) has decided to pursue playwriting
, my friend has done a lot of research into undergraduate programs for this. If you’re interested I’d in her list of potential schools with good programs, let me know, some of them may overlap with your list.</p>
<p>@dramamom0804 – oh my. I thought I had it rough. Your D is very brave to speak up now about what she really wants. May she write a Pulitzer winner…and may my D star in it! Virtual hugs to you and D!</p>
<p>Double the donuts and vodka and raise you a shot of tequila…for Dramamom0804. Sending cyberhugs galore and kind of muttering a bad word…confession. </p>
<p>@dramamom0804 i actually think your daughter made a very mature decision. I know that many of the schools that offer BA theatre Arts have playwriting courses. You should look into those. I dont know what schools she applied to, but she could probably take some classes at a community college if noneof her schools offer playwriting. At least, that way, she will know if THAT is really her interest before she takes another year to decide. </p>
<p>My D is also at an impass. She wants a big “rah rah” school but a BFA MT. Unfortunately, she didnt get into any of those schools. She now has to choose between the BFA at a smaller school or a BA at a big school and is torn. I have told her that there is no wrong choice, and that she can always transfer. She is getting herself sick over this decision. So, bottom line…your daughter has made a brave choice(at least she was able to make a choice…lol) and though its definitely difficult to deal with after going through all of the auditions and applications, try to be proud. </p>
<p>P.s. Dunkin donughts is open late. <3</p>
<p>As S revisits schools, his ideas of who he is and how he might fit into accepted programs is evolving. How can ANY of these 18-year-olds know FOR SURE who they will be in the next few years, or what unknown paths may open up before them. @dramamom0804, your D may be beginning to figure it out. Here’s wishing you and her much support as she re-evaluates her path.</p>
<p>^So true. These kids, and us, had to be so focused on the “prize” of acceptance that there was little time to really think about the outcome until after audition results. Lots of cyber hugs coming your way!!</p>
<p>Thanks all… Today should be a better day. The shock of something like this is always the worst part. I’ve asked her so many times over the years if she was sure… And she was… And gave up many things for this. I’ve contacted her acting teacher who is beside herself!! Says no way my D should give up. </p>
<p>My eventual entry into “what would I do differently” should be very interesting indeed, when I am finally ready to write it. </p>
<p>I’ll collaborate on that “what I would do differently” book, @dramamom0804!</p>
<p>@dramamom0804 is she considering the BA at Muhlenberg? My D loved it when we visited, beautiful facilities and campus, good theatre program with the ability to double major, or major plus 2 minors etc. Seems like she could study writing and still do theatre there. Good luck with the decision!</p>
<p>Yes, we are still considering that. Both U Arts and Muhlenberg have writing/english. If I knew this was her path there are a lot of other schools that are a better fit though I think. Needs research. NOT what I feel like doing right now!!</p>
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<p>I hear you!</p>