Are the memes hurtful to the families, though? Especially to the wife? Or might they actually serve as a sort of balm to her wounds?
So often with cheating, the cheater manages to take control of the narrative, and engages in some impression management:
-We just “drifted apart.” (actually, no, you started an affair)
-The marriage “had been over for years anyway” (that was news to your wife!)
-We were “no longer lovers, just friends” (implication you weren’t still having sex with your spouse, although in reality you were.)
-My wife was “caught up with the kids” and let the marriage die (reality: my wife had to do all the work with the kids, because I was off playing boy genius and canoodling.)
-You “can never know what goes on in a marriage.” (trying to imply wife knew and was OK with it.)
But when your cheating spouse gets caught on the Kiss Cam and admits guilt by ducking and hiding, and the whole world can see he’s the a$$, that’s a lot simpler.
I felt the same way when I read “you can never know what goes on in a marriage” as if they are justified in their bad behavior. If the spouses thought it was OK, they wouldn’t have tried to hide. It certainly isn’t any of my business, but I think it took on a life of its own because seeing situations where people get away with horrendous behavior- think PDiddy, the people who are (we assume) in the Epstein files, holier than thou politicians and religious leaders- continue to live a cushy life while hurting others. There was a sense of “finally someone is having to face the fire”.
This story probably wouldn’t be getting the same attention if it were about a Walmart manager and a cashier. Which makes me wonder if people are really reacting to a moral issue, or are they drawn in because it’s a fall from a high place?
I personally am drawn in to this story because I know people who have been cheated on by their spouses. And in all those situations, the cheating spouse wasn’t really remorseful about what happened…the cheater was sorry that they got caught, and then tried to blame it all on the non-cheating spouse.
And based on what I’ve seen in some Instagram reels (i.e., personal accounts of tech workers who worked for this guy before at Silicon Valley start ups), this guy has been a liar at work a lot, too.
This guy made choices, on his own (not coerced or forced), which put himself in this situation. It’s all HIS doing, not somebody else’s. Actions have consequences.
Yes, and likely gets stock options, qualifies for a hefty bonus, and may even have equity in the company. Her current husband is CEO of a rum company, and they recently bought a multi-million dollar house, so she’s definitely not living a middle class life. She’s still listed as Chief People Officer on the company’s website:
I guess so, but AI says the company is a startup with approx 200-500 employees (another source lists 386), so how many people can they even have working in HR? I doubt a startup’s top developer even makes half a million dollars. Certainly with these jobs the salaries are extremely valuable. I can see the head of HR at Amazon or Google making that kind of salary, but a newish startup with just a few people working in HR? No way.
As a parent with a kid who’s gotten equity in startups in a number of companies in lieu of higher salary, I can tell you that often equals zero dollars unless the company goes public. You never know where people get their money from when buying property, and her current spouse may soon be her ex. Point is, this doesn’t seem to me like someone from the tippy top being toppled from her ivy tower, so the rest of us should take satisfaction from her humiliation and watching the powerful fall.
Absolutely it’s getting more attention because of his position and notoriety- that was discussed earlier in this thread.
It’s a very current trend to see people in lucrative positions doing immoral things and thinking they can get away from it. And often getting away with it.
The Walmart workers face is not going to trigger recognition to many people. This man (and apparently this woman) were more known to a wider audience so the “outing” can be zeroed in on. Within moments, the release of this video- perhaps originally more of a silly “oops” - had a face, a name, a job relationship etc attached to it.
My point is not that people shouldn’t know better, nor do better. My point is that the head of HR of a newish startup is not exactly the rich and powerful, one that people should take glee in their fall from such a high perch. I’d take glee from someone falling from public grace who is a truly terrible person, who is inflicting pain among many. For all we know, her husband is a serial cheater and now he’s looked upon as the victim, because she’s the one who got caught and has an “A” emblazed upon her chest forever. We have no clue. The outrage from strangers who actually know nothing about these people’s lives seems pretty weird and sanctimonios to me.
I read a report where it was noted that the HR head is married to a CEO, and her first husband was also a CEO. She was cheating on her husband with a third CEO.