<p>So, how long can you wait to meet a new bf/gf before it is considered rude?</p>
<p>If S1 does anything stupid and loses his wonderful, smart, funny, loving g/f of 4 years, I’m going to kill him.</p>
<p>OTOH, S2 dumped his lazy, ungrateful, freeloading, unambitious 2 year g/f (finally) and we are very thankful (and definitely hoping it lasts).</p>
<p>D and her BF broke up and I didn’t know about it. I should’ve known from her sudden busy social life. I was sad that they met before college because they seemed like a good match but just a few years too soon.</p>
<p>Sportsmama, does your S/D WANT you to meet his/her new gf/bf? </p>
<p>I know people who tell their kids they don’t want to meet any romantic entanglements until there’s a ring or an apartment lease being signed. They’ve gotten attached to the significant others in the past and had their hearts broken too many times - or they’re just tired of being dragged into the drama.</p>
<p>I, on the other hand, am always happy to meet my kids’ friends - romantic and otherwise.</p>
<p>I’ve heard several women make this same argument that they are tired of having their hearts broken when an S/D breaks up with a beloved significant other. Neither of mine have ever had bf/gf but I can equate it to when divorced father was dating and I’d be so annoyed when he let a good one go. I finally became very ambivalent and until I saw them at 6 consecutive holidays I paid little attention. I was OVER investing any more energy. I’ll remember all of this when the time does come…</p>
<p>I have been married for 25 years , and I broke up with my first serious boyfriend because I started to feel jealous of the relationship between BF and my mom !</p>
<p>I usually meet my girls´BF from the very beginning (not that they´ve had that many), and they would ask me if I like them. I do not get emotional attached to any of them. I tell my kids, “I like him as much as you like him.” I don´t think I have met one that I didn´t like yet, but I haven´t met one who is it either. But I keep my mouth shut.</p>
<p>Yes, Lafalum, my daughter wants us to meet her new bf. I am reluctant to do so at this point. I didn’t say that to her, but said that we’ll have to see, depending on her schedule and ours.</p>
<p>D and her long-term long-distance BF did break up at the end of the summer, after 3.5 years together. In the end, I think it was just the distance and the timing that did them in (she will graduate in 2012, and he still has several years left before he’s done with his undergrad and master’s degree.) They still are friendly, they still talk frequently, and they are both dating other people now.</p>
<p>D seems very happy and is pleased at how painless the whole process was. I, on the other hand, am thrilled to see her happy (of course!) but I still feel pretty sad. The old BF was a great kid - maybe a little immature, but he still treated D very well. I will miss him.</p>
<p>If they had met each other later in life, who knows? Will they reconnect later - who knows? For now, though, I feel sad and then STUPID for feeling sad!</p>
<p>My hs BF continued to stay in touch with my parents long after I went away to college and moved to CA. He still visits my mom in the nursing home. I long ago accepted the fact that these relationships were more about the kindness and respect they felt for each other. To be fair, my parents never compared other bfs to him, and they loved my dh as well.</p>
<p>“I don´t think I have met one that I didn´t like yet, but I haven´t met one who is it either.”</p>
<p>Oldfort, that is what is hard about the situation. Everyone in the family had the feeling that this was the one. I think they met too soon in life. Who knows what will happen, like Scout59 says.</p>
<p>@singersmom: I mean no offense, but being a SAT taker I couldn’t help notice the awkwardness of the sentence:</p>
<p>“He’s married with two children …”</p>
<p>sounds like polygamy :P</p>
<p>@compact: You might want to improve your own English before you criticize that of other posters. Here’s one of your sentences: “Secondly go through answers of each and every questions and figure out what wrong you are doing.” That’s a little awkward, too! ;)</p>
<p>Thanks for pointing that out. 
On it. Will remember the next time.</p>
<p>I don’t agree with the merits of the grammar nitpick. There’s no such phrase as being “married with” your spouse. The phrase “married with two children” is unambiguous and cannot mean that the subject is married TO the children. Are you a native speaker of American English?</p>
<p>And now, back to our regular programming.;)</p>
<p>I really need your thoughts on this and no one has answered my question. How long can you wait to meet a new bf/gf before it is considered rude? </p>
<p>I guess we could meet him and then leave it at that. I don’t want my daughter to be upset with me. When we met the last boyfriend, he fit into our family right away and was always invited to our home and included in family functions. If we treat this one differently, my daughter may take it personally. We don’t dislike the new bf; we don’t even know him. We just learned from the last one that it’s not good to get attached.</p>
<p>I’d take my lead from her. If she wants you to meet him, then meet him. Its up to you to remember not to get too attached.</p>
<p>I agree with Lafalum84, I would leave it up to D. Whenever we’ve met our girls’ BFs, it has always been at their request. We don’t invite them to family events except when our kids want us to. When BFs do show up, we are all very nice, but we do not assume anything. H is great at getting their names mixed up.</p>
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:eek: Wow, if you or your husband persist in calling the new BF by the old BF’s name you might not have to meet any new BFs for a while. ;)</p>