My son had a wonderful hs girlfriend. At times in his hs career I liked her better than him (everyone that knew them could understand why). She and his parents helped him through a year of hell (rebellion X20). I was sad when they broke up just before he left for college. I really liked her (I still do but from a distance) but I also knew that it was going to happen. He was going to college 10 hours away and she was going to go a couple of hours away and live with all her hs friends. He was going to be gone for at least 7 years for undergrad and vet school. It was not going to work and they parted as friends. I’m still friends with her mother but don’t have the daughter on FB or anything anymore.
2 weeks into his freshman year he met his current gf. I tried not to but I got attached. She makes him a better person. They are so compatible! She did go on ski trips with us and came to our home to visit and even went to Europe with him. When they broke up over Christmas I didn’t understand and was hurt. Well, turns out that he just had to see what was out there and realized the grass was not greener and they are back together! I think it helped both of them. I didn’t talk to her while they were broken up and stayed out of it and let them figure out what was right or wrong. We will see if it last. I’d like it to but it is up to them not me. She was here for part of the quarantine and they really did seem happy. We will see what happens next year when she is a Senior and he is in vet school (at the same university).
I know a lot of people don’t get close to their kid’s so. I know I haven’t with any of my D’s bf’s (not even the one that is the father of my grandson). This girl is just the entire package, sweet, respectful, intelligent, well-spoken, athletic, beautiful, outgoing, a family person but also career driven. I still don’t know how my son lucked into her! Hard not to fall in love with her. So, I understand being heartbroken over the hs romance but something great is out there for her!