I have read my post and the quotes you included in your reply. Yes, I was devastated. It felt like the loss of a family member. It still does to an extent. I came here because I had nowhere else to share those unexpected feelings.
You are the only poster who responded in an insensitive way. By your third reply quoting my original message, I felt the need to respond.
If you feel comfortable assuming, then please assume away.
When someone is in pain, one has the choice to respond with grace and compassion, even if one doesn’t agree.