Going back over the threads here, there really are two very different discussions that revolve around judgement and consequences and whether they matter or not.
1)Appropriate wear for what you are doing, for example in the workplace and the consequences of not doing so, a young man wearing hip hop jeans (ie showing butt crack) or a young woman with a very short skirt, etc. It would be great in the real world if it didn’t matter but it does, even if a company doesn’t have a formal dress code there can be consequences, the young woman in question might get labelled by others as being someone pretty who got their job because they were good looking (and other not so nice thoughts), the young man might get thought of as a thug or whatnot. The work world has changed a lot, a lot of businesses these days realize how hard it is to find good workers and put up with a lot that in the past would have been a ticket out the door, but even so, there are consequences. With something like work, I can sit back and say what difference do tattoos mean or a short skirt, and personally I could give a crap less, but it could be an issue, and it is something to be talked about, that kind of consequence has weight.
2)Being dressed skimpily hanging out with friends, yep people will judge someone they don’t like the way they are dressed, have tattoos, piercings, whatnot, and in that case my answer would be “who cares what some woman on the street thinks, or some group of idiot frat boys, or church ladies, or whatnot”. If safety is not an issue then if a young woman dresses ‘sexily’ or a boy wears hip hop jeans or whatever, they likely know what people think, and honestly as a parent I shouldn’t care what other people think, if they think that makes my kid a ‘ho’ or a ‘gangsta’ or whatnot, or they think it means I am a bad parent, they can stick their feelings where the sun doesn’t shine, I don’t care. That doesn’t mean I would encourage my daughter to go goth at a family get together, but if she does it, and the rest of the family doesn’t like it, gossips, be my guess, and if it gets back to me I generally have enough tidbits of their peccadilos to in a sense tell them to butt out shrug.
And I can’t resist a funny anecdote on this, that sort of has bearing. During WWI a British officer was caught apparently chasing a chamber maid in the buff, and was brought up on charges of being out of uniform, which in the British military (not surprisingly) this is a major, major offense (or was). Anyway, it went to a courts martial, and the defense lawyer pled not guilty…British regulations were very strict about uniforms, but there was a part of the regulations that said an officer could be out of uniform if they were in the appropriate uniform for a sport they were playing…defense counsel argued that the officer was in fact in the appropriate uniform for the sport he was pursuing, and the courts martial found him not guilty on those grounds (I remember this from a Dick Cavett show, Lowell Thomas told the story, he was in Egypt where the incident happened). Kind of a funny take on how nebulous appropriate attire is:)
Or the word choice was very, very poor. Posts like that lead me to think it is the poster with the rage.