<p>Just got back from the scene of my daughters car accident. She was almost at school and hit a man driving straight on a large intersection. My daughter is fine and the driver in the other car was fine. His car needed to be towed away and the damage on his new car was severe. I am still shaken up but beyond thankful that neither my daughter or the gentleman was hurt. This is just unbelieveable… My daughter was issued two tickets at the scene of the accident.</p>
<p>I am so shaken right now and my head feels like it is ready to explode…I wish I had a valium or something to calm down.</p>
<p>So glad to hear all involved are fine, momma-three. I do hope there is a resolution for you soon with everything you’ve been going through with your daughter.</p>
<p>Oh my goodness Momma-three, get yourself a cup of coffee or something and sit down and try to calm down - how horrible! You are right, most importantly all are not hurt. </p>
<p>Oh my God…I just can’t believe all of this. I knew last week after being in the passenger seat with her driving that she was driving impulsively and too close to other drivers. This was clearly an accident that resulted in her rushing (probably because she was late) or texting and not looking before turning. There is no collision on the car so their goes the car, as I said thankfully she and the other driver are safe. I need to stop my head from pounding…my blood pressure must be through the roof.</p>
<p>Is there a friend or family member (besides your H who is too close to the situation) that you can call just to vent and this morning, maybe cry? Someone who will just LISTEN. I so feel for you.</p>
<p>I am so sorry for this very stressful incident today! The main thing is that nobody was hurt. It still is stressful of course. I’ve had a daughter be in a very serious car crash with severe injuries and I don’t wish it on anyone. My other D had an accident the other day avoiding a semi tractor trailer that skidded into her lane and luckily nothing happened to her or the car, but it could have been much worse. Your D’s accident could have been far worse too. </p>
<p>It is troubling if she was given two tickets and so it is hard to say without knowing what the tickets were for. I may be a softie on this one but I likely would not get mad at my kid as I was grateful she was all right and I am sure is shaken up. I might discuss how this could have been avoidable if she was in the wrong in some way (only guessing that since you said she got tickets).</p>
<p>This is just terrible. It just piles on. Accidents DO happen, and many drivers these days are distracted. That said, I do think there are a lot of signs of drug use here. Granted, I am only reading stuff that is posted here on the internet, but I have seen many families who had NO idea that a young adult child was using drugs and it turned out to be the case. My neighbor across the street had such battles with her college freshman that she had to call the police on several occasions. Turned out there was heavy prescription and other drug use. I can not say that is the case here, but it should be ruled out. There are just too many signs.</p>
<p>I cross posted with you. Oy on the no collision insurance. Was this her own car (an extra besides the one you and your husband drive?) </p>
<p>You are likely going to feel stressed all day but it will dissipate after today a bit and be more of a problem solving situation. Right now, you feel shaken up. Is your husband home with you? (you said you guys have a home office)</p>
<p>I think it complicates things in terms of whether she’ll have a car to drive now and also how you feel about driving privileges if she was clearly at fault (not all accidents are due to fault though…but it sounds like this one might have been if she was issued tickets)…and I know she needs transportation to classes and to her job. I’m so sorry as this is going to add to the issues.</p>
<p>^ It seems at the moment that this is going to be a problem…she has classes and a job to get to. I have not yet seen the tickets in that I did’nt even ask to see them because I did drive her straight to school and the tickets were already issued when I arrived. It was clear that she turned when she should have beed at a full stop to allow the car to pass. I am assuming that she was either texting or looking at an incoming text when her eyes should have been on the road. Again, this could have been so much worse with an ambulance at the scene so I am extremely thankful but very concerned that this is again a sytmptom of a much greater problem. My husband is on his way back home now and I am heading into the shower to allow some warm water to hit my head. I just don’t even have words for any of this because it is one thing after another.</p>
<p>hang in there, m3. things WILL get better. glad no one was hurt. do something nurturing for yourself today, even if it’s just a walk with your favorite music or a yoga class…whatever. and remember it’s darkest before dawn.</p>
<p>babyontheway…It is over 20 miles each way. </p>
<p>Sunny… We have a drug test is the house I will take a look to see if it tests for multiple drugs or just pot. I don’t think it is drug use. I do think it is her personality (impulsiveness and drama) that causes these types of things. Her phone is her life and she never could let it out of her sight or her hand which is why I think she was looking at it instead of the road.</p>
<p>OMG So glad to hear that the people are safe.</p>
<p>M-3 I urge you to take a minute. Have a cup of tea. Take a walk. That head pounding is not good. Just take a minute. Think of something else. Yes, I know it’s hard, but try, just for minute. </p>
<p>I am so sorry this is happening in your life. Just deal with it one step at a time. Try not to make big decisions right now. She’s safe, the other driver is safe, there is insurance to cover the other car. The rest of the mess can wait a while.</p>