<p>The parents knew they were paying $5k/month for her because she refused the full ride was was offered at Vandy to attend Duke which she knew offered MUCH less. I am mystified at how her parents imagined her $5k/month at Duke was magically going to be paid once they stopped paying it. </p>
<p>The article above just reinforces what a mess this situation is. </p>
<p>“And, furthermore she has publicly blamed the situation on the climbing costs of college and specifically the lousy financial package she got from Duke.”</p>
<p>Notably, she doesn’t blame herself for not taking the full ride at Vanderbilt. I loathe the skyrocketing tuition costs, but it isn’t Duke’s job to pay the way of an upper-middle class girl. It’s her job, as an adult, to determine that a specific college wasn’t affordable.</p>
<p>“The parents knew they were paying $5k/month for her because she refused the full ride was was offered at Vandy to attend Duke which she knew offered MUCH less. I am mystified at how her parents imagined her $5k/month at Duke was magically going to be paid once they stopped paying it.”</p>
<p>I bet it was a game of chicken - they told her that they would pay $X and she was responsible for the rest. She went off to Duke anyway and said that it would work out. Just a hunch.</p>
<p>The article linked above just confirms my suspicion that her family is in no way supportive of what she is doing. If she could have gone to Vanderbilt for free or very little money compared to Duke, then she is either a fool or more likely, has mental and emotional issues which have caused her to want to hurt her family and is destroying her future in the process. Sadly, this dynamic is not all that unusual in girls her age but most of these kids act out in other ways which are less public and less harmful. My heart breaks for her whole family.</p>
<p>Disgusting, her parents and her are failures.</p>
<p>It is not responsible parenting to play chicken or use magic thinking on college costs. Things really don’t add up in this picture. </p>
<p>The family had two in college already so understood colleges send bills and need to be paid. </p>
<p>Sad any way this is viewed. </p>
<p>“It is not responsible parenting to play chicken or use magic thinking on college costs. Things really don’t add up in this picture.”</p>
<p>Hypothetically, she turns down Vandy and sends in a deposit to Duke. What should her parents do then? Pay $47,000 a year that they cant afford? Dad’s off in Afghanistan for a lot of this, FYI. </p>
<p>Mom is still home. The family agreed to pay $5k per year to Duke and then stopped. They must have been somehow somewhat supportive to have written those original $5k checks. No, the parents should have had a talk with Duke and their D and told Duke that their U was unaffordable and told D “no Duke, beyond the family’s means.” </p>
<p>The parents have to be parents and say they can’t afford Duke, plain and straight. </p>
<p>Is anyone aware of this happening in an Ivy League or top 20 school before?</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.laweekly.com/publicspectacle/2012/08/30/porn-star-tasha-reigns-secret-life-as-a-ucla-student”>http://www.laweekly.com/publicspectacle/2012/08/30/porn-star-tasha-reigns-secret-life-as-a-ucla-student</a></p>
<p>porn star as ucla student, top 30 school, nothing new here.</p>
<p>I feel like it might affect her chances of getting a job, and if she ever ran for public office, her enemies would have a lot of dirt on her. Not that I think it’s fair to judge someone for that, it just seems inevitable. </p>
<p>These porn performers frequently suffer STDs, it can affect their health and lives.</p>
<p>Not really, they are required to have have weekly STD tests. They can’t work until they pass a test.</p>
<p>I believe that she should have just done tutoring. 1hr of tutoring each day would be enough to pay full tuition fee. (that’s if she charges $20/hr. However, I think that’s too low for a Duke student.) Plus, that would improve your reputation and not destroy it. </p>
<p>Nothing to really add regarding this subject except that I noticed this thread has received over 5,000 views in the last 24 hours. I would guess that inserting the word “porn” into the title of a thread is a surefire way to get a lot of interest. I was thinking of starting a thread with the title…“Harvard coeds are four times more likely than Yale students to be recruited for adult films.”</p>
<p>I’ve seen stories online about this for the past 6 weeks or so and am surprised that this is the first thread I’ve noticed about it on CC.</p>
<p>I feel that this young woman has limited her future options profoundly and even irrevocably. Because of the public nature of the story, this will be a defining aspect of her life. Whatever she might accomplish, the headline will be “Duke Porn Star Elected Mayor” or “Duke Porn Star’s Business Records Record Profits.” If she pursues law, will a judge hire her to be a clerk, or a BigLaw firm hire her as an associate? It’s not the porn itself so much as the decision to earn money in the porn industry. That does not seem to be a measured, well-thought-out decision that takes the long view.</p>
<p>I also think it’s deluded for her to think that she’s in control here. She’s being used.</p>
<p>I say go for it, if it’s working for her. Girls do all sorts of things to pay for college because it’s a struggle to pay for it! If she can raise the money, that’s great. And yes, she’ll be looked down upon in her future for being a former porn star, but that’s on of society’s problems. There’s nothing wrong with porn - being in it, watching it, whatever. Plenty of girls work as bartenders because it’ll pay well and help with college tuition costs, this is just a more extreme version of that.</p>
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<p>As has been stated before, they don’t test for all STDs, and certainly not weekly. Porn performers are on record as saying almost everyone in the business has Herpes. They don’t use condoms in the LA porn industry for the most part, and actresses who would insist on condom use would likely not be hired. Because this industry refuses to protect its actors and actresses, I think it’s pretty fair to say this young woman and others like her are being exploited.</p>
<p>It may be legal for the girl to work in porn, and she is free to do what she does, but it is pragmatically inappropriate if she ever wants to get a decent job in the future. She had much better options.</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.salon.com/2013/09/30/fired_for_doing_porn_the_new_employment_discrimination/”>http://www.salon.com/2013/09/30/fired_for_doing_porn_the_new_employment_discrimination/</a></p>
<p>“Plenty of girls work as bartenders because it’ll pay well and help with college tuition costs, this is just a more extreme version of that.”</p>
<p>Porn is extreme bartending. LOL. </p>
<p>Diablo Cody?</p>