<p>Cobrat. You have described one half of your family as having very different expectations of their young adults communication. Could this be a cultural difference?</p>
<p>Saintfan. I agree with your idea that people meet each other in communication styles so that both parties benefit.</p>
<p>Calico. I think the behavior you describe in your post is very normal behavior for all young adults striving to become independent. It is expected. I do believe though that most kids are aware that they are purposefully not responding as much to their parents as they make this break. They know their parents would like an answer to a text for example.</p>
<p>There comes a point in most peoples lives when they understand that other people do not see and experience the world exactly as they do. This is extremely important to know and they can use this knowledge throughout their lives to get along and understand other people around them.</p>
<p>Some people need to be taught this. </p>
<p>If your lack of communication with your mom hurts her feelings there is a good chance that this same dynamic happens with other people you know that care about you. If you are unaware of this you can go your entire life without developing any close relationships and be confused as to why this is happening.</p>
<p>So someone should tell you. Someone should teach you that others expect more communication and when they don’t get it they wander away and find others who will provide this.</p>
<p>If a person knows this and still wants to behave this way that is fine. Its a choice and they have to be ready to accept the consequences of emotional distance. </p>
<p>But for those who are unaware they need to be told. It’s unfair to Johnny to just say to yourself " johnny is just shy, johnny doesn’t like to talk to others, thats just the way johnny is."</p>
<p>Labeling can help you understand people like this but it does nothing to help them get along in day to day experiences.</p>