<p>I’ve found this thread great because it presents a range of perspectives, not just opinions or advice, but ways of understanding and relating to the original post: Some have focused on personality or styles of relating. Others have discussed interpersonal interaction, how we communicate and affect each other. There have been issues like etiquette; and, developmental ones, like becoming an independent adult and changes in the dynamics of the family.</p>
<p>I’ll add another context and perspective: living very closely with a group of adolescents. I’m thinking primarily of that first year of college life in a dorm. If one is accustomed to having the comforts of home, such as having more living space and privacy in one’s bedroom-- dorm life, I would think, would be stressful. </p>
<p>I wondered if when our son would interact with us, especially that first year of college, part of returning to home base and relaxing is knowing that he didn’t have to be as sociable or even as considerate because we’re family. I’m not saying that he was rude, only that some of what might be perceived as emotional distance or adolescent remoteness was also a way to refuel emotionally and reconnect. </p>
<p>Home is a safe place where we’re accepted. And, fortunately, late adolescence is a transition into adulthood. We all grow-up.</p>