<p>Well, that would mean her entire college career, she could not be part of the events involving those in her program. Would be very odd. Skip the team or cast celebration? </p>
<p>Also as a performing artist, you support your friends’ performances as they come to support your own. My kid was under 21 throughout college. She performed in venues in NYC that served alcohol and required IDs. These venues book my D to perform. Her friends came to see her perform. She also goes to see them perform. This is not to “get her way” but rather to be a respectful supporter of her peers. Her peers are older than her. She went to college at a young age and in fact, her friendship circle has always been older than herself.</p>
<p>I can’t even imagine the director of a college theater production or a coach of the varsity team wanting my kids to miss these events. It was part of the activity. Nobody is forced to drink, however.</p>
<p>soozievt…
It really doesn’t matter what the coach or director wants…if it is against the law, it is against the law. Period. Telling your kid to go ahead anyways is a hallmark of permissive, loosey-goosey parenting. Go ahead honey, the rules are for other people who don’t have the same extenuating circumstances, so pay no mind.</p>
<p>Sharing with your offspring, an opinion about whether a law is righteous or not is perfectly proper for a parent to do. This is not a dictatorship.</p>
<p>Well, for example, to attend the cast party at an establishment in NYC, you can go and not choose to drink once there. Missing the cast party is not something I have seen an actor do. If with the team at an event that involves the entire weekend at a hotel and going out for meals, the team member is to be there. Some choose to order drinks, some do not. But not attending is not an option.</p>
<p>Last summer, my D was chosen to be in a major performance event in NYC (this was not a first). The other performers were over 21. My D was the only one who was not. The directors and cast and media then went to a restaurant for the celebration which involved drinks. Actually we were there too! I can’t imagine my D not attending. Not a single person involved in this show did not attend the after party to the show.</p>
<p>insomniatic, the first example of a cast party did not involve only people over 21 but my daughter. They were all ages in college. Same with team dinners for “away” events which involved hotel stays and dinners out.</p>
<p>The second example (where we were also present), all the performers were college graduates, as was my D. They were not students and there were no faculty involved. This was a PROFESSIONAL performance. My D graduated college at 20 and that is why she was the only professional in the show which showcased college graduates from various universities, who was not 21 yet. It was NOT affiliated with her college, although her college had nominated her to be considered for selection.</p>
<p>Another example, not affiliated with college but during the college years. D was the musical director for a professional show written by a Broadway director. This was the premier of the show. D was unusually young (18) to be the musical director for a Tony nominate director/playrwright/composer to hire her to musically direct the premier of this new work. When the performance was over, the entire cast went out. It would be unprofessional for my D to not have been a part of that, considering she ran many of the rehearsals. She was not forced to drink. They may have gone where you are carded to attend, I don’t recall (she has been in tons of such situations professionally).</p>
<p>You asked why she attended and couldn’t she have “fun” and not attended her team dinners, cast parties, etc. both affiliated with school and professionally. I am telling you why she attended these events. It would be HIGHLY unusual to not have done so.</p>
<p>Another thread swirling around the drain…Soozievt, you seem to operate on a totally different parenting plane, and use excuse after excuse for why your daughter should be exempt from the same laws that bind us all…what is left to say?</p>
<p>D was asked to open for Wyclef Jean and Tony Bennett at a political dinner fundraiser event at Tavern on the Green in NYC for a US Congressman. I’m losing track of time but I think she was 19. Now, she did not have to be carded to enter. However, performers were free to use the open bar and food. She was not carded. When you work professionally, you may find yourself in places where alcohol is served. Nobody is forcing you to drink. Some of these places require a card to get in. She is admitted as she is the actual entertainer, even if she is not 21.</p>