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<p>Strength training or bike rides on alternate days, and rest one day per week.</p>
<p>That would give you a new early morning routine. It’s an idea anyway. :)</p>
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<p>Excellent analogy. I hope coffee can see how important this is.</p>
<p>Coffee - I was hospitalized for postpartum depression when my twins were babies. I thought there was no way I could, I needed to take care of them and put myself on hand and gut it through. The oxygen-mask analogy teriwtt refers to is spot-on. If you love him, get the therapy, get it now, get it often and work through it. You can do it.</p>
<p>Thinking of you on move-in day and hoping you are able to focus on how good and healthy this is for your son.</p>
<p>Thinking of coffee today… I just dropped a registration in the mail for a fitness yoga class that starts 2 weeks after D2’s dropoff date (a well timed community education brochure showed up in our mailbox this week). I have also picked out a book I REALLY want to read and know I will enjoy for reading on the flight home after dropping her off. But I know the nest is going to feel super empty for a while…</p>
<p>pizzagirl:“Honestly, coffee – and I say this respectfully – my guess is that there is some past buried event in your life that has to do with loss and this is just triggering something that’s a lot deeper than what you yourself expected to feel at this normally-happy life passage.”</p>
<p>ognopgod raised the same concern earlier and OP responded (post #64): </p>
<p>I did lose my sister and brother and father between 1981 and 1986.</p>
<p>Just a quick hello today. Of course woke up crying. .got it over before he woke up.
Move-in went ok. He realized he left his pile of shorts home, so we had to trek all 7 miles back home and bring them back to him. Right now I don’t know how I feel. I’m guessing it will take me a few days to realize what’s going on. There is definitely a feeling of emptiness. He is excited, as am I. He has pre-orientation today thru Tuesday and then Orientation on wed thru Sunday and classes begin on the 26th. I’m truly happy for him. I did get a sense of ‘will you guys leave already’ from him today. Understandable I guess. Trying not to take that too personal. </p>
<p>Anyway, having a few friends over in the yard tonight to hang out.</p>
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<p>See, coffee, that trip home for the shorts was just the beginning. Next week it will be his extra gym shoes, and the week after that he will want that math book languishing on his bookshelf. And glad to hear that you are having friends over.</p>
<p>One thing I did this week was start a landscaping project that I know will take me into the fall. D2 is asleep during the day anyway (working night shift for a couple more days). I figure that starting it will give me something half done to work on right away when I get back from dropoff. Because if I wait to start it I might just be too down and not be able to get going at all. But now it will be nagging at me. Just trying to keep the lid on that box…</p>
<p>PLEASE go to the therapist though for your follow-up. I think it will really give you a good place to process this all and find out what’s behind it. Glad he is excited and glad you are truly happy for him. And “will you guys leave already” is exactly what he should be feeling.</p>
<p>I still remember when I went to college 1,100 miles from home. My parent drove me out and very quickly my thought after a short while was “alright, already, can you go.” I fully expect my son to think that in less than two weeks.</p>
<p>Oh Coffee- I am reading all of these posts at one sitting and of course I am weeping…when s moved 8 hours away to go to school three years ago , I fept it all hidden in my “sad box” like inparent- of course it came out in stomach issues and headaches…at one point s actually said," Mom I am leaving in a month- aren’t you going to cry at all- everyone elses mom’s cry all the time" I said and continued to say," Oh I am just so proud of you- I will miss you with all of my heart but I know that you have aspirations and that I would really have something to cry about if you didn’t want to do anything with your life." Move in day- cried- but knowing he was happy helped soooo much! I cry everytime he leaves- at one point he said," Mom are you going to cry everytime/" I repeid,“Of course” “I love you Mom!” and there you have it!
When D left last year, I was also sad but by the time we “helped” her in the dorm she was so ready for us to leave- there were no tears( and this time I was sooo ready for the tears!
I just miss them! We are lucky that h and I actually “like” our kids and visa versa- we enjoy being together and for that I am grateful! I also know that they need to fly- it is not an easy journey and we stay connected- sometimes when I really ache for them, I remind myself that if they were home, they would be watching netflicks on the couch24/7 ,their socks would would all over the house along with their dirty dishes…and I smile- I have made progress!!!
I admire your asking for help coffee- you are feeling just what you should be feeling- grieving for loss is messy-you have had great losses in your life and while s will be close, the day to day relationship is changing thus one more loss to grieve for- you will feel “whole” again I am sure…hang in and hang on…and take care…</p>
<p>When we dropped our older daughter off, I cried all the way home (4 hours). H and D2 were quiet all the way home because they were very sad too. I remember I picked a fight with D1 because or else it would have been too unbearable to leave. She later called me to let me know that she knew why we had a fight. With D2 I was a lot better prepared. I didn’t miss her less, but I wasn’t as upset. I think the first child (and only child) has it tougher.</p>
<p>Coffee12- sounds like the drop-off was ideal for your son. just to give you the heads-up, the school will try to keep him so busy the next week that he might not call or text as frequently as you might hope. once the regular schedule begins, i am sure you will hear from him regularly. take care, and great job today!</p>
<p>^very good point, peacefulmom.</p>
<p>And you might get the “drive by” phone call when he calls on his way to classes – short and sweet.</p>
<p>I used to look at my daughter’s debit card activity when she hadn’t called for days. I found some connection (pathetic as it sounds) by knowing she was getting her iced coffee fix every day.</p>
<p>hi coffee, just hello for now</p>
<p>Coffee: just checking in. I’m so happy that you had friends over last night. I hope you enjoyed it :)</p>
<p>Good morning, coffee.</p>
<p>thinking of you and wishing you well.
Our son was an hour away for undergrad and it was wonderful.
We could attend his concerts; he had independence but was able to drop in for “stuff” and quick visits.
I bet it will work out well for your family as well.</p>
<p>Second/third the suggestion for weekly counseling as well. It’s good to know that there’s not a long wait to be able to connect with a hopefully caring professional.</p>
<p>Thinking of you today, Coffee. How are you doing?</p>
<p>My gym is right next to a Bed Bath & Beyond, so when I exit, I pass the BB&B. This morning, I passed three people standing in the parking lot. The woman was crying, and the man and the teenage girl were hugging her. The woman pulled back, wiped her tears, and tried to smile.</p>
<p>Looked to me like someone is about to fly from the nest. Made me tear up.</p>
<p>Thinking of you too today…</p>