<p>That’s great, LasMa. Glad to know that it hasn’t been an issue for you.</p>
<p>But you’ve been around cc for awhile. When, at any point, have people ever, ever, just answered the question posted, and not said anything else?</p>
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I really feel that there should be a picture of this. Or video.</p>
<p>Little early to be drinking, lf, but what do they say? It’s got to be 5:00 somewhere? Or in this case, 5:41. :D</p>
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I hired someone this year whose last name is double hyphenated and his firstname is compound.</p>
<p>Jean Francois Bibble-Babble Momjerk-Dadjerk</p>
<p>Isn’t it obvious what to do when two hyphenated couples marry? When Suzy Hermom-Herdad marries Bill Hismom-Hisdad, the happy couple and their beautiful children become the Hermom-Hisdad family. Matrilineal and patrilineal.</p>
<p>There could be some weird name combinations in that case. Perhaps you consider how the names sound. I know people with common names, that when put together would be obscene.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, no videos. She did tell me that she was going to leave me at the story if I didn’t stop being obnoxious. </p>
<p>But at Bed, Bath, and Beyond I bought her this coffee thing that I know she really wanted but would never buy herself because money is super tight right now. I think she forgives me 
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<p>That’s what moms do, romani! My daughter had a flying through the air, howling hissy fit last night and I told her to take off the bear suit because inside the bear was the girl that I loved and I refused to deal with the bear anymore.</p>
<p>I still would like to have seen the pig. Are you buying it?</p>
<p>We didn’t buy it. I was carrying it because I wanted to buy it for our neighbor’s baby, but I bought him a book instead 
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<p>This was the pig: <a href=“http://www.pier1.com/Plush-Pink-Pig/2776271,default,pd.html#q=pig&start=1”>http://www.pier1.com/Plush-Pink-Pig/2776271,default,pd.html#q=pig&start=1</a></p>
<p>That’s cute, ZM. My mom just asks the aliens to come take me home when I get annoying. I rarely throw hissy fits- but I can be very obnoxious. My mother has the patience of a saint. </p>
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<p>OK, you’ve got me there. :)</p>
<p>I’ll just point out that I’m not the only one who hasn’t had an issue. The large majority of others who’ve posted haven’t had problems, or at least not problems enough to make them regret their decision. </p>
<p>BTW, I didn’t keep my name to strike a blow against the patriarchy. 
It was a matter of comfort. I’d had the name for 35 years by the time I married DH, and it’s a name I love. That, plus I foresaw the problems with his very common last name, which plague both him and D from time to time. And I did know that some people wouldn’t like it/understand it. Most important, DH did. Our families, while a bit startled at first, accepted it without much fuss.</p>
<p>Maybe we can agree that people feel simply differently about this, and that it’s a personal decision undertaken with at least some thought as to the pros and cons. </p>
<p>That’s a very attractive pig, romani!</p>
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Hmm ... create a roster at the beginning of the season with BOTH parents on it (if relevant) so I have all the names. And review the names before any team events where the parents who don't come to games attend. In the past I've had people remind me they are Ms. X ... and I don't have a kid with the last name X and I couldn't remember with which kid the Mom went. Hence the rosters.</p>
<p>Mom3ToGo kept her name and I totally agreed with her choice. She’s never had any big issue like needing to provide proof she’s our kids Mom … there were a few times on the first day of school or first visit to a new doc where there was some confusion that was easily cleared up.</p>
<p>We did end up buying this: <a href=“http://www.pier1.com/Outdoor-Bombay-Hanging-Lantern-Set/2469108,default,pd.html?cgid=lantern”>http://www.pier1.com/Outdoor-Bombay-Hanging-Lantern-Set/2469108,default,pd.html?cgid=lantern</a> except that the lanterns were lightish blue, teal, and dark blue. The wedding is beached themed so we are getting lots of blue-hued things. </p>
<p>I agree, LasMa, people do seem to feel differently, and it certainly is a personal choice. Most of my friends have kept their maiden names, and I would have considered it if my maiden name wasn’t so odd.</p>
<p>I would generalize that most people on this thread seem to think there is either no or little aggravation involved. Both for the people who have done it, and for the memory challenged.</p>
<p>My apologies to romani for going off topic but I think we should go the Icelandic route and change our names with each generation. That would spice things up. I believe that women there do not change their names when they get married. <a href=“Icelandic name - Wikipedia”>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Icelandic_name</a></p>
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<p>In general, I agree. However, one time I started a thread called “For Fans of ______.” Of course a couple of Neg Nellies had to jump in and say that they thought that the works of this person were boring and horribly done. Well, it wasn’t a thread for debating the merits of the work, it was a thread for people who LIKED the work. In that case, I would have preferred they just not post.</p>
<p>In fairness, I’m sure at some point I’ve done something equivalent.</p>
<p>It’s done. It’s in the past. Can we stop talking about it? </p>
<p>@Elleneast I suggested that upthread. Who knew the Icelanders beat me to it? ;)</p>
<p>The solutions to what the double hyphenated couples do are varied (see the link to the NPR story upthread). Some will keep their given names, some will pick one of their hyphenated names, some will each choose one of their names and combine them. In that story I mentioned one couple researched all 4 names and chose the one (or 2? I can’t remember) names that were in danger of dying out. I have no clue what my boys will do. As I’ve said, they get to decide!</p>
<p>I think I had mentioned upthread that my original last name (that I had til I was 6) was a really horrible last name. It’s of Eastern European origin and of all the ways it could have been Americanized, it was Americanized to include a not-very-nice word in it. It’s a name that would have generated lots of teasing in middle school, I am sure. </p>
<p>But the plus side is when I did genealogy, I could quickly ascertain that most of the people with that name in the US were related to me somehow. I “discovered” my half-sister and half-brother – at the time, they were young adults and were not married. Ironically, after going through her life with this awful last name (that I thankfully escaped), my half-sister married and became, of all things, Smith! It’s a good thing she did keep her maiden name professionally, however … I never would have found her if she were just Firstname Smith!</p>
<p>My middle name was my Dad’s first name and his mother’s maiden name.</p>