I am so into this guy at school but I don’t think he’ll go for me because I’m a sophomore. Any tips on how to be confident but not come on too strong? Any tips on how to be myself? Any experiences y’all have with this sort of thing?
My dear, one does not get a gentleman to like one as though he were a carnival prize. One conducts oneself with charm, good humor, and self-respect, thereby allowing the gentleman the pleasure of discovering one’s appeal. Should he fail to do so, it is not a signal to try harder, but rather an indication to direct one’s considerable charms toward a more receptive audience.
(Please note that this forum is best used to determine how to get colleges to like you.)
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Thank you, Miss Manners®
Clearly, your answer is better than what I would have said. 
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Great response. I read this as if it were Lady Whistledown.
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I’m sorry if that’s what it seemed like I was saying. That was not my intention. I have seen other threads similar to this on here and needed some feedback.
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My dear, no apology is required. Perhaps a lovely person of your generation will see this and respond more in the vein you were expecting.
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From a male perspective: Just tell him that you like him and see how he reacts/what develops.
(Most guys hate playing games with respect to dating relationships.)
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I would not go this route! YMMV
Why would you not be honest & direct regarding your feelings toward another ?
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We have zero clue if the young man even knows if the OP is alive, if he already may be in or desiring a relationship with someone else, etc. Personally I would not walk up to someone and say “I like you” – it could be hugely embarrassing/demoralizing to the OP but of course YMMV. If the two students are in a class together, I might ask if he would like to study together or something along those lines.
Not to mention the boy is a senior and will be graduating and leaving college at the end of the semester – good chance his mind is already focused on the next step forward in his life.
ETA: I do see you edited/added to the post I replied to. Nonetheless, since debate is not allowed on CC and we both offered our opinions we can leave it to the OP from here.
Dearest Gentle Reader,
For the benefit of the OP, the person who responded immediately after the above quote is not from your generation.
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Ya think?
Based on the forum, Miss Manners 
assumed the smitten young lady and the object of her affection were in high school, so there may still be time.
Oops…then my thought above should be edited to say the young man likely has his thoughts focused on college at this point. Thanks.
But the young lady is asking for ideas on how to redirect those thoughts. There are several movies I could suggest…
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Miss Manners quite agrees. Public declarations of affection are best reserved for novels and graduation speeches, not hallways and lunchrooms. Civility exists precisely to spare us unnecessary embarrassment. A gentle conversation, a shared laugh, or a courteous exchange allows interest to be tested without requiring anyone to risk emotional collapse in front of witnesses. Romance, like etiquette, functions best when it preserves everyone’s dignity.
Although ChoatieMom hopes that we have not sunk so low that anyone would respond in any unkind or embarrassing way to being told that they are liked.
(This is so much fun, but MM curtsies out now to politely make way for more helpful responses. @Animal_enthusiast, we wish you well with the young man. Do report back on the result of your gentle endeavors.)
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Just so it’s clear. Yes said young man knows I exist. We talk like, every other day. I wouldn’t like someone like that if I didn’t know he knew I existed.
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She can do it old school like we did- heave a friend hand him a note “Do you like Animal_enthusiast? Check yes or no” 
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The thing is none of my friends know him.
I guess maybe that would be a good thing, huh?