<p>I want to preface by saying that I REALLY need some advice here. I have the tendency to overreact sometimes, and I just want to see what other people think. My college counselor does not seem very supportive of me as a student. I’m applying to Princeton and Harvard next year, and she doesn’t believe ANYTHING that I tell her. There are a few beefs I have with her. I explained to her how I was a low income, URM, first generation college student who has to help the family out by working (my mom has a chronic illness). I also explained to her how I commute a long distance to travel to a better school. So one day she came up to my softball game… and introduced herself to my mom. She literally said this to her… “So what is your race? Your daughter doesn’t really look Hispanic. I don’t know if I should believe her.” My mom told her that I am, in fact, Hispanic, but the counselor continued going on and on about how I don’t “look” the part. She continued to grill my mom about her education, income, etc. My mom was REALLY upset by it. We decided to let it cool down for a little until we read an email she received today. My mom has chronic rheumatoid arthritis and the medication costs around 2,000 a month. However, my counselor sent my mom an email saying “Is your daughter telling the truth about your illness? You don’t look sick to me.” Both my mom and I are extremely offended and put off by the fact that my counselor, someone who should have my best interest in mind, is lacking empathy and stereotyping. What do you guys think? Sorry if this was a little jumbled up, I’m just really angry about what happened.</p>
<p>Wow your “counselor” is a *****</p>
<p>Yes, I think she is:( Wow though, you should tell someone, that’s not right:(</p>
<p>//Both my mom and I are extremely offended and put off by the fact that my counselor//</p>
<p>Good, you should be.</p>
<p>Tell your school principal!! Tell the superintendent!! That’s totally not fair…</p>
<p>^Ditto, she shouldn’t be a counselor, and she doesn’t look like she’s going to help you.</p>
<p>Your counselor is being rude and ridiculous. Don’t let her get to you.</p>
<p>Go to your principal to see if you could switch to another counselor. There is no reason you should be working with someone who is not on your side. You and your mother have every right to be offended. Your counselor sounds like she is very ignorant. It is none of her business about your race or your income. It should not be included in her GC recommendation letter. Good luck.</p>
<p>That is very insulting. I would go to an administrator (bring your mom into this) and try to switch counselors.</p>
<p>Wow, I would’ve punched that person in the face. Keep a copy of that email, and complain to your superintendent.</p>
<p>Could it be your counselor is trying to push other applicant(s), and she is concerned with your URM, low income and first generation status may push you ahead of other applicant(s). I am an adult, so I tend to be more cynical.</p>
<p>This may be a dumb question:
I thought “hispanic” meant “spanish-speaking”, so how could someone not look like they speak a language?
I bet I have the meaning wrong, I’m going to look it up.</p>
<p>Complain to your principal, or to whoever is higher up and will help you. Your counselor is absolutely ridiculous.</p>
<p>That e-mail was where it really crossed the line and made it serious.</p>
<p>Yeah, as others said, get her fired or something.</p>
<p>This is definitely a fire-able offense. You don’t EVER accuse a family of lying about their conditions especially in that way. Print out that email and take it to your principal/superintendent IMMEDIATELY. This woman should NOT be allowed to keep her job if that is the attitude she has.</p>
<p>What kind of counselor is that? You really should tell someone at your school about this because she is definitely going overboard.</p>
<p>The next time your mom sees her, she should ask the counselor if she is REALLY a counselor. She doesn’t look like one. She doesn’t act like one. You’re not really convinced she IS one. Then you should email the principal and ask the same questions. </p>
<p>Not really–but I agree that she acted unprofessionally and should be reported. And you should get a different counselor, since I don’t see how you could have any confidence in her at this point.</p>
<p>You and your mother need to talk to the school principal. I hope your mom kept the e-mail because you should bring that with you to the meeting. Tell the principal about the GC, and ask for you to be assigned another counselor. The counselor was way over the line and doesn’t deserve to be working in that field.</p>
<p>I also suggest posting on the Parents’ Forum so as to get more input on what you can do to make sure that you get the help you need with your applications.</p>
<p>what a beyotch.</p>
<p>Kill her job.</p>