“wow you’re a holiday party dress savant!!!”
“Why, thank you! Straight men don’t usually pay attention to this type of thing!”
@conmama, have you asked your H his opinion on what to say?
Massmom cracked me up
To riff on the suggestion above: “My husband appreciates the classics.”
Would this be implying that he’s gay? And that would be some kind of insult, would it?
Much as I’d be tempted to make a snarky response, the “it’s my husband’s favorite” is a great ( better still if husband is standing there and says it)
But it’s different tonight. Last time I was wearing it with panties.
This is a business dinner and you aren’t his date, so his comments about your clothing aren’t appropriate. The issue isn’t whether or not the dress is recycled. It’s that a man who’s not your spouse feels he has the right to critique your attire, so I think it’s the behavior you want to address, not the outfit.
You aren’t dressing for his approval so you don’t need an excuse for wearing a dress you love or a witty come back. I’d be inclined to say, “Excuse me?” and make him repeat the comment. If he does and you think he’s trying to be obnoxious I’d ask if he routinely comments on women’s attire at business functions. If he doesn’t get the hint to knock it off, I’d ask what HR thinks of his behavior.
Why, yes. Do you also want to know how much it costs?
I’d love to loan it to you, but it really isn’t your color…
This is the best thread of the day. I have nothing to add, but I am radiating appreciation. @eyemamom , you could work coaching the 2020 candidates for their debates, quick responses to have ready!
I am just amazed that it would be considered a bad thing to wear a piece of clothing again. Favorite dresses should be worn many times!
I re-wear most of my clothing numerous times, unless I hate said item and donate it. Wedding dress and some bridesmaid dresses I have not reworn but most of the rest of my clothing certainly gets reworn.
Since your H and others at the party work with this guy, I’d at least touch base with your spouse on how he’d like the issue handled as it irks you. That should guide some interesting conversation.
"And that would be some kind of insult, would it? "
as if “One of the guys there that DH works closely with made some sort of remark to me letting me know it was a recycler” WASN’T insulting???
the point is that NO Man should be able to deliver ANY kind of remark/ insult that undermines the wife of a colleague- NOT without putting himself at personal peril!
come on CC’ers! it’s time to put an end to the type of thinking that corporate wives are nothing more than arm candy!!!
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I vote for raclut’s response. Also, I’d really like to see this dress.
No one on this thread said or thinks spouses are arm candy but I wouldn’t want my spouse to have an unpleasant relationship with a coworker just because the worker made a dumb remark. Escalation due to social tactlessness and an uncomfortable work environment sound like rather severe consequences.
I have never had a similar situation, not had my H. We routinely “recycle” garments for many events, so I don’t understand the heavy put downs. People who make me uncomfortable or make unkind remarks, I mostly simply avoid.
No @menloparkmom the comment made by @sylvan8798 was made to point out how @Massmomm’s remark is tone deaf. It’s homophobic.
I think Dear Abby is the originator of, “Why do you ask?”
So the OP is bothered by a comment from 12 years ago, which was likely not deliberate or malicious at all. And most of you are suggesting comments that are not witty, but actively rude.