<p>Can I be honest? I think boarding school is okay but going home for the break makes me ask some questions. People assume that my older brother must be jealous that I got to go to an elite boarding school while he stayed home but Jeff is actually very happy in his senior year at the local high school. </p>
<p>My family asked me if Ive met anyone special at school but I havent had much success with girls and to me school dances are as awkward as it gets. My mother complained that the girl Jeff brought to our Thanksgiving dinner looked like she belonged on a street corner and as soon as she left Mom called her a dim bulb bimbo without a shred of class. I think part of the reason my parents were so psyched for me to go away was that I would get away from those girls and meet a nice girl from a good family. </p>
<p>Sometimes I am the one jealous of Jeff, driving around in his car with that Hot girlfriend and going to keg parties on weekends while I am trapped in Candyland. Am I nuts? Please share your thoughts and you can be honest .</p>
<p>My advice is to find a girl with whom you are most comfortable, be that at boarding school or back home. My guess is that you can find her in either place – or some other place entirely. </p>
<p>Just remember, when all is said and done, being compatible with each other will ensure a lasting relationcanoe…</p>
<p>'The grass is always greener on the other side…" for all you know, your brother is wishing he had the opportunity to go away to a good school, or wishing his girlfriend wasn’t so hot…! Did he have a girlfriend when he was your age? The younger sibling is always feeling like the older one has more privileges and more going on but at your age, it’s time to stop comparing yourself with him and do your own thing.</p>
<p>Given time at your school you might even find that there’s something else you would rather do or you might find you prefer girls that aren’t as superficial? Plus there’s always time to cruise around during breaks or summer or even after High School when perhaps you’re actually at a legal drinking age!</p>
<p>Sorry if my post came off as conceited. I was trying to be honest and give people an idea of what my family was like and where I’m really from. My mom feels guilty about raising my brother and me poor and was thrilled when I got a scholarship to boarding school. Obviously, this would mean that most of my classmates would be from families with more money than ours. I now go to school with kids from places like Park Avenue and Greenwich, CT. Is it wrong to be curious about those kids and to try and get to know them better?</p>
<p>I grew up in Greenwich, CT and can assure you that many of those kids at boarding school are feeling exactly the way you are. Everyone is feeling out the school, friends, and the relationships they left behind. It is simply the nature of being in a new place. I do hope you want to meet these kids from CT and NYC, not because they are from areas of perceived wealth, but because you want to get to know new people. I think you will find at the end of the day, that they are kids just like you.
As for your mom’s comment, that is just so wrong. I always tell my kids that I don’t care what they think of me at times, but don’t make the mistake of opening your mouth and saying it aloud. Her comment is so judging; it really makes me cringe. No one has the right to judge others. And honestly, how well does she know her? My guess is she (the gf) was probably nervous. Doesn’t matter, though. It was a mean thing to say. Will you meet great girls at bs? Of course you will. Not necessarily at a dance, but perhaps at some random moment when you aren’t looking. You sound like a great kid with a great opportunity. Make the most of it and don’t look back.
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<p>I’m going to speak in generalities, so of course, there are exceptions.</p>
<p>Regardless of which school you are in, Senior boys rule. Often girls are attracted to boys a year or two older than the girl. As a result, by the time a boy reaches senior year, there are many dating opportunities. Your happy brother is going through this year, and you will too.</p>
<p>In the meantime, keep yourself open to new friendships at your school. Stay involved in different activities so you get to meet your classmates. Many of them will be on financial aid like you are. Not every full-pay student comes from a wealthy family. Their education might be paid by wealthy relatives (often grandparents), educational trust funds, or by upper middle class parents making financial sacrifices for their children. Wealthy students want to make friends also, so keep yourself open to friendships with them. </p>
<p>There will be plenty of time for keg parties later on. However, you might want to observe how foolish and sick drunk people become before you try it for yourself.</p>
<p>Good luck during the remainder of the year!</p>