How do you talk to girls?

Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>So I’ve been thinking over my life, and darn, life sucks. It’s like the kind of bad dream you get where you’re trying to get away from this big scary dragon that’s going to eat you alive and soon you’ll be dead in some acid pool in its stomach, but what’s worse is that you wouldn’t be able to go to stanford, mit, blah blah blah. It’s like that dream, except it’s real, and you pull those fun all-nighters trying to sneak past the dragon in its sleep.</p>

<p>I see all these stupid threads with kids being like “oh no my school day is long how about yours”, “ahh 5 aps junior year boo hoo” and parents going along with things like “oh my daughter can get past that dragon no problem all-nighters 4 days a week x 4 years oh she is a such a genius”. Did you know that “4” sounds like “die” in a whole lot of Asian languages? Something is wrong with this life. It’s like the dragon’s chasing you in a [url=<a href=“http://xkcd.com/537/]circle[/url”>xkcd: Ducklings]circle[/url</a>] and you’re just running around in this forest, running in circles.</p>

<p>This dragon is the reason I am writing this beautiful morning. You see, every day when I run, I see this pretty girl just out there. She’s Asian, pretty of course (clearly from experience we know that all Asian girls are pretty) and within 5% of my height. As the days roll by and the dragon keeps chasing me in these circles, I get tired. I’m starting to think that just maybe getting eaten up by this dragon might not be that bad, as long as I get to be with this nice girl out there. Heck, maybe I can get some sleep in the dragon’s stomach.</p>

<p>But the problem is, all my life, the only thing I’ve known was how to sprint away from this dragon. I’ve never learned anything about pretty girls, much less how to talk to them. Girls are like stuffed animals in those crane machines they have at supermarkets: they’re pretty and cuddly, but you can try all you want, quarter after quarter, and you aren’t ever going to get one. The stuffed animals are so cute and you obsess day and night over one of them, but you’ve been conned too many times by the machine and you don’t want to waste your time and money over a stuffed animal that would never be in your arms. So I guess that’s my dilemma: how do you learn to operate one of these crane machines while running away from a big scary dragon?</p>

<p>Seriously though, how do you talk to girls? Girls are scary little creatures, sapping away your energy as you even think about them. When you try to talk to them, you just have to avoid looking at them because it’s oh so scary looking at her pretty face. Anything interesting leaves your mind because all you can focus on is her, but then the conversation goes boom because you lose eye contact and what you were about to say. So you squirm away and wish that could talk to her just one more time…</p>

<p>Also, I don’t want to see anything about a certain cute little kid’s book on this. It’s rather crap.</p>

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<p>I guess the best way to talk to a girl is just create an excuse to talk to her or just go up and talk to her (But thats probaly a lot easier said then done). LIke I think its kinda nice when a guy purposely makes an excuse to talk to me. THat might work if you are too shy to just go talk to her. Talk to her about random things or shoes. I mean just find something that intrests her. THen she’ll talk back. Or Find sometihng that she disagress on and then defend what you beleiver against her. (But in like a really huge argumentive way, mostly in a playful kinda way).</p>

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<p>Oh! ANd most importantly… </p>

<p>Just be yourself becasue trying to be all cool and such just mkaes you look like you are trying too hard. And might scare her away. (And if she doesn’t like you for who you are then she’s probaly not worth it)</p>

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<p>You open your mouth and say stuff.</p>

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<p>They are normal people. Seriously. Dumb it down, and you sound condescending. Smarten it up, and you look like a fool. Take a normal conversation with your best friend, mom, dad, whatever, and imagine it with that girl instead.
That’s how you should talk to a girl. They aren’t objects to be revered or feared.</p>

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<p>“within 5% of my height” hahaha…if you learn one thing from that, don’t worry about minor details!</p>

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<p>If you’re not quite on good relations with her, just talk to her every now and then and open some things up to topic. Sooner or later, you’ll learn her name…gradually talk to her even more on facebook/real life and you’ll have a decent friendship going on.</p>

<p>I’m a girl and, in my opinion (guess it’s personal preference), the argumentative and engaging conversation always works the best for me. Flattery, despite the good intentions, just scares the crap out of me. If you came up to me and said I was cute, I would think you’re weird. Adjective switch in your favor? Not really…</p>

<p>A lot of the time, though, it’s just opportunity and luck. Using your stuffed bear analogy, you ALWAYS look for the one with its arm extended or its head out of the crowd. A lot of the time, you see machines with bears all packed down but every now and then you see one bear that seems to be reachable. You go ahead and try and, with luck and persistence, you’ll find out whether that bear is really attainable or not.</p>

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<p>LMAO @ THE OP. That reminds me of a kid in my HS who approached my friend and asked “how do you get girls?”</p>

<p>And I’m still lollin btw.</p>

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<p>i like your post, you’re a good writer :slight_smile: if a girl discovers how good your powers of expression are (partway through a relationship) it’ll be a reason for her to like/admire you.</p>

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<p>Hanging out with a group of your friends and girls, then slowly get smaller. Best way, believe me.</p>

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<p>You could, um, just talk to her. Girls really aren’t that scary (LOL, coming from a girl - but really.)</p>

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<p>the best thing is to be friendly with girls on a regular basis. if you ask a complete stranger to hang out with you after school, she will most likely say no. but if you ask the girl that you say hello to everyday, and help with homework sometimes, and ate lunch with a week ago, she will be more likely to say yes. So the first step is to be friendly to girls, THEN you can think about dating/relationships. baby steps, my friend.</p>

<p>and the first step with the girl you see on your run should be to get in the habit of waving and saying “hello there” or “good morning” every single time you pass her. then later you might pass by and say “beautiful day, right?”…keep this up and she’ll become familiar with you. and as i said earlier, she will be more likely to go out with someone familiar.</p>

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<p>wow… i’m a girl and this one guy traded seats with the person that sat behind me so now he sits behind me and just monday he started taping my shoulder and ofcourse i looked back and i asked him ‘did you tap my shoulder?’ and he’s like no and after a few times he tapped my shoulder (each time i looked back) i asked the girl that sat beside him and she’s like yea and he still kept on tapping my shoulder so i asked him again and he leaned forward to be more by me and said ‘huh’ and i said ‘did you tap my shoulder?’ and by then my homeroom teacher called on me for my schedule so i left. </p>

<p>Later that day i was going to through the same hallway as him and he stepped out of the library at the same time and i said ‘hi’. i had to go outside so i pushed through the crowds and he tried to catch up but i was fast…</p>

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<p>Within 5% of your height?</p>

<p>Say what’s her waist-to-hip-ratio? Around 0.7? That’s what you really ought to look for in a woman. :)</p>

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<p>“Girls are scary little creatures, sapping away your energy as you even think about them”</p>

<p>hey! we’re not scary…we like to test you, to see what you’re made of…come to think of it…if a guy annoys me b/c he likes me but i don’t like him back, i do try to intimidate him…</p>

<p>anyway… just walk up to her and say hi and talk…if she’s creeped out, then…too bad, i guess.</p>

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<p>“Girls are scary little creatures, sapping away your energy as you even think about them. When you try to talk to them, you just have to avoid looking at them because it’s oh so scary looking at her pretty face. Anything interesting leaves your mind because all you can focus on is her, but then the conversation goes boom because you lose eye contact and what you were about to say. So you squirm away and wish that could talk to her just one more time…”</p>

<p>Seriously, you’re a good poet. I feel your pain, brotha.</p>

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<p>just give up, you’ll save us all some time</p>

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<p>Why are there so many threads about this stuff on CC? </p>

<p>40 year old virgin actually has some good advice hidden in it. 1. Dont act like the main wanker. 2. The key is Seth Rogen, who is fat and hairy, but has no problem talking to women and getting laid because of the fact that he is charismatic and always has interesting things to say. Which is ultimately the answer to all of these pathetic threads - your post conveys you as a very… downbeat, awkward type of person with no self esteem, and therefore you’ll never successfully talk to girls. You’re not just putting … on a pedestal, your lowering yourself under the girl, so even if you were to converse with her, you would start off unattractively. 40 year old virgin actually has some realism. Learn from it.</p>

<p>This is why no one will ever really be able to tell you how to get girls, because the people who get girls do it naturally without trying or actively applying some solution, they just follow their gut, their basic human male mental instinct that tells them how to act, and they do it confidently and nonboringly, and that just sends your chances with girls soaring. Just be an interesting, energetic, masculine leader-type and people will flock around you.</p>

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<p>With sign language. </p>

<p>It’s an interesting topic starter.</p>

<p>(I’m not really deaf.)</p>

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<p>Well, seeing as how we’re a different species and everything, you have to use specific mating calls when talking to girls. Like the English language, for starters.</p>

<p>But for real, just talk to her. Flirt, definitely, but don’t treat her like a separate species. This is flirting: constant eye contact (not like a freaky stare-down or anything, just make sure you’re looking at her), laughing at her jokes, not rushing to fill every silence, if you’re walking together stay close and brush up a bit “on accident,” etc. If she likes you, she’ll laugh back, twirl with her hair, look at you quickly then look away, and not immediately jump away when you brush against her. Not that difficult, seriously, once you’re on a roll.</p>