<p>I have a weird problem. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom and brother. My dad lives in another city so I don’t get to see him. How much time should I make to spend time with him? Almost every weekend he wants to see a movie with me or go somewhere. Is this reasonable? I just said no today and he sounded really mad. I like him being in my life but I feel like he wants to “hang out” with me to much. I am 18 years old. </p>
<p>What should I do?</p>
<p>Do whatever you want to do. You’re an adult. Grow up and make choices.</p>
<p>All adults need help sometimes, jesus, I don’t see the need to be so brash.</p>
<p>And honestly, I think that that’s very reasonable of him. That’s not too much time he’s asking for. But it’s not like you’re being forced to hang out with him. You should give him a reason for not wanting to be with him though, just because that’s the polite thing to do and might help him deal.</p>
<p>In return for him asking for so little time, I think you should try to understand his frustration.</p>
<p>Hmm…</p>
<p>If I were in your shoes, I’d spend an hour or two every weekend. Just because once you’re off to college, the time you’ll see him will be limited. Then after college, grad school or work, the beginning of your adult life. Then you’ll even be able to see him less and less.</p>
<p>I want to attend college very far away from my parents (Japan or S. Korea). And a ticket each way is usually $1,000+. So to even come home and visit my family, then return to Asia would be at least $2,000 roundtrip. Overtime, I’ll see them less, and less, and eventually it’d be every few years. So yeah, I’m spending as much time as possible with my family and friends right now.</p>