<p>Ok lets call the x the girl and y the boy.</p>
<p>The x and y go to a Magnet school and both perform well academically and they also like each other. Now y is in a very stressful position in his life and would like to reduce complications in his life and focus mainly of studies for now.</p>
<p>How do I explain this to her without sounding like an *** or making her feel bad ? She stopped going out with this other guy (who happens to be one of the nicest people ever) after she met me and she provides me with a LOT of moral support. Like cheering me up when I’m down, supporting everyone of my decisions etc etc</p>
<p>Tell her a slightly modified version of what you just told us.</p>
<p>-you’re extremely busy and stressed out right now
-you appreciate all the support she has given you
-as a student, your priorities are your studies, and you don’t want to commit to a relationship with her right now because you want to be able to give her 100%, and you’ve just got too much on your plate right now to give her the time and effort she really deserves (aka don’t refer to her as a complication :/)</p>
<p>Thanks I’ll tell her this.</p>
<p>Do NOT say she is a complication, obstacle, etc…BAD! She’ll get angry and tune you out after hearing that. </p>
<p>Definitely say something about how you want to give your relationship the best chance and time and support, and don’t want to mess it up while you’re stressed/unhappy. Tell her you want to be the best boyfriend for her, and that you know you couldn’t do it right now. </p>
<p>She’ll probably respect that, but it sounds like you might have led her on a little bit if she broke up with her boyfriend for you. If that’s right, maybe tell her a timeframe when you can go out (like, after AP season, Finals, etc), but don’t expect her to wait around. Good luck!</p>
<p>toughie… I like what Anon<em>Person</em>1 said about telling her that you want to be the best boyfriend to her and the only way you can do that is if you get your studies/stressful period out of the way. Not sure how she’ll react, but be prepared if she decides to tune you out and walk away…</p>
<p>Just say “I am too much work on my hands to continue with this relationship… We can get together after college and get married”</p>
<p>Thanks for all your help.</p>
<p>LOL paulfoerster!</p>
<p>How can we help? No one knows you or your girl.
Sorry man, it’s your job to figure out these details :)</p>
<p>Speaking from a girl’s perspective, if she really likes you then she will understand. Tell her pointblank what is going on, girls hate it when guys are roundabout. </p>
<p>Oh and flowers and chocolate will help your case. (Or if she’s allergic to chocolate like me, then a big teddy bear will do just fine.)</p>
<p>Simple:Stop liking the girl and tell her to get her head outta her ass ;)</p>
<p>“Baby, it’s not you; it’s me! Well wait a second, it is you actually.”</p>
<p>Heh, sorry, couldn’t resist.</p>
<p>boredteenager, do you ever help her, even as a friend, this “relationship” sounds very one sided, with you “stressed” and kind of needy</p>
<p>and if she supports EVERY ONE of your decisions, and broke up with a nice guy for you, someone who needs constant reassurance, this sounds like a not to health relationship to be honest</p>
<p>take a good luck at yourself, you may not be very good for this girl, who seems to tell you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear</p>
<p>so, she dumps a guy for you, you use her to buck your self up and then want to reject her?</p>
<p>ps- I don’t think you really like her, but like how she makes you feel, because you don’t seem to care about her feelings too much, you are concerned about looking bad, not how she feels</p>
<p>citygirlsmom, It’s in no way one-sided. I support her as well, just didn’t include it in the original post. When I said every one, I meant important stuff like I dunno career choices, reassuring me about them etc. It’s really hard to know what to do in life when everyone of your teachers, friends and parents have different opinions.</p>
<p>It’s because I care about her I want to find the “right” way.</p>
<p>please…everyone know wooman should not study because teh wooman NOT equal to man!! They have brain size of squirrel! NICE!!!</p>
<p>(completely harmless borat joke for the ones who took offense…)</p>