Punishing her for an initial low grade, being so annoyed because you think her SAT score is too low, is NOT “and i do have unconditional love and support.”
The answer to the original question is you love her, your show you’re proud, you quit trying to justify pounding on her for some very common sophomore issues. Let her grow.
And as much as anyone out there, you need my boring advice to learn what it really takes to get into a tippy top college. It is not all about stats. It’snot all about being “the best.”