Getting a haircut, which most people with hair do at intervals, and completely shaving one’s head are not equivalents. The OP’s spouse didn’t merely cut his hair, he removed every last one. I suspect you know that there is a significant difference between wifey getting a trim and wifey shaving her head. The same is true for her DH.
Additionally, the OP didn’t say she expected him “to ask” her, did she?
I might draw the line if he shaved his eyebrows, too…
Apparently she wanted input. Presumably to tell him not to.
She can have fun controlling every bit of someone’s life, I guess? Buzz cuts are a common style for guys.
^^^^You are assuming. She may have wanted input. She may have wanted him to ask permission. She may have simply wanted a warning, you know, a “heads up”. 
We don’t know because she hasn’t said. You are also making the leap that she wants to “have fun controlling every bit of someone’s life.” How do you know so much about a total stranger’s thinking from one vague internet post?
Nrdsb- how about if he had the barber use the #1 blade and did not go completely bald? Would he still need persmission?
I dont imagine he shaved his head for the same reason the trend began for some women to remove every hair on their bottom end.
But it is interesting. Maybe someone suggested he would look like Kelly Slater if he did.
The last time I got my hair cut I chopped off about six inches. I think dh likes it longer, but he kindly did not say anything. He tells me every single time he’s off to get his hair cut and I always tell him it looks fine to me as is. I’d hate it if he shaved his head though because his head is just not a great shape. I mentioned that I would love to stop dyeing my hair and he was appalled at the idea, so I guess I won’t go gray yet!
I guess I’d just ask him as casually as I could manage why he did it.
I don’t know if he in fact “needed permission” in the first place? How would I? How would you?
To the OP…you don’t know what to say? How about nothing…or simply saying “that is a very different look that you have had in the past”. End of discussion.
Lol, GMTspouse should have taken a job in the diplomatic corps-- always tells me I look good.
Oh come ON. Nothing? If my DH shaved his head for the first time, out of the blue with no heads up, no advance notice whatsoever, he’d be disappointed beyond belief if I said nothing. Talk about a major letdown!
My dh mentioned to me a while ago that he was thinking of shaving his head. I was horrified as I like his hair. He didn’t care until our daughter expressed her horror. He never did it. By the way, it isn’t a controlling thing as he will do as he pleases. I don’t think he would be happy if I shaved my head either. I can’t run my fingers through his hair if it is gone!
Some guys decide to shave their heads when they start to notice thinning/balding. Perhaps it was a preemtive strike.
@doschicos, If I ever have to have chemo which will cause total hair loss, I will do that. I’d rather get it all done at once rather than have hair everywhere for a period of time.
I don’t know, I understand the idea of not making drastic changes if you know your spouse doesn’t like it a certain way. I get my hair highlighted, but I wouldn’t go platinum blonde - I don’t think my spouse would like it. I know he doesn’t like really short hair cuts on me, and so I would think long and hard before I got a really short hair cut. Kind of for the same reason we both work out and try to keep our bodies in reasonably good physical shape to stay attractive to one another. I don’t think either of us would like it much if the other one gained 100 pounds (leaving aside medical issues). Or got a tattoo. Or made some other major body / appearance adjustment. It’s not a function of “permission” per se, it’s a function of caring what the other person thinks. Likewise, I don’t need my husband’s “permission” if I were to buy a new bedspread, but it’s his bed too so I would consult him.
This thread is a head shaker to me. His hair, his choice. And gosh, it grows back. It’s not like he got a facial tattoo.
The OP may warm up to it after a while… would be interested to hear what she thinks after a couple of weeks or a month. Change is hard.
I’m thinking LL Cool J, Jason Statham, vin diesel etc. Maybe you can make this work for you? You can have that fantasy affair …with the hubby.
If my husband shaved his head I would be speechless for a second… I swear his mother laid him on his back for two years straight…not a pretty look. But I would have to say something…the first thing that comes to mind is “Have you lost your mind”? and “what we’re you thinking”? But done is done and you roll with it. I guess I’d ask him if he likes it that way. I would also offer up " Not my favorite look on you".
Buy him a wig?
Good luck, OP. I think it would have been nice if he asked…but he didn’t. Maybe he hates it too?
Last year, a co-worker shaved his head. Everyone in the office was stunned and wondered about the reason. Then I found out.
I watched him give a speech in Toastmasters about his new look. He said when he came home w shaved head, his wife & kids were stunned. He said all his life he held back doing things because of fear of failure. Shaving his head was an act of courage. It felt good to be bold.
What I took away from the speech was that it was a mid-life-crisis release of steam. He let the hair grow back.
Is this even for real? I would never think twice about telling my partner before changing my hair. Every two years or so, I cut off my very long hair to donate to charity so I do have some pretty drastic changes.
I’d probably be caught off guard if he shaved off his hair (and I like longer, shaggy hair) but it is what it is. It’s just hair. Hair grows back.