Someone said that in a couple of months, the wife will be used to the new cut. Well…hair grows about a half inch a month. So in a couple of months, this guy will have a full head of hair again.
I would want my guy to talk to me about shaving his head or dyeing his hair. I would do the same, if it was something dramatic.
I agree with @nottelling that it’s comparable to a woman getting a really short cut. If I was thinking about cutting off a lot of hair, as in mulling it over, I’d probably mention it just because it was on my mind. But if I just decided to do it one day on the spur of the moment it wouldn’t occur to me to let him know in advance.
I really am not a vain person (see the makeup thread - I wear none!) but while of course I first and foremost love my H for who he is INSIDE, it doesn’t mean that I dont’ care what he looks like on the outside. Drastic changes that are within one’s control, IMO - would be nice to discuss or “warn” or whatever the other half of the couple.
I just asked my Dh whether he would shave his head without discussing it with me. He said no. He’d still do what he wanted to do unless I was just adamant, but he thought that a shaved head is a big enough change to merit a conversation.
Hi! I’m the “owner” of this thread.
I’m actually surprised by how many people replied. 6 pages – wasn’t expecting that! But thanks.
Anyway, he says it was a bet with his friend that he lost, and the loser had to shave his head. He says he regrets this. He puts on a hat in the house to make me feel somewhat better. There’s already stubby hair growth actually.
I’ve forgiven, but he still looks 10 years older nonetheless.
Oh well. Bet he will never make that bet again!
Hair grows. In six weeks, he will be fine. And baseball season spring training starts soon enough. Get him a cap from his favorite team.
OP, after the shock wore off … any chance you’ll grow to love it?
@Youdon’tsay
Most likely not. I highly doubt that.
PG, my point was that if a spouse would accept normal, PERMANENT changes in an aging partner, why on earth would it be a huge deal for something that is TEMPORARY? It will grow back! And pretty quickly, unless he’s a member of an 80’s hair band.
OP, I was pretty sure it was something innocuous. I hope you will not make him wear a hat until it grows in and that if he does actually lose it in the future, it won’t bother you TOO much. Life is too short.
As I suspected… A lost bet. 
Could have been worse… A local law professor lost a bet to his NE buddies - he had to wear a Patriot costume around Seattle for a day when his team lost the Superbowl. Talk about being ridiculed and teased!
What’s life without a few surprises??
I guess I’m really tired and haven’t absorbed what I’m reading. Could you reference the post numbers of the “number of people” who insisted their spouse “get permission” to make drastic changes? Who on this thread has said they demand their spouse “get permission” to do anything whatsoever?
Or OP could just do what the teacher in this story did. I’d wait until he’s asleep though. http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/fashion/teacher-permanent-sharpie-marker-student-violating-school-code-hair-designs-article-1.964800
Soooooo, did you find out what bet he lost?!?..
Well, now I can see why he didn’t say anything. To make such a bet, and then losing the bet and hair! Glad to hear the reason was so innocuous.
I’ve had waist-length hair and cut it up to chin-length several times before and after we got married. Sometimes the cuts were on a whim and sometimes I talked about the possibility of cutting my hair with my husband before the cut. What struck me about my husband was he did NOT freak out (and quite a few people did - both friends and distant acquaintances, male and female) Instead, he complimented me on my hair cut. That’s one reason he’s a keeper.
As everyone says, it grows back.(it takes me about two years to go from chin to waist) It’s not a huge thing unless you make it a huge thing.
"PG, my point was that if a spouse would accept normal, PERMANENT changes in an aging partner, why on earth would it be a huge deal for something that is TEMPORARY? It will grow back! "
Permanent changes associated with the ravages of time (thinning or gray hair, scars from accidents or surgery, etc) aren’t for the spouse to “accept or not accept” - they are what they are.
But don’t tell me that your spouses are all completely indifferent to whatever physical changes you might make to yourselves. Dye your hair platinum blonde when you’re dark-haired, shave your head, get a sleeve of tattoos, get breast implants out to here, wear Tammy Faye Bakker makeup everywhere, wear stilettos to the grocery store, go to a tanning salon and turn bright orange, gain 100 pounds not due to a medical issue, dress goth? I don’t want my spouse being so oblivious to my appearance, frankly. I certainly intend on aging (doing a good job already!) but see no reason I shouldn’t look like a gracefully aging version of my younger self, not a completely different creature.
Because of course this will be read the wrong way, I’m talking about drastic changes. Someone will of course interpret this to suggest I’m saying your hair color and style must remain exactly the same color as it was at 22, and that you need notarized approval to change the color of your nail polish or get a different style of eyeglass frames.
Waiting with madison85 to hear what the bet was…
“I’ve been sick as a dog all week and my H has done it all-worked, taken D to school and all her activities, grocery shopped, cooked, AND taken care of me. I look like I got hit by a truck, and he doesn’t care.”
What does this have to do with anything? No one is saying that they expect their spouse to look picture perfect and fresh as a daisy if they are sick. Of course that’s what a spouse would do. It has nothing to do with making drastic physical appearance changes.
Hope you feel better, btw.
I got my hair cut and styled yesterday. Cost a lot. Its not drastic, but always looks better than what I can do with it. DH didn’t notice, which commonly happens.