In the mean time you can call him Jean-Luc just for fun ;
You could also suggest (if necessary) that next time he makes a bet they do it over back waxing instead of head shaving
Or call him Kojak and buy him a bag of Tootsie Pops.
Add me to the list of wanting to know about the bet! Totally get his initial attitude.
LOL. I’m surprised no one has said that already.
Maybe that explains all those 50 year old women walking around with 80s bangs
“Maybe that explains all those 50 year old women walking around with 80s bangs”
Hey! The bangs serve a vital function here!!! Without the bangs, my big forehead would make me look like Lenin or his young nephew, Jim Cramer. 
Hey, I still see mullets from time to time.
@saintfan My W came home with bangs a few days ago. First time in 20 years. She looks fantastic!!!
OP, consider buying your H a knit cap. It’s amazing how much colder it is with no hair.
@NJres, for some reason that reminds me of that Seinfeld episode.
Elaine is attempting to set her friend up with George Constanza.
Friend:“Oh my God, he’s BALD?!”
Elaine: “He’s NOT BALD. He’s…balding.”
I’m not knocking bangs. Just the ones that can be called (and you’ll know from whence I speak @BunsenBurner) “Federal Way bangs”
saintfan-lol! D goes to school in Federal Way…I’m familiar with the look, I believe.
PG-by listing full sleeve tattoos and breast implants (pretty much permanent) in with something as easily changed as a clothing item like stilettos, or a “drastic” haircut, which will grow out, you’re still mixing examples. There is no similarity to a permanent change to something easily undone. That you believe they are on an equal footing shows that outward appearances are very, very important to you. Not a dig-it is what it is.
My being sick has everything to do with my H’s feelings about my appearance all the time and not just when I’m looking my best. See-I’m overweight, my hair is thinning, I’m mostly gray, and have wrinkles I didn’t used to have. I can’t keep my hair long, which he’d prefer, because all that does is expose my balding top. And yet, he still tells me that I am a beautiful woman, the love of his life. I could come home in spiked heels and a shaved head and he’d say the same thing. To me, THAT tells me all I need to know. I’d be very sad if I thought I needed to check with him about how I needed to look for him to feel the way he does.
Really. He lost a bet?
That’s funny, my H and I call head wrecks “lab” cuts. L (lost) A B(bet). As in, sometimes it’s the only rational explanation.
The losing a bet thing is hilarious. He’s probably embarrassed.
I agree with Pizzagirl and I don’t think it has anything to do with how one feels about one’s partner. First of all, it’s a bizarre act without the context of knowing he lost a bet. That, alone, would be concerning to me. I would wonder if he’d lost his mind.
Maybe breast implants and tattoos aren’t a good comparison, but how about lingerie or something other that is private and intimate to the couple? I am attracted to/turned on by _____ and my spouse knows it and then takes it away without telling me. That’s concerning. It is pleasing to me to keep myself attractive for my husband in private ways that he appreciates. It is a lovely connection when the couple, particularly after 30 years together, both prioritize each other in that way. But every marriage is different and has different priorities and different peaks and valleys. My husband would still love me just as much if I gained weight or stopped taking care of myself, but I won’t do that and I hope he won’t do that, either. I have been completely gray since I was 26 and refused to accept that, so we have played a game together with my hair color. we have made it fun for both of us over the years and people often wonder why I change my haircolor so often. Because it’s a game my husband and I have played for decades about the different women in his life which are all me. I didn’t want to be gray at 26, and I don’t want to be gray now in my late 40s.
I am also impressed by the fact that so many posters are confident in the hair growing back of an older man. It’s not the case for every one!
@zoosermom, totally OT, but has Miss Pea become a rival to Uno for your heart? You were the first thing I thought of when I saw the results. 
I think the extent to which each individual poster finds the husband’s actions objectionable depends on what is customary in their own marriage. Married couples make decisions differently about a LOT of things and that tends to flow over into how a couple might approach changes to personal appearance.
For the greater part of my marriage my DH travelled extensively, if he was home 10 to 12 days a month that was a good month. And he was usually abroad so I learned to depend on myself. Decisions about the children, the new house and just about everything else had to made by me. So if the outside needed landscaping, I had it done. If I needed a new car, I bought one. New roof or HVAC system over the years? That was mine to organize and oversee as well. Save surgery, the thought of asking DH about a change to my personal appearance just would not enter my mind. We never formed that “habit.”
Likewise being on his own so much DH is quite independent. He buys his own clothing without input from me and never discusses haircuts or any other issue of that nature with me beforehand. If he made a bet where the loser had to shave his head, I don’t think that is something he would have cleared with me. A few years back he trekked through the Canadian wilderness with 6 buddies for 2 weeks doing god knows what, and he didn’t “ask” if he could go. He just ran the proposed dates by me and came back with some unbelievable pics to share with me and the kids.
I think we are all creatures of habit. If a spouse doesn’t do what they “normally” would do, then feathers get ruffled. So probably in OP’s marriage she is used to her H clearing things like that with her first. So she was upset he did not. I can understand that.
Lol, saintfan! I was kidding.
My flat bangs have not changed much since the 80s, but because I was not fashionable back then, I guess they are ok now.
“My being sick has everything to do with my H’s feelings about my appearance all the time and not just when I’m looking my best. See-I’m overweight, my hair is thinning, I’m mostly gray, and have wrinkles I didn’t used to have. I can’t keep my hair long, which he’d prefer, because all that does is expose my balding top. And yet, he still tells me that I am a beautiful woman, the love of his life. I could come home in spiked heels and a shaved head and he’d say the same thing. To me, THAT tells me all I need to know. * I’d be very sad if I thought I needed to check with him about how I needed to look for him to feel the way he does.” *
We’re not talking about *feelings, *though. We’re talking about preferences. No one is saying that their husband’s love is contingent upon maintaining a certain look (much less the look we all had at age 22, which - hey, that’s simply unachievable!).
I know my H doesn’t like very short cuts on me (and to be honest, I don’t like them either on me, but that’s neither here nor there). I’ve had them twice in my life and he’s seen it. He still loved ME just as much, but I know he didn’t like my hair as much. That’s ok. It’s ok to prefer certain aspects of your spouse’s appearance a certain way. There’s reasonable and then there’s unreasonable. It’s reasonable to prefer your spouse to maintain a relatively normal/ healthy weight, with the inevitable allowances of age and some middle age spread. It’s not reasonable to insist your spouse fit into the bikini she did or have the six-pack he did when he was 22.
You can’t help having thinning hair, gray hair, or wrinkles. Those are natural ravages of time. Your spouse would be a jerk if he didn’t accept some inevitable changes.
Oh bless you for asking! My own doggie passed away three weeks ago, so Miss Pea really perked me up. She’s awesome and I screamed like a banshee when she won. However, Uno is still the man of my dreams, and even their mutual owner said that Uno is such an epic doggie that he could have come out of retirement and won on the spot!
But seriously, OP, what was the bet?! You can’t leave us hanging like this
@zoosermom I am so, so sorry. Was this the one that had previously been ill? Best wishes to you and family.