<p>pmvd, I’m not stupid! I know exactly what Asperger’s Syndrome is and have been a part of someone’s life who has Asperger’s. It is a spectrum disorder and manifests itself in very similar, but slightly different ways from one aspie to another. Along with it, however, are a variety of other conditions both psychological and physical that sometimes co-exist with the disorder. Although aspies are similar in many ways, they can be different in many other ways. Don’t assume that I don’t know anything about the disorder. My best friend’s son has it. I’ve been involved with the family since the boy was 2 years old (he’s now 18). Been a part of his life. I’ve worked with many of these kids in the elementary school setting. </p>
<p>This OP is now an adult. I never said that her problems are all in her head. Never! I did ask the possibility that she may be misinterpreting the actions of others. Often time, what aspies believe to be true are really misinterpretations of social cues and misinterpretations of things said. I did ask the question–“Is there a possibility that the OP is hearing voices.” It was a probative question-one that perhaps the OP has been asked before by a mental health profession. It was a question–not a diagnosis. I never mentioned anything about hallucinations.</p>
<p>Your analogy with a woman who has been raped is ridiculous. No one is denying that the OP feels emotional turmoil. What I did suggest is that she continue with counseling–to search for a therapist with whom she feels most comfortable. A good course of action would be to ask for a referral to someone with experience working with Aspie patients. </p>
<p>Don’t dismiss the fact that some aspie’s do indeed have major psychological disorders–not all, not most, but some do. If you disagree with my suggestion that the OP get professional psychological help so she can better understand what is going on with her thought process, you have every right to do so. There are professionals who can help her to sort out her feelings and thoughts. It is my hope that she finds the treatment/therapy/counseling that works best for her. </p>
<p>OP, I wish you well. My advice for her to seek professional help can be either taken or dismissed. It’s her option. She has been diagnosed with Asperger’s but that doesn’t mean that psychological disorders aren’t playing an additional role here.</p>
<p>^ I am mandated to see a therapist by the school for the rest of the semester. I didn’t see him on winter intersession because I did not take an intersession class. He is okay. I shouldn’t expect much out of a campus therapist, especially as I’m not paying for it, but everyone’s school tuition is.
That’s life. Whatever happens, happens. I’m not as upset as I was yesterday.</p>
<p>^ It amuses me that you don’t know what a mental condition is. Do you doubt the existence of depression and OCD too? Asperger’s isn’t something this kid made up, it’s basically pysch speak for what we call “socially ■■■■■■■■” - it’s a form of Autism. But I guess you would say Autism is a mental problem some loser made up to pretend he wasn’t stupid.</p>
<p>How do you know if I’m making it up, Silvestris? Are you a doctor? Do you have any credentials at all? No? Then congratulations you just made yourself look like a philistine. I could even scan documents for everyone and give out phone numbers from actual professionals, which you are not, but you can revel in your ignorance for all I care. Good luck arguing such things with real PhD’s, who all almost universally agree that this is not made up because someone wants attention. Everyone really says that I’m secretive and don’t reveal enough about myself in real life, so if you’re trying to say that I got the diagnosis because of attention whoring or being a hypochondriac, you fail. </p>
<p>Weren’t you the one who lied about your stats at one point for “reference” then whined about going to Urbana-Champaign because you thought it wasn’t prestigious enough? Then you say I’m the one who’s complaining about frivolous problems and need to get a life? ROFL</p>
<p>Oh, and if you’ve read through the supposedly hundreds of posts I made this week, you would know that I am trying to get a life. Hell, read post #11 of this thread. It’s easier said than done for a social ■■■■■■ to “get a life” and if you think I will be cured by getting a life, you need to take a basic class on abnormal psychology or even read a damn textbook on one.</p>
<p>You seriously think that everyone has my problems? To my extent? LOOOOOOLLLLL Idiot! You’re so sheltered.
Where the hell are these people? Oh yeah, you can’t tell me 'cause they’re not saying anything in real life.</p>
<p>I don’t understand why people don’t think my emotions are normal or feel like I’m overreacting. I’m not trying to sound rude, but did all of you grow up in sheltered wealthy communities? I know I did not grow up in the ghetto, but some of your are acting as if I have crazy plans.</p>
<p>In my elementary school there were violent, rude kids lumped with the kids with mental problems. Those kids would beat up people for even looking at them the wrong way.</p>
<p>In my mainstream middle school, there were kids who made threats just because you stood up to them. They seriously planned to jump people after school for all sorts of stupid crap.</p>
<p>Even today I have to hear the thug across the street get into actual fist fights late at night. The neighbors call the police, but they always find a way to dodge the police.</p>
<p>Parents would hit their kids for every stupid thing they did. I don’t care about the corporal punishment debate because I don’t want kids, but that was reality.</p>
<p>This kind of stuff is normal for the environment I grew up in. So, I honestly don’t get some of the reactions here.</p>
<p>So what do you want me to do? Let myself be the village ■■■■■■? One has to stand up to people somehow. I would not let them get to me, but reputation does matter.
Teach me how to be normal and I’ll shut up and go away even though it’s not that hard to block people or put them on ignore.
You can’t teach me normalcy? Too bad. At least one can learn things from CC and I’m making an effort to change. It’s not like I’m spending hours on WoW or some stupid computer game. As for immaturity, Miss Silvestris shouldn’t be talking. She sounds like an ignorant teenager who reads too much Encyclopedia Dramatica.</p>
<p>OH MY GOD you’re so annoying. now i can understand why no one likes you at your school. i agree with miss silvestris, you’re just an attention whore. you are the village ■■■■■■ in real life and on college confidential.</p>
<p>What are you talking about? A lot of people like me at school, including professors. Some people even gave me their phone numbers to hang out sometime. If someone doesn’t like me at school, I don’t know about it. I don’t care about my reputation on CC, it’s just the Internet.</p>
<p>As for being the village ■■■■■■, I’m talking about at a job or anywhere where I have to see people for more than three hours a week. Some of my neighbors find me strange :/</p>
<p>All I’m asking is how to look less ■■■■■■■■. As for being an attention whore, I don’t get it. What’s so satisfying about attention over the Internet?</p>
<p>Oh if you really want me to go away, stop replying. You’re just making things harder for yourself.</p>
<p>Yeah you definitely suck TA3021, not because of your mental handicaps but your countless posts pretty much saying “I’m ■■■■■■■■ but I hate it when people treat me like I’m ■■■■■■■■ even though I say I’m ■■■■■■■■ and see my self as ■■■■■■■■.”</p>
<p>Ok now you’re changing your stance…in your first post you were like OMG EVERYONE HATES ME BECAUSE IM WEIRD I WANNA KILL THEM ARGHHHHH!!! and now you seem to have calmed down somewhat </p>
<p>You’re autistic, and you don’t pick up on social cues like most people. My Asperger’s aquaintance has friends, but she’s kind of the same way - she’ll act strange or say weird things without realizing it. In other words, you act socially ■■■■■■■■ without even knowing it, so I don’t know how we can help you…do yourself a favor and don’t twitch a lot or laugh convulsively at little things most people would barely smile at.</p>
<p>Which one am I? Your quote has summarized me with how life is confusing me. Just because someone is actually a certain way does not mean that people have to be rude about it. If someone is ugly and thinks they’re ugly, that doesn’t give people a right to be mean. Everyone can cry attention whore as much as they want, but no one is going to make me feel that way. </p>
<p>You’re right Molly, I have calmed down. I do come of as someone who seems more naive or innocent than I really am. I mean, I have a right to be upset and if people don’t want to see it they can leave. Thanks, I guess I’ll try not to do those things if I catch myself doing them.</p>
<p>Um, no. I just have a really good memory, which is one of the perks of my mental problem. I didn’t dig through anything.</p>
<p>I didn’t say that everyone hated me. All I’m trying to do is get information and help. Deal with me, I’m not leaving anytime soon. :)</p>
<p>I’m not going to allow you to make me feel like a loser. I will catch up and have achievements worth bragging about as well. Watch me, I’ll become a different person next year with both academic achievements and a social life you’ll envy and you’ll have to suck on that lol.</p>
<p>TA, it’s great that you think that you need to talk your issue over, but you really cannot expect everyone to empathise with your condition. </p>
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<p>If you are able to acknowledge that your condition is a complex one, do you sincerely think that talking it over with CCers would help significantly? There’s only so much that a stranger can do for you, and over the Internet at that. What you really need is a community that can truly empathise with you, perhaps some forum for people with AS or something like that. If you need information on how to be normal, I don’t think this is the best place to get it.</p>
<p>Just don’t get riled when people accuse you of being an attention whore. Seeing things from other people’s perspective will help you to moderate your responses, and also your actions. Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes might just be the best way to help you achieve normalcy.</p>
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