This is so true and worth repeating. I hope you can hear it. Hugs to you…
Oh, I have been this parent!! Just remember that you have known all along, and they are just finding out. They will be scared, mostly. And yes, angry a little, but mostly scared for you. Worried that they didn’t notice. But telling them is a million billion times better than lying.
So be a good listener. Be honest. Make a plan together. Don’t make promises – to them, or yourself. Just take one day at a time, and that will be enough.
Be kind to yourself. I work with college students, and probation is so, so common. You haven’t done something morally awful, you’ve just failed at something on the first try. That’s nothing to be ashamed of, honest. Hold your head up, practice saying “I’ve hit some trouble but that’s okay”.
My husband is a successful man in his field. So is my son. And both of them had to do this. OP, please come back and let us know how you are, because we’re on your side!
Worrying about the shot (immunization) is worse than actually getting the shot. This is much the same!
Great advice and truth above. No matter their initial reaction you are going to feel better having it out in the open and DEALING with it - actually you have already started dealing with a plan so that was an important and mature step for you to take.
Tell them and then come back here and let us know how you feel. Take a deep breath!
Update:
So I took some time to prepare to tell them. I was scared, and cried. When I told them the situation they were very much upset about the lies and the failing. My father was the most upset. And they stayed upset for about 2 weeks. But they helped me to get a job and to start over, and I’m glad that I told them and let it out of my head. I talked to a counselor about a plan, and I am going to have a second chance at getting an education. Truly, thank you for all your support, to the parents who’ve been there and really made me feel better, and others who gave good advice. I will update every year on how I’m doing, to hopefully inspire anyone else in my situation. For now, goodbye. 