<p>Why do they always value education so much? Why can’t they see having fun in life is as important as studying? </p>
<p>I have fairly good grades (3.8GPA 1220/1600 on SAT) and i am very satisfied with what I accomplished. I believe having fun in high school is as important as education, and therefore I spend good amount of time just having fun. But my parents are really angry at me lately and telling me to apply to those “elite schools” and spend more time in studying. I don’t really care which college I go, as long as it’s good legitimate 4 year colleges where i can see the future. I don’t believe only getting in “Elite School” will make my life better.</p>
<p>Why can’t they understand us??? I bet many of you azn kids go through this kind of stuff everyday~</p>
<p>BTW i applied to JMU early decision, hopefully i will get in!</p>
<p>Yes, we should have fun! Life is about fun, i see no reason for you to live if you don’t have fun in life.
However, who says having fun does not mean you have to sacrifice your academics?
You think students who go to Harvard, Yale, Princeton and all those terrific schools don’t have fun? Heck, i bet they enjoy life more than any of us!</p>
<p>Yeah,I agree,life is for fun…(enjoy as much as u can…)but there are times(not for too long) when u need to work hard…</p>
<p>As I said…‘‘not for too long’’…there is no life without fun…
Thankfully,I hav got parents who encourage me to deviate my mind from studies…but the environment in which I live has got people who are of the same old narrow-minded mentality…</p>
<p>Well, I agree… but that’s why we should be proud were asian… cuz it is proven scientifically that we learn things faster and more accurately, there is always time to have fun later. And your parents only want whats best for u. U dont want to end up broke and working for almost no pay.</p>
Well,I dont think so…I mean yes our parents cares for our future but this does not mean that u will STOP or HINDER enjoyin life…
as Nwebyreborn said,students at ‘‘Elite’’ colleges enjoy much more than we do!!!</p>
<p>yes i know having fun and be happy with your life is the most important
but parents…my mom cares about my “future” very much, almost crazy, i sure don’t like that, but…i think we don’t only live for ourselves, for my case, my mom is working in somewhere she really doesn’t like, just for the money because of me, and she always says that she will get out of that place if i get schoolarship and all…anyway, i think we can always have fun with our life</p>
<p>WOW, you took the words right out of my mouth and probably the mouths of alot of Asian kids. </p>
<p>In fact, my mom told me the only reason I’m alive right now is to study for the SAT. </p>
<p>It’s nice that our parents care about our future, but they are seriously obsessive. Education is important, but it is not the only thing.</p>
<p>Besides, people are only young for so long and I don’t want to let mine go to waste. </p>
<p>The only good school to my parents are like Berkeley, UCLA, and Stanford. Going to UCI or something is like going to a community college to them. </p>
<p>It upsets me since I’m a fairly good student (3.86 GPA, 1980 SATS) and yet my parents think I’m in the bottom half of high school kids and that schools like UCI just accepts anybody.</p>
<p>If only they knew what the majority of high school students are like…</p>
<p>Speak for yourselves folks. Maybe if you had the balls to actually defy your parents and occasionally question their culture every once in a while you’d realize how easy it is to go out, get crunked and get your groove on.</p>
<p>my parents said if i go to the states for college, they won’t pay for my tuition unless i get into (specifically) princeton, harvard, stanford or berkeley. or, alternatively, unless i get a scholarship to other elite schools.</p>
<p>what the heck with that! i’m not even academically strong enough for those schools. i just want a more liberal system of education where i can major in subjects i’m interested in. </p>
<p>right now, i’m dying to get a transfer to the US, but i’ll need fin aid. so… oh wells.</p>
<p>Hi, I’m new… Actually from Mauritius…
hmm, my parents never really put any pressure on me… They tell me it’s my own fault if I am totally stressed out…I really, really want to get into one of the elite schools, but, although I have had the opportunity to participate in numerous activities, they do not really seem impressive compared to those of American students… My sat results are ok… but not that high… anyway I won’t be able to go to an American university if I don’t get financial aid…</p>
<p>My parents have said that they wont pay full tuition for Boston and Rochester. Right now, all my colleges on my list are all reaches. I tried to tell them that I cant get into ANY of them, and they were like, no you’re underestimating yourself. (and Im not!)
The highest reach is MIT and I’m trying to scratch it off my list. I gave my parents the figures - 2600 intel applicants, 110 admitted: 4% chance. And they were like, who knows? you might get in! :)
and i was like, uhhh NO.</p>
<p>I think it depend upon parents and the financial situation of the family…I won’t say that every asian parent is the same…Regarding myself, i have no pressure form them.</p>
<p>dude, don’t generalize. also, being international (asian or not) is not the same as being asian american, so this thread doesn’t belong here. there are difference in these two cultures and mentalities. most internationals who have lived in their countries for a significant amount of time don’t (usually) face the same dilemnas as asian americans. or identity/cultural crisis, for that matter.</p>
<p>i would say that yes, asian families who live in asia do place a significant amount of pressure on their kids as asian american parents do. the difference is that while asian american kids tend to rebel against this because of a conflict between asian ideas and western ideas, bona-fide asians don’t have similar conflicts. or if they do, it usually goes away by the time they are mature/ turn 18 or so. </p>
<p>and i know this because i’m an international, and studying in an american university. </p>
<p>it irks me when some asian american kid (who visits his country of origin a couple of times in his life, usually as a tourist or as a summer program participant trying to reconnect with his ancestor’s culture) comes up to me and complains about his parents placing pressure blablabla. i’m like, “dude, just because i look like you doesn’t mean i can identify with your cultural problems. and stop equating yourself with me. i have my own problems and they aren’t the same as yours.”</p>
<p>Banedon is right, this topic is SO overexposed. It actually makes the situation worse…don’t keep complaining about your slightly annoying parents, or else people will become desensitized. You know what I mean? What I’m saying is, you have it good–your parents haven’t already beaten you up for a 1220 on the SAT (which is dismal to my parents) and my parents would never have let me applied to JMU (no-name school in their opinion). I know you might not have the nicest parents but some of our parents are genuinely abusive. When people like you complain about your “Azn parents,” it makes it worse for those of us with actually truly abusive Asian parents. White people begin to group all of us together as “kids with strict but overall good parents.” When people like me cry for help we get labeled as “crying wolf,” like “Oh you have Asian parents that’s normal that they’re strict” Well let me tell you, for some of us it is a LOT worse so don’t complain about your slightly negative parents so the rest of us have to be grouped with you and overlooked.</p>
<p>How can it get A LOT worst? if you get beaten regularly for getting 3.9s or 1250s, then your parents have problems. Get childcare or something, because it’s NOT normal.</p>
<p>rather than whining about how terrible your parents are, do something about it. prove something. i am in a so-called no-name school by virtue of my community, but i am on my way to making a few thousand dollars a month while still studying. </p>
<p>does that mean that i won’t be successful because i did not apply to an elite school?</p>
