<p>I’m with Scom on this one. I believe in individual choice/consequences. I certainly wouldn’t disown my adult child if they chose to smoke or badger them to quit. I would state my concerns once and then drop it. JMO</p>
<p>I’m actually not a smoker, in fact I didn’t try to explain anything away, I simply took issue with how aggressive you are.</p>
<p>So your mom is okay that you smoke…aren’t you lucky!!!</p>
<p>But does anyone smoke in FRONT of their parents?</p>
<p>I give up, defend yourselves all you want…whatever helps you justify your smoking</p>
<p>I am aggressive when it comes to teens smoking…sorry…don’t read my posts then</p>
<p>You talk about choice/consequence, well, I am sure each one of you smokers never litters your nasty butts on the ground, or smokes around anyone who doesn’t like it, and will never us MY tax money when you get cancer from a CHOICE you made</p>
<p>Btw smokers stink, and they don’t even know it</p>
<p>Yeah, smokers smell foul</p>
<p>I hate smoking, think it is foolishin, does NOT make you cool, you jsut look like you want to be all grown up but can’t do it any other way</p>
<p>So, who has sat down and lit up for the parental units, if you are so brave with smoking, go ahead and do it…lite up in front of your school to show how cool you are…come on, don’t hide behind the tree…if its so right, stand in front of your garage call, your mom and dad, and say see. look at me, aren’t you proud?</p>
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<p>I am not a smoker. I have already mentioned that in my previous post. </p>
<p>However, I believe in personal choice…this is AMERICA… get used to it. </p>
<p>I use the same logic for the rest of my views: I’m against abortion, obesity/mcdonalds lawsuits, tobacco lawsuits, etc…</p>
<p>Understand the possible outcomes of your actions. If you accept these possible outcomes and decide to engage in a particular activity regardless of the possibilities, you are also accepting the consequences that result from the activity.</p>
<p>CGM, you mean well, and you are sincerely trying to give us young people some good advice here. I applaud you for that.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, the pompous manner you are using to express your view to others is not going to help your cause.</p>
<p>well said.</p>
<p>just fyi i dont smoke to be cool, or to rebel. i smoke because i’ve always liked the smell, ever since i was young actually. i feel sorry that you have had to put up with secondhand smoke, i don’t generally smoke where any non-smokers are present anyway so don’t act like im contributing to the problem here.
and fyi, i dont drink or party and im good to my parents. so dont try to make me look like the worst child ever born. if your daughter is hanging out with smokers then you’ve probably done something wrong yourself, in your own high and mighty world.
i dont litter butts on the ground, i have no intention of eating your tax money, and im very sorry that my own tax money is going to fund YOUR social security. too bad there’s no choice THERE. and fyi, i dont act or look very grown up and theres no way i can. i’m a 5’2 asian girl, for gods sake. i smoke because i want to, not to **** people off.</p>
<p>it’s pretty unlikely that your tax money will be used to pay for our cancer treatment, but it is likely that cigarette taxes will be used to improve your water quailty, to fund drug education programs, and in plenty of other useful ways depending on your state of residence. so you know.</p>
<p>citygirlsmom- i have smoked in front of my mom. she hates that i do it, but i’m 18, and i don’t use her money to buy cigs. so what is she going to do? i started out like jimbob in that i would smoke when someone offered a cigarette to me, but i am now addicted. i smoked in front of her on a family vacation aftr 2 days without. she offered to help me quit, and i went two whole weeks, but when i got back from a church trip yesterday i immediately smoked a cigarette so i am about to start over. i’m trying, but i have been trying cigs. since i was 14, and have been smoking regularly since i was 16 so it is hard.</p>
<p>No one smokes in front of me…I move away from them if they are rude enough to smoke</p>
<p>nuff said</p>
<p>at least you, sarah.mc admit you are addicted, unlike others </p>
<p>for that I give you kudos</p>
<p>everyone else, don’t care if you think I am too mean…</p>
<p>my D doesn’t hang out with smokers…she may go to a party, and voil a, smokers, I have gone to parties and voila smokers…</p>
<p>In my high and mighty world, I and most of my friends, and my Ds friends, and the adults I know, the doctors, think smoking is tacky, disgusting, and rude…but hey, go ahead and smoke, I can’t stop you</p>
<p>When we have people at our house, they are not permitted to smoke, not even in the back yard. They don’t. I won’t even let them smoke in my front yard, it goes into my moms apartment…and you know what…most of my acquantenances that used to smoke have quit, and are thankful they have, and to tell you the truth former smokers are pretty vehement about other smokers and can’t beleive they didn’t quit earlier</p>
<p>Read sarah_mc post…she at least is honest</p>
<p>i feel really bad for sarah m.c. i have a lot of friends in her position. i don’t understand why you think i’m addicted or the same as her, though. she says she started out like i did, but that doesn’t mean she is like me. she seems to think going 2 “whole” weeks without is “quitting.” thats actually a pretty short period of time for me, and i customarily go for 2 weeks without smoking. for me, quitting means going for years without. i can go for months. am i addicted?</p>
<p>i was not saying that i had quit, i was saying that i was trying to quit. 2 weeks was the longest i had gone since i was like 16 so it was a long time, and it was hard, but now i am starting over, and i truly hope that i get to two weeks again, and then two months, and then two years, but i am nowhere near there yet. i’m just starting over. i do regret starting, and i am really trying to stop.</p>
<p>good luck sarah</p>
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<p>I’m not a parent, and read my post again. I said that both heroin and tobacco use justify the same RESPONSE. It’s much, much worse for your child to be shot in the head than shot in the foot. The injuries are not equal. But they both demand the exact same response from a parent: a five-alarm, sirens wailing, emergency response.</p>
<p>Although as long as we’re on the subject of comparisons, tobacco kills hundreds of thousands more Americans every year than heroin.</p>
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<p>If you’re truly financially independent, then maybe nothing. If you’re getting any tuition money from her, though, or living in her house in the summer, there’s plenty she could do.</p>
<p>lol tobacco and heroin…there is a LARGE difference. parents should be educated about that difference or they risk alienating their kids and losing an opportunity to educate/protect them</p>
<p>Good lord, if you still don’t understand the difference between an equivalent injury and an equivalent response, I guess I’m incapable of explaining it.</p>
<p>If your kid falls and smashes his chin on the sidewalk, you will rush him to the emergency room just as quickly as you would if he were shot. This has nothing to do with a failure to grasp the difference between a concussion and a gunshot wound.</p>
<p>Hanna, you explained yourself well. </p>
<p>If you did not react in an equivalent manner (or at least some form of equivalent), you really risk saying to your kids that nothing is very important. Ultimately, you are still a parent and have parental authority.</p>
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<p>thats bogus…tobacco isn’t nearly as dangerous (in the short-term anyway)… and therefore does not warrant the same kind of response…</p>
<p>its more addictive</p>
<p>as for those that say they aren’t addicted, give it time, every addicted smoker started out just like you</p>