<p>I can’t imagine how thie housekeeper continued in her job for 15 years (the NYTimes reports the age of her son as 14), with close daily contact with Maria and her children, knowing that she had betrayed them all. In her place, I’d want to get as far away as possible and not see any of them again. It is awful to think of how all the children will be affected by this. Whatever problems I’ve had in my life, I always knew who my parents and siblings were!</p>
<p>From the NY Times:</p>
<p>"One of the last public events Ms. Shriver and Mr. Schwarzenegger attended together was the funeral of her father, R. Sargent Shriver, who died in January. Some who attended said that the two were polite to each other but in no way warm; Ms. Shriver gave a heart-rending and pointed eulogy, as her husband looked on, praising her father for teaching her brothers how to properly treat women. "</p>
<p>So there is speculation that Maria took a jab at Arnold last night when she was at an Oprah taping held at the United Center, which was complete with an A-list of celebs present to honor Oprah.</p>
<p>Classof2015-
Either we live near each other or there are more of these creeps with 2 families than many people think. A neighbor about 5 houses down discovered her DH had a second family. They divorced, remarried, divorced, and are now back together again. She has, however, added one more component to her life… alcohol. Very sad.</p>
<p>Hi neighbor!
I only heard the other night that they were back together <em>again</em> though I don’t think they are married this time. Their older son finally graduated from college (he took a circuitous route) and they had a big party a weekend or two ago. Kids (well, young adults) were on the front lawn with a sign that said “honk and we’ll drink”. Lovely. At least it was their older s. The younger s might barely, maybe be of legal age.</p>
<p>^^well I KNOW I don’t live near jym but maybe classof2015???</p>
<p>We have a guy in our town who was keeping a 2nd family in Florida since 1998…he used to be “out of town” for extended periods of time when kids were little…</p>
<p>I actually have NO idea of the status of the marriages…family is still in town though…</p>
<p>Yikes! So many of these dual families! How do they manage to do it? In my neighbors case, the second family was, from waht I understand, out of the country, and yes, he too would take “extended work travel” there. If in the US, how does the"other" family get health insurance (wife’s insurance I assume)? Pay their taxes (obviously filing separately)? I have to assume the “other” family knows they arent the primary one, and especially if they are not married. Its just a really lousy thing to do to someone-- especially the kids.</p>
<p>Looks like Arnold’s “indiscretion” is older than first reported. If you believe TMZ, Love Child was born October 2, 1997. Get a load of this - the youngest Schwarzenegger son (Christopher) was born September 27, 1997. They’re less than a week apart in age!</p>
<p>This is getting pretty disgusting. Couild we get back to talking about the impact on the family without the graphic visualizations?</p>
<p>I agree with NYMomof2. The unsettling part is the woman’s continued employment and all the undercurrent issues that surely went on between her and Arnold. This is going to cause so musch retrospective angst for the family. It is so sad.</p>
<p>That said, unfortunately it is probably more common than we think that kids are raised in families where they think they are the offspring of one union, and later may or may not discover that they are in fact not the biological child of their “father”. In a tangential situation, I have a friend whose Dh had a vasectomy before they were married. Her sonwas born via artificial insemination from a sperm donor, but they plan to NEVER TELL the son. I think that is wrong, but it is not my decision. The son looks like his mom, so he has not questioned his parentage. He is now almost 21. I think he as a right to know, but again, they are (a) now divorced and (b) not thinking he needs to know.</p>
<p>“Either we live near each other or there are more of these creeps with 2 families”</p>
<p><em>raises hand</em> My friend’s dad did this. And it was the same freaking story with marital and extramarital sons born just a few months apart.</p>
<p>Thanks for the warning, rom828. Duly noted.</p>
<p>sunnyflorida: I agree that the son has the right to know about the circumstances of his birth. Mom is a good friend of mine and we were very supportive of them when her now ex-h (also still a good friend, which is not easy to do) tried a vasectomy reversal and also when she was selecting the donors from the sperm bank (got to read the bios of the donors). I am not the only one who knows, and I had assumed they had told their son. Its quite possible someone who knows sill slip at some time and accidentally say something. That is NOT the way to find out. But again, not my place to say anything and the mom is adament about her feelings.</p>
