<p>^^^Quite the unconventional wedding procession, but certainly filled with joy and enthusiasm, I’ll give them that. :)</p>
<p>Garland, at my DS’s recent wedding, the hotel required that we assign actual seats, not just tables, because the guests were given two different entree options for dinner, which they indicated on their response cards. The hotel wanted the serving to be seamless, so they would know ahead of time who ordered what entree. It wasn’t that difficult, and it did make the serving almost invisible.
As far as walking the groom down the aisle, Jewish tradition (which we followed) is that the bride and groom are each walked down the aisle by both their respective parents. It seems only fair to me!</p>
<p>What methods have you seen for MOG getting down the aisle when G’s parents are divorced and remarried? B’s parents are too. </p>
<p>I do love the idea of S walking me down the aisle. Not sure H would love walking by himself. He has been step-dad since S1 was 4. Then what do you do with ex-H? Even though he didn’t raise or pay, his family loves to show up for the trophy moments. They will think I’m the bad-<em>$</em> if I am walked down the aisle and Ex-H is not. So many considerations…</p>
<p>I will keep telling myself these details will never be noticed. I guess I never paid enough attention to these situations or I’d know what was done! All eyes will be waiting on bride anyway. I am determined to make this their special day.</p>
<p>srystress, maybe the FOG and his wife could walk down together before you with either your son or your husband. If your son escorts you, maybe your husband could walk directly behind you both. I can’t imagine that your ex would/should have anything to say about not being escorted because men aren’t usually escorted by sons, are they?</p>
<p>My husband and I had a lovely wedding, which fortunately did not involve much worry about minutiae at all.</p>
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<p>Sorghum, many of us have been in positions of authority at some point or else been the bosses’ wife, so we know perfectly well what we feel is acceptable behavior in those positions. And regarding name dropping, there’s an easy response to that. What have you done lately? If you’ve got to go back 30 years, sometimes it’s not much.</p>
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<p>Now, back to the regularly scheduled wedding tsuris.</p>
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<p>Wow, this is a humorless thread.</p>
<p>“Even though he didn’t raise or pay, his family loves to show up for the trophy moments.”
HAH! We have that exact dynamic as well! Ex, his wife, and her D are coming to my D’s med school graduation at the end of the month. Ex has not contributed one cent to the entire med school process. My D has been worried about wedding issues for years. She doesn’t want her bio dad to walk her down the aisle because stepdad is the one who raised her and paid for a lot of her upbringing. But doesn’t want to obviously dis the bio dad in favor of stepdad and absolutely doesn’t want both of them. She is nontraditional, so will probably get married on a beach barefoot and there won’t be an aisle to worry about…</p>
<p>Re seating of hostile exes: I attended a lovely wedding at a very upscale golf club with bride’s parents remarried and very hostile atmosphere between dad and his new wife and the bride’s mom. The stepmom was escorted to her seat in front row first by the bride’s brother, an usher. Then the MOB was escorted in, again by her son, the bride’s brother, with her new H following behind. The new H sat next to the stepmom. After the dad walked bride down the aisle, he went to first row and sat on the end next to his current wife (who had a sour look on her face during the entire event).</p>
<p>We are not bound by tradition. At D1’s wedding the groom walked his mother down the aisle. H walked me down the aisle and then exited to get D1. On the way down the aisle with me H whispered how much he loved me and thanked me for raising a wonderful D. I cried .</p>
<p>Sorghum, many of us have been in positions of authority at some point or else been the bosses’ wife, so we know perfectly well what we feel is acceptable behavior in those positions. And regarding name dropping, there’s an easy response to that. What have you done lately? If you’ve got to go back 30 years, sometimes it’s not much.>>></p>
<p>Huh???</p>
<p>Eek. I thought the ■■■■■ had left the thread.
Sadly not the case. Sure wish it would go disrupt somewhere else.</p>
<p>When did sorghum post?!!! I’m lost.</p>
<p>I’m completely lost by Deborah’s comment. Is the quote you’re responding to above that? I saw nothing in that that merited a response like that 
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<p>At our wedding 32 years ago H walked down the aisle with both of his parents and then I walked down with both of mine. I copied this from a friend’s wedding a few years earlier. Both weddings took place in the Catholic church, so I was a bit surprised to later learn that this was a Jewish tradition. My friend’s MIL was raised Jewish so this might have been why they did this.</p>
<p>(Oh and I didn’t get that comment either).</p>
<p>Folks, I feel I’ve been ganged up on here since yesterday. I took a stand on an issue I feel is important, the proper treatment of people who aren’t in the position of power. Side issue from the main thread topic, yes, I agree, and that’s why I’ve suggested going back on topic. I’m tired of being batted at by person after person.</p>
<p>I’m disengaging. Take care.</p>
<p>When my daughter got married (nearly three years ago now, wow) the deacon who performed their Catholic ceremony suggested that they both be walked down the aisle with their parents - to symbolize the joining of the families and the support of the parents. It was lovely. </p>
<p>My daughter practically dragged us down the aisle. My sister-in-law said, “How were you not crying?” and I told her we were laughing at the pace our daughter set. </p>
<p>My advice? Relax and enjoy the day. Take a moment after it’s all done to savor the joy and be thankful for all the people who were there to help you celebrate.</p>
<p>H and I had a small wedding; one of my sisters, another sister’s daughter and my H’s best friend. No one from H’s family was in the wedding party so I asked my FIL to escort me as both my parents were deceased. It was very nice although I just realized and I mean JUST REALIZED that my MIL probably wanted to kill me for taking her escort away. As it was, she was 45 min late for the ceremony and wore white.</p>
<p>Another take on multiple parents, from a friend’s son’s wedding:</p>
<p>G walked his grandma down, then walked B’s grandma down.
The ex-H and new wife walked themselves down. Sat in row 2.
G walked his mother down, who sat in row 1 with grandma, then stood at front.
B was walked down by her mother, father deceased.</p>
<p>My H walked both moms down, his dad followed behind his mom.</p>
<p>Anything goes.</p>
<p>Moda, we were married at 7:30pm so the clock hands were going up. Did that on purpose, but it was a loooong day to wait for the wedding.</p>
<p>When our mothers were escorted down the aisle, the song was one that they both had at their own weddings. I think it is called “I Love You Truly”.</p>
<p>At the rehearsal, when my Dad responded to “who gives this woman to be married…”, he said “Her Mother and I - GLADLY”. Ha!</p>
<p>Don’t know the reason for the comment about name dropping, either. Very strange.</p>
<p>I suspect some posts were deleted, which may explain some of the confusion.</p>