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If this is not a paying job, STOP DOING IT and work for MONEY. Many of us would love to spend our time volunteering and helping to save the world, but we cannot. We have to pay our bills. So do you and so does your family.</p>
<p>It’s time to let go of the “volunteer” mentality and GET A PAYING JOB.</p>
<p>“I proposed borrowing alternative loans to cover these expenses, but she was adamant about not taking out anymore loans because we already have too many.”</p>
<p>I thought you said you didn’t take out loans? I think you’re living in your own reality. You’re full of excuses. </p>
<p>“I would love to have a driver’s license, but even if I did, I don’t think I’ll be able to drive because my family’s car insurance would increase.”</p>
<p>–pay for your own car insurance. Why should they have to pay for it?</p>
<p>More excuses. I’m done. This person is too thick headed to see the truth.</p>
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<p>However, because of the train schedule, my job search in the city is limited to shifts that last only until 8 at the latest (this is why I had to turn down the grassroots campaign job that pays up to $500 a week), and it’s hard to get one in retail where I won’t have to close much later. Any later and I’d burden my parents with the thought of me walking home alone at night. </p>
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I will keep looking, and like I said, I’m willing to do jobs that even my parents won’t approve of.</p>
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This is how I got the grassroots campaign job that I had to turn down (embarrassingly), but again, I will keep looking.</p>
<p>@ sanjenferrer</p>
<p>Car insurance won’t decrease until you reach the age of 25. Do you want to wait that long before you get behind the wheel?? Our insurance increased too, but your insurer may have policies and discounts to decrease the amount. Stop making excuses, sign up for a class, and get behind the wheel now. If your parents are having financial extenuating circumstances, the least they can do is teach you how to drive so that you can have ACCESS to job opportunities.</p>
<p>I agree with the other parents, QUIT the volunteer job unless you also have a paid campus job. I volunteered and did a paid on-campus job(s) during the school year. You have to be very selective with volunteer positions. Paid positions are always better than volunteer roles.</p>
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What I said was under NU policy, I don’t have any loans. However, the loans I will take out is for this other university where my mom works and where I’m entitled free tuition. The loan will be around $1,000 to cover books and such expenses.</p>
<p>And while gas is still cheap!</p>
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<p>Where will I get the money to pay for car insurance upfront? I can’t come up with that money until I get a job without a car first (if only we lived in the city, I could take the El everywhere). My parents are against any more spending upfront, even with foreseeable long-term benefits. This is what I’ve been saying over and over.</p>
<p>Yes, it might seem like I’m making excuses for not being able to drive and not having a job, but I’m just describing reality here.</p>
<p>“Where will I get the money…”</p>
<p>sanjenferrer - Money does not grow on trees. Jobs are the only way I know of to get money.</p>
<p>And, I am done, too. All I am reading, sanjenferrer, is excuse, excuse, excuse, can’t, can’t can’t.</p>
<p>And, just think, you can use all this time you have been spending posting to go find a job!</p>
<p>Also, my parents are not over-protective because of my sex (I’m male) but because I have Asperger’s syndrome and they think it would put me in vulnerable situations.</p>
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Like I said in the previous post, I’m looking for a job that wouldn’t require a car.</p>
<p>“…adamant about not taking out anymore loans because we already have too many.”</p>
<p>Maybe you don’t have loans but it sounds as if your parents are burdened by them. And now you want them to sign for more loans just can attend summer classes! Again, you want what you want. </p>
<p>Do you have any more excuses? Car insurance money? Get a job and pay installments the way everyone else does. You can’t get a job–ridiculous. Look at all of the young teenagers working at fast food places and retail stores. You love the blame game. Let’s hear the next excuse—I can’t get a job because I need to volunteer so my resume will look good. I can’t get my drivers license because I don’t have time to study for the test. I can’t go to a good law school because my parents can’t pay for it. I can’t move out because I don’t have a job. But somehow, you can attend a top tier competitive university. This is just mind blowing.</p>
<p>@ sanjenferrer</p>
<p>I’m not sure if you’re listening, but all the parents, including me, are trying to help you. You will need your drivers’ license before you graduate from college because what if you’re offered a job in a location where there is limited mass transit? How would you do an in-person interview if you have no means to get to the company? (Some employers require a drivers’ license identification for employment or background check.) What if you must leave the Chicagoland area for a job or grad school offer elsewhere? I loved riding the trains in Chicago, but I live in Michigan now where you must drive everywhere. That is the reality in most parts of America.</p>
<p>Note: I would not have my current job if I didn’t learned how to drive. (I commute 45 miles one-way Monday through Friday.)</p>
<p>SJ–</p>
<pre><code> You might want to search on this forum for a recent thread about summer jobs. I can’t recall the title of the thread–maybe someone else can. Anyway, one of the points made was that you can’t just drop off an application–you have to follow up on it. From your post, it doesn’t sound like you have. If not, do that. If that doesn’t work, look for the paid chores others have mentioned. Go ring doorbells or put flyers in mail boxes asking if someone needs lawns mowed, etc. Call a few temp agencies.
You may love your work with the human rights organization. However, given your family’s present financial difficulties, I would say that a paying job should be given a higher priority by you right now. If you really can not find a job this summer, work during the school year. Give up your position with the human rights organization to do that if necessary. Please do NOT give me any nonsense about how you need that position to get into a top law school. That simply isn’t true. Frankly, in your posts you come across as a very selfish young man who is out to “save the world” but has forgotten that “charity begins at home.”
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<p>I personally think it’s completely unfair of you to ask you parents, in the present circumstances, to co-sign a loan for you. That’s what caused the friction, as I understand it. If I were in similar circumstances, I would be as upset with my own S or D if (s)he did that as your mom is with you. I don’t condone what your mom did, but she was certainly provoked by your conduct.</p>
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I’ve been looking for one for weeks.</p>
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<p>What excuses? I’ve been trying to find a job. I’ve been saying this over and over and over again.</p>
<p>Here’s where I’ve applied:
probably over 10 hotels (I heard they have good pay… like $14 an hour so that’s why I applied to so many)
B&N
Borders
Field Museum
Starbucks
Groceries
Clothing stores
Different non-profit orgs but no one was hiring.
What I didn’t look into were research jobs on campus. Didn’t know this was possible until after the deadlines passed. I’ll look into these for next summer.</p>
<p>You can’t tell me I haven’t been looking and only making excuses. The reason I thought about summer school in the first place was because I had such a hard time finding a job, so I figured I might as well do something that would benefit my future.</p>
<p>I have no doubt that there is a lot we do not know. The salient point here is that the OP has a mom who is stressed to breaking point, to danger point. The best thing for OP to do is remove self from situation, see an adult like pastor, family friend, family member who can look into the dangers that are there to mom, and decide what to do given teh family dynamics. The OP should drop the insistence on having mom/dad cosign loans for summer school Clearly they do not want to do so. OP should find another place to live for the summer and start supporting self and maybe even saving money. Hopefully, things will cool down, and can be worked out. If OP has aspergers or other issues, he needs to work with a counselor, some adult that knows him and get this crisis under control and move to a track more acceptable for family dynamics. I do not recommend for anyone to live with someone who is angry enough to draw knife. Without being there, we cannot assess the situation, so have to take the safe route which is to advise OP to get out of there, alert responsible adult who knows family to check out the home scene, give things a cooling off period, and drop the demands/requests that led to the scene in the first place. Family is short on money. OP should be looking for a way to alleviate the problem NOW. Which means finding a place to live where he can find a job. Things are very, very tight here in terms of jobs. My kids with no cars have found work. Not work they like but work that pays. DIrty, ugly work. Dish washing, table bussing, clean up. Always available.</p>
<p>Parents, one of the first things the OP needs to do is learn how to drive and get his license so that he may have wider access to jobs.</p>
<p>I see a contradiction here. OP, you said that your parents have co-signed loans for you, but you also say you and your parents are getting a loan-free, full freight FA package from NU. Is the problem in funding books/personal expenses/spending money? At my house, that responsibility is on my kids.</p>
<p>Have you taken Stafford loans in your own name to help w/expenses? Those don’t require a co-signer. Time for you to step up to the plate and assume the responsibilities of an adult. You have a long way to go before law school. Quit putting the cart before the horse and assess your CURRENT priorities.</p>
<p>Call a temp agency. Your volunteering experience translates well to office work. Both my kids found jobs this summer w/no prior experience, despite the crummy economy.</p>
<p>I am really trying not to get to sucked into this thread, but why can’t you take a job that requires you to work later and have your parents pick you up at the train station so you don’t have to walk home? I’m sure they’d be willing to do that knowing more money is coming in …</p>
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I’m a transfer student so those loans were from my previous institution. While I was entitled to free tuition there, housing was not covered. I dormed because my parents didn’t want to worry about picking me up (because their work hours vary and they can’t be sure they’d be there to pick me up). The reason I wanted to get into a top school was so I could be awarded full financial aid. I did pay for my books in freshman year from previous job earnings I saved up. As far as I’m concerned, books and fees are covered by my financial aid. I don’t need much money for personal expenses, because like I said, I don’t spend that much.</p>
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I do have Stafford loans from before the no-loans policy took effect. </p>
<p>Like I said, I’ve been actively looking for jobs.</p>