Mother's Day gift for the wife

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I sincerely doubt that there is one of us here who has not at some point or other lamented the “commercialization” of various holidays. I know that <em>I</em> have. Where MY confusion arose with regard to your attitude (and to that of TheDad) was in the vehemence with which you exressed your disapproval—the use of the terms “upset” or “offended” in the context of receiving a gift. It just made me wonder if the receiving of a GIFT could put someone over the top, what would a <em>real</em> insulting act do? And, like I said above, I simply believe in viewing things FIRST from the perspective of others…in fact, that is the reason why the ONLY piece of jewelry I <em>never</em> remove is the $1.00 mood ring my little man (7-year-old at the time of the purchase) bought at Santa’s Secret Shop and gave me for Hanukkah. To me, that piece is BEYOND priceless. :)</p>

<p>Now, if any of you had simply said, “I usually just get something personal or handwritten from my KIDS,” I would not have responded the way that I did. It was the use of the terms “upset” and “offended” that I found curious…that, and “He’s not MY kid”<----in reference to husbands. Like several people have said above, one does not HAVE to be a kid to honor someone as a mother.</p>

<p>On a related note, one of the MOST precious gifts I have EVER received as a mother came from someone who is not my biological child. For my birthday this year, my D’s boyfriend wrote me an ENTIRE page describing how he valued his relationship with me (he’s 17) and relating how to HIM, I <em>AM</em> his mother (his home circumstances are less than ideal). After I had read it through (and cried and cried <em>lol</em>), he handed me a tiny box…upon opening it, I found the most beautiful gold necklace spelling out—what else----“MOM.” It is a matchless treasure. But what if I had adopted the attitude of, “But HE’S not MY son!!!”??? In fact, I really DO view him as a son, and I wear the necklace regularly.</p>

<p>Gifts of the heart do not have to be given ONLY on special days (nor do they have to be expensive)…I regularly bake biscotti and give/mail it to friends. If I see something relevant, I buy it and give it (but then, I’m an amazing sale shopper! <em>lol</em>). I just LOVE giving to others and showing my appreciation. Maybe that’s why the members of my family enjoy the same.</p>

<p>Speaking of gifts, I finally told my husband what I wanted for MD…I told him that in lieu of regular “presents,” I’d like to be able to take the whole family out to eat at somewhere they’d enjoy…BUT, that I also wanted to be able to invited my special “adopteds.” So, we will have us 8, S’s best friend from Duke, S’s gf, D’s bf, S’s best friend, and whomever else finds us! Now, THAT’S a gift…being surrounded by my KIDS…<em>ALL</em> of them! :slight_smile: :slight_smile: :slight_smile: :slight_smile: :slight_smile: BTW, he STILL wants to get me some gifts…and no, I suppose I WON’T refuse them or be insulted! ;)</p>

<p>~berurah</p>

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<p>OMG!!! Wife just shouted to me from the kitchen, “NJres, how bout a pan for me for Mother’s Day?” LOL… I just mumbled… “ok”</p>

<p>weenie, were you following me around at the mall? First I tried Macys, but no open stock (no help either). Then I went to Williams Sonoma and pondered the sorta nostick vs the true nostick, but my wife I think pefers the true nostick and besides, easily exchangeable if she wants to try the other one.</p>

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<p>NJres~</p>

<p>I saw 'em at Bed, Bath and Beyond today for $99.00!!! Almost bought one just because…<em>lol</em> ;)</p>

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<p>I am a junior(15yrs) and I am going to write a poem and paint her a mural(roses and lavendar-her fav. flowers). I am also thinking of making brownies(my 5yrs old sis will tear the kitchen apart, so I am still debating this).</p>

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Awwwwwwwwwww, simply beautiful! (I can relate to the cooking with kids dealio…YIKES!) :eek:</p>

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<p>berurah: </p>

<p>It sounds like you will have a blessed MD ~ surrounded by so many that love you! </p>

<p>BTW: What is the significance of your SN? Can you reveal?</p>

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<p>I am very much looking forward to MD with my sweeties, all of 'em! For some very personal reasons, spending MD this way is <em>hugely</em> important to me!</p>

<p>As for the SN…My father was a rabbi, and “Berurah” is the Hebrew name my parents gave me when I was born. I like using it online because I NEVER have to worry about its already being taken! <em>lol</em> ;)</p>

<p>~berurah</p>

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<p>i got her a concert dvd, a cd, a gelati at ritas, and i’m making her new business cards for her work. I think she’ll appreciate the cards the most.</p>

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Girl, you did NOT disappoint! I <em>KNEW</em> you’d come up with some great alternatives to the grill!!! You GO! :slight_smile: ~b.</p>

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<p>berurah, you’ll like this one…
my aunt lives here with us, and her 19 year old son moved out about a year ago with his girlfriend (they’re having a baby in august… )</p>

<p>he called my aunt on wednesday and asked if she wanted to go to this mothers day lunch thing on sunday, she said sure, and today he called to let her know that its 11 dollars for adults and 5.50 for children (she’s bringing her 7 year old with) and that he’d see her at 12:30. I just about died laughing… she was like of course, i knew he wouldn’t actually offer to pay for me… all i got for my birthday was a bag of raisonettes…</p>

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*****<strong><em>ROFLMAO</em></strong>****!!! :smiley: :smiley: :D</p>

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<p>At least he remembered it was mothers day and thought to invite her to lunch, haha. Just doesn’t have any money to pay for it.</p>

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<p>I honestly can’t see anything wrong with celebrating Mother’s Day, or any of the other so-called “Hallmark” days. With all that goes on in the world, with our busy schedules, with the challenges that many of us face daily, what could possibly be wrong with celebrating moms? :slight_smile: I also think it’s a day to celebrate all moms, not just your own, so I don’t see anything at all wrong with a gift, card, or love sent from a husband to a wife, or a mom to another mom, or a mom to a daughter or son, etc. </p>

<p>My H always gives me a beautiful bouquet of flowers because he knows that flowers are the one thing which I always love receiving. We’re very fortunate in our lives in many respects and I don’t really need anything else, but a bouquet of beautiful flowers brightens up my kitchen and my day. I do the same for my mom and his, flowers and a nice card, and a phone call today since both live far away. Spending the day with all 4 of my Ds is the best gift, will start in about one hour! :slight_smile: All of us together going out for dinner, including a b/f and another boy friend, both of whom lost their moms at a young age. Then we’re all going out to a play that we all love! My kids are pretty great to me on a daily basis so it’s not as if they ignore me all year and are only nice on Mother’s Day! We’ve had a rough year with serious health problems with our youngest so I figure a celebration today is just what I need, as she finally seems to be through the worst.</p>

<p>I think the best gift I ever received on Mother’s Day was when my kids were very young. They got together (the older two probably did most of it), and made me a ‘coupon’ book. Each coupon was redeemable at any time for various services the girls would perform; making me a cup of tea, vacuuming, emptying the cat’s litterbox, filling the dishwasher, etc. I loved that gift and still have it in my ‘treasure box’ where I keep important mementos. I never did ‘redeem’ all of them!</p>

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<p>I tell my girls the best present is no fighting between them, they clean their rooms, and PERFUME!!!</p>

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<p>alwaysamom,
I had to laugh when I read your post. I still have the little faded pink, roughly cut, pieces of paper in a basket on my kitchen window sill with the “coupons” for dusting, dishes, weeding, etc. I never redeemed all of mine either, but I treasure the little pieces of paper written in their elementary school handwriting.</p>

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<p>After so many years of much loved but very imperfect Mother’s Days gifts from my two kids, this year’s gifts are stunning.</p>

<p>My 16 year old D, who has significant special needs, managed to create 4 beautiful chocolate pops in various flower shapes, wrapped in an impeccable glittery bag and accompanied by a very lovely card she created on the computer (with some help at school, I think). Yum!</p>

<p>Nineteen year old college son, a very non-Hallmark sort of young man, presented a bag of carefully selected hand made soaps (Not made with HIS hands, but still!) and a scented votive and holder. Not expensive or elaborate but quite unexpected and very much my type of gift.
I think his wonderful girlfriend might have been helpful in selecting the gifts! More reason to like her…</p>

<p>Best Mother’s Day wishes to all!</p>

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<p>berurah, apparently my 7 year old cousin saw some sears paper which had this pink watch (which i thought was kind of icky looking, but whatever) and it says mom on it, and she told her dad she wanted to go buy it for her mom and he took her out and bought it for her… which i thought was very nice of him. He didn’t take her out to buy anything for christmas or her birthday, but did for mothers day.</p>

<p>(which means I didn’t have to take her shopping for it)</p>

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<p>musicmom~</p>

<p>What tremendous and thoughtful gifts from both of your sweeties! How lovely!</p>

<p>fendergirl~</p>

<p>What a pleasant surprise, your cousin’s dad stepping in for this very important “mommy” holiday! The watch sounds like a PERFECTLY 7-year-oldish gift! :)</p>

<p>Speaking of gifts, I got the <strong>COOLEST</strong> gift from my D’s boyfriend…it is a handmade, gorgeous wooden plaque, engraved in beautiful, fancy writing (he did it all himself) with the words, “BEST MOM”----wow…just wow. It sits right above my computer now, where I can glance at it constantly when I’m working/playing on the computer! </p>

<p>~berurah</p>

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<p>CTYGMom, you better let us know if you got that perfume! I’m a perfume freak, too and bought myself 2 more bottles last week. Gotta go get ready - family is taking me out to dinner tonight! I’ll be smelling like Armani Mania - hehe.</p>

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<p>Ooooooooooooh, tookie, have a GREAT evening!!! We’ll be going out too this evening! I guess I’ll just spritz on my usual…Shalimar! Been wearin’ it since I was a teenager…for some reason, it smells great on me! ~berurah</p>