^ very good point.
What about looking for colleges that are in a 3-hour radius of each other as well?
Do you know your efc and can your parents afford it?
My dad is insistent on my brother and I going to the same schools, but we have very different ideas.
And yes, I know plenty of twins go to the same school and develop as individuals, and all is good, but the twins I know tell me going to separate schools has been important to their growth, especially because they were so close and did everything together in high school. That closeness is only stronger because they are more confident in who they are as individuals and have been able to develop the sides of their personalities that were perhaps less developed in high school b/c the other twin had that area covered. They are both more well rounded now, if that makes sense.
On the one hand, I want to think you are ungrateful. Other than here on CC, I don’t know one person IRL whose parents are footing the entire bill for their education. What a gift !
Then again, college is usually a once-in-a-lifetime experience and I personally wouldn’t insist my kids go to the same school for convenience sake. But they would have to understand the logistics of their choice.
In the end, just how bad can it be? You get a great education that costs you nothing and Dad gets his choice of schools, assuming you both get in. First world problems.
Note that both Lehigh and Bucknell are known for heavy fraternity and sorority participation, so if you and your brother are not interested in them, the social scene at those schools may be somewhat more constrained than at some other schools.
Is it possible he’d be more amenable to schools that were less far away? Are there other mid-Atlantic or midwest colleges that you could look at?
…on my brother and me, not on my brother and I. Object of preposition.
Yeah we are both considering UMD. Will be visiting in August. Looks awesome but it might be a bit too big, I’ll have to see. It’s a big possibility. Also we were looking at Virginia tech but he doesn’t really want us going there because it’s not “a very good school” which I don’t understand.@mathmom
@MYOS1634 I had thought of that and I think that might be doable.
Are you instate at Maryland? if not, where?
Parents sometimes have outdated ideas about what is or is not a good school. My dh had to convinced that Carnegie Mellon was a better place for my son than Harvard. (Which for a die-hard computer science guy it was.)
Rutgers in state. Still have to visit but that’s a big possibility as well @MYOS1634
I am not the mother of twins , but I do have twin nieces that attended the same school. In their circumstances, it was not a good situation. One of my nieces had some health issues while away at school. The responsible thing to do would’ve been bring her home, but my sister was adamant about the girls finishing at the same time. As a result , my niece became the caretaker for her sister , and missed out on most of her own college experience . IMO, if the siblings want to separate , they should be encouraged to do so with the understanding that there may be situations where their parents may have to miss out on some of the activities.
please re-summarize where you are at - there seem to be confusing/conflicting things here
There is nothing wrong with UMiami’s engineering school. Why would you think that there is?
I can totally understand the desire to have both at the same school and it has little to do with graduation.
If dad insists, then choose a school that is big enough that you will still feel like you have your own lives.
My kids went to the same undergrad (their choice). It was a big flagship, so they only saw each other when they wanted to, even though they were both STEM majors. They purposely arranged to have lunch together every Tuesday, and a couple of semesters, they both took an Italian class together…and they took a Spanish class together. Their choice to do so.
Having them at the same school meant same schedule for breaks/summer. Same schedule for Move in and Move out. Parents only having to go to one place to help with moves.
Another benefit is that we only had to provide one car for them at school. They were able to easily share it since rarely did they ever want to use it at the same time…except to drive home together for breaks.
Even though we didn’t demand that they go to the same school, in the end, it turned out to be a blessing.
Why not schools like Penn State, Ohio State, Georgia Tech and a few others that have very good eng’g and very good B schools?
Definitely starting to look at PSU. I’ll give Ohio State another look. Thanks for the suggestions! @mom2collegekids GTech doesn’t really appeal to me mostly because of the gender imbalance. I went to an all guy school for highschool. Can’t imagine something like 70 percent guys for college.
Are you that you guys are full pay? Bothe the schools that your dad like both Lehigh and Bucknell are meet need schools. Is it possible all of his is cost related? If so if you want him to change his mind you need to look at big merit or meet need school to bring the cost the same or close.
What about TCNJ? They have engineering and business and are a great value.
I was just reading another thread where twins had graduation on the same day at different colleges. Or if dropping off was on the same day.
What I would suggest is apply wherever you want (including ones that your brother would go to) and then see what the cost is and how much aid you get.
I would think that if you fill out the FAFSA you will get need based aid whether or not your brother goes to the same school as you.
Also what are your GPA/SAT? Are you eligible for merit scholarships?
Many people have “dream schools” but really, for most people, they will “bloom where planted” and will do fine anywhere. There are 3000 colleges in the USA…there must be some affordable colleges that both you and your brother like.
UMass Amherst? ( business and CS are especially strong)
At Penn State you should apply to Schreyer (a top honors college) - selection is based on course rigor, EC’s, essays, and lors.
Check out Pitt Honors (selection/scholarships based on test scores) and Temple (automatic scholarships.)
TCNJ has both business (one of the top ranked schools in the entire country for undergrad) and STEM.