UNCW has an excellent B-school, and the CS department is good as well. App State also, and they have engineering. They would qualify for the Honors College at both.
My dad is insistent on my brother and I going to the same schools, but we have very different ideas.
May I also add that UNCW’s Honors College is one of the top rated ones in the country…I understand it may be a little far away, but I implore you to at least check it out.
if youre going to apply UNC then you should try for Chapel Hill.
AND Wilmington’s Honors College.
Would both of you give up ED chances and apply to a bunch of schools together, and some that don’t overlap?
I agree that you shouldn’t squash your dreams, or your brother squash his, because your dad thinks you should go to the same school. But I do also think that many schools can work out for you guys - for example, my son is at RPI, and they have a pretty good business school and excellent engineering.
Any large school, 10,000+ undergrads, will make it difficult for you to see your twin unless you have the same major or room together. I lived with someone for two years, and we both had engineering majors, but we only had one class together, by accident. I virtually never saw him walking on campus even though we were both in the engineering and physics buildings a lot.
So I would not rule out attending the same school for any perceived influence on privacy or confusion, because of different majors.
As for different graduation days, most colleges do have their schedules set year to year, so you could end up with colleges that have at least between their current graduations and hope for the best. My son’s college started a week after my employer started classes, so their commencements were over a week apart.
As a mother of twins, I’m pretty sensitive to this, and there’s a lot going on here.
From what I’ve observed, the majority of advantages to you going to the same school are for your parents. It’s easier on parents for scheduling, travelling, logins, paperwork, etc. Your father’s no fool. He’s trying to make his life easier. Frankly, if he’s paying for college and you don’t have any financial restrictions, you are pretty much stuck following his rules.
All other things being equal, in general, twins can greatly benefit by going their own ways. You’ve been a daily part of each others’ lives since you were born, and having something that’s entirely your own can’t be overestimated. It’s true you may not see each other on a regular basis if you went to the same school, but that’s not the same as going to different schools and having your own experience. This is not to say that twins automatically suffer if they go to the same school – my twins applied, were accepted, and nearly attended the same small LAC, and I was fine with that. But I’m glad they’re going their separate ways.
However. If your financial assistance depends on following your father’s rules, you have to decide if your independence is worth it. “Following your dream” is not worth a fortune in debt when you’ve got a good alternative.