<p>1012mom,
I definitely agree with you that, at BS, being part of the close village-like community does require its citizens to be more selfless in the way you describe. A preening hyper-competitive selfish style does not work well in such a place!! The BS students begin to see each other as whole people, not just in terms of their grades or other achievements. They value all the subtle inter-personal contributions that their colleagues make to the bring the community together. To me, this is a kind of maturity.</p>