I’d really be curious about this Bob and happy to go to the gathering to see what I can casually learn by attending. It’s nice you were invited so you could attend if desired.
It’s a three-hour drive, will require a hotel stay since Bob will be at mil’s, dh is in the middle of training for a 50k. But, I offered to sil if she wants moral support.
We weren’t originally invited. I’m trying to find the right balance and not forcibly interject my way in. Mil’s sister and bil will be there as my nephew and his roommate, and Friend Cathy and her dh. If we were local, we would be invited and would go.
We are meeting Bob in two weeks anyway when mil comes up here.
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Boy—seems like Bob will have many eyes on him as he woos MIL. Hope all goes well with MIL. Looks like you have a lot going on and more opportunities to meet Bob without the drive and hotel stay.
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Sorry – I had thought you had previously posted that it was 3-hours round trip. 3-hours one way makes it a much bigger deal.
Hope it all goes well!
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If ya travel to the party, you may get roped into giving Bob a ride. That may be a little too much time with him 
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We’re not going down on Tuesday, that’s for sure.
We are already talking about what family holidays might look like with Bob in the picture. My dh said, “You’ll finally get your wish and get to stay in a hotel.”
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I love that everyone seems to have a sense of humor about this.
If your mil moves to your town, holidays may be different, I’m glad that the couple is working at getting to know each other before they embark on a cruise.
You’ll meet Bob in due time. Or 2 weeks whichever comes sooner 
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Really appreciate your sharing this journey with all of us. It would make me apprehensive if someone I loved was embarking on a romance later in life when judgment was a bit iffy. Good luck to all!
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I laugh when this thread title is next to the thread “Difficulty finding a significant other in 20’ and 30’s.” Just wait a few decades.
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I know. I kinda wonder if my single 27-year-old ds is like, “Dang! Even my grandmother can find someone!”
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This is so funny. 
Truly besides her finances (and maybe STD’s…) while we can judge Bob, the situation or whatever, to desire a partner relationship …who are we to deny anyone that?
I hope Bob proves us all wrong and that they can at least have a nice friendship
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So we might see you start a “what do I buy my MIL’s boyfriend or new hubby for Christmas” thread? 
I’m thinking of gift ideas like “soap on a rope” for him, and smthg from Caswell Massey for MIL (so that soap on a rope doesn’t seem overly personal) , matching house-robes with their respective initials, etc.
Just thinking of fun future threads, lol.
(Maybe I need a hobby?!)
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Ummm, mil already told Friend L (who told sil who told me) that she’s really enjoying the s&x
TMI!!!
Remember, they’ve only had four days/nights together F2F thus far.
So, this whole, “Can’t wait until July 14 to see you,” by Bob is clearly a b@&ty call.
It’s just A LOT
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Omg I missed that tidbit of you shared it before…!
How many times have they seen each other since “reunited”? He came to her house - was there another meeting - I’m gonna have to take better notes!!! 
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No! Tuesday will only be the second F2F meeting!
Meaning in recent times and in this relationship.
They grew up together in the same small town, went out a couple of times in high school their senior year, graduated from high school together, and have seen each other at class reunions.
Didn’t you post earlier that after their first meeting she said she wasn’t interested?
Did something change or did I misremember ?
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She sent him home after breakfast, as far as I remember.
You are NOT misremembering. That was a text mil sent 4-5 hours after he arrived.
It was apparently sent before they got to, “know,” each other. On that visit (the only F2F thus far), he was supposed to have stayed three nights. He stayed four. We also later learned he had a bit of a breakdown about his divorce when he first arrived. Didn’t want it/was blindsided by it. I think that show of emotion was initially off-putting to mil and why she sent that initial text, but I am speculating.
Two days after he left, she announced they were doing a Transatlantic crossing together on the Queen Mary II in early August. No plans to see each other before then. But, then she was going to visit him in mid-July. But then he couldn’t wait that long to see her, so now he’s driving to her place again on Tuesday.
It’s a fast-moving situation.
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After four nights.
I agree her wording had a negative connotation. As though she sent him packing.
She’s holding her cards close to the vest.
Indeed!
Well, it sounds like she’s having fun!
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