I’m glad your H survived his 50K—that’s quite a feat! Hope he learns more. I hope he is able to encourage his mom to keep her options open by keeping her house so she has a plan B in case Bob doesn’t work out. Sounds like she has a lot to think about between now and cruise. I’m surprised Bob is “letting” her be so far from him for so long.
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Thanks for reminding us!
And BIG congrats to your husband! Truly amazing and any fitness person would be impressed!! 
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Talked to sil. Dh not home yet, but I think she filled me in on just about everything.
It sounds like their discussion was very civil. Sil said mil was hedging much less and answered all the questions as best as she could. It doesn’t sound like they are rushing to the altar anytime soon, which is good. I think mil will be thoughtful about any decision about moving up here whether she marries Bob or not.
Talked about her house and holding onto it for a while if she moved in with Bob. That may be the biggest challenge. Her HOA allows no rentals ever. Dh also talked about where she should pull money from to pay the buy in should she proceed to avoid unintended tax consequences. Also discussed the issue related to his right to elect against the will if she doesn’t address that in a pre-nup. She said my dh would accompany her to any and all future finance meetings with the CCRC should she decide to proceed.
They will not see each other for the next two weeks.
As I’ve said before, I think their spending nearly three weeks together will be very helpful in assessing if this is going to move forward.
Fees are $3,600 per person for his level of housing (which is the highest type).
Sounds like things went as well as one could have hoped for. All in all, I’m relieved.
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I’m glad she has these weeks to think about what SHE wants and how things may change if she opts to move. Since this romance is so new, much can happen in two weeks
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Gives time for a clear mind to take hold. It’s why time share sellers don’t let you go home to “think about it.”
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Okay, I might be incorrect about the paying the differential part if he predeceases her. And that might depend on if they are married or not.
I’m hopeful she truly will include dh on further financial meetings with the CCRC.
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Your MIL is lucky to have more time to clear her head and so fortunate your H is helping with her finances and has her trust. She can make better choices with her strong supports.
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Sounds like the initial rush might be waning a bit. Which is terrific. There aren’t a lot of people in the world that I’d be able to tolerate on a cruise ship for a week… and perhaps MIL is slowly appreciating her “tryout” period!
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I’m really glad that MIL is willing to listen to advice and talk to her “kids.”
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3 weeks of togetherness in a cabin cruising will definitely allow one to see more of what one may be getting him/her self in for. It’s challenging to be on one’s best behavior for an entire 3 weeks of close quarters.
Wishing your MIL the best in her important deliberations and analysis as she proceeds (or opts to go in other directions).
This two weeks of cooling off time is invaluable as well.
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We have learned Bob was married to wife #1 (the mother of their two children) for 27 years. She divorced him because he was cheating with the woman who became wife #2. We have heard that wife #2 divorced him because she supposedly found someone with more $$. Don’t know how long he was married to her. He was married to wife #3 for 17 years. She is the one who died. Married to wife #4 for 7.5 years. She divorced him.
So, all three of the wives from whom he is divorced filed.
Apparently he wanted to go back to visit mil this upcoming week, but she told him, “No.” My guess is because she is busy packing and gathering last-minute items for the trip, but idk. She’s getting a dress altered today.
Mil will be back here with him on Sunday, August 3rd. Four days here before they leave for NY to catch the ship. I’ve no idea if I/we will see her/them before they fly out. I am guessing not. I am not going to initiate anything since she kind of flaked on me last time.
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I’m not thinking is a bad marriage record. Sure, he was wrong for having an affair but he’s not the first to do that. Sounds like second wife was looking for money and he didn’t have enough. Third marriage was successful.
At 85, if Bob and MIL get another 7 year marriage, they’d be lucky.
I really am hoping for the best for them.
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For the fashion folks:
There are two themed gala nights on the crossing. One is red and gold, and one is Roaring 20s.
She is wearing the pants with the floral jacket for the red and gold night. Wearing the flapper accessories with the long dress for Roaring 20s night.
I’m honestly a little concerned she may be underdressed. Pics I’ve seen from the Cunard FB page seem to indicate that at least some folks go all out for the themed gala nights.
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I think she’ll be just fine with those outfits There will be people more dressed up and less dressed up. Wide range!
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I like the outfits. Cruises are supposed to be fun, even the dress up nights, and she’ll be relaxed to have fun.
I think it is silly to bring tons of clothes that can’t be worn on different nights, and these can be.
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Dress code for non gala nights is, “Smart attire”
I’m not concerned she will be underdressed. I think there will be people who don’t dress for the theme or have only 1 accessory to match the theme. They are not the ones who make sure to get pics taken, are featured in brochures, are putting themselves/are displayed on internet media.
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Will she care if she’s underdressed? Husband and I are definitely not good at “themed” events, and we might put some level of effort into it, but we wouldn’t care if we were somewhat underdressed compared to others on a cruise full of people we don’t know. If we were doing a family event kind of thing, we would likely try a little harder.
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