I think it’s okay to have a couple more people (versus just SIL) be there when Bob comes over to MIL house for the first time; bc multiple people means more feedback and viewpoints to size him up, too.
And it lets Bob know that your mother has people who care about her and who are watching him.
I like that it’s a little gathering. Feels more like a mini drinks party than a pressured one on one or a single chaperone. It says social vs romance.
Re: the Happy Hour gathering.
Turns out (per my sil) that mil had always wanted to have a little gathering but felt she couldn’t invite Friend C and hubby without inviting Friend L (who is also a neighbor three houses down) and hubby. Friend L is the one who tried to take over all aspects of the Temecula girls trip. Now that Friend L has asked for, “space,” after bowing out of that trip, mil doesn’t feel bad not inviting her to the Bob happy hour. Mil didn’t want to listen to Friend L tell her what to do about Bob for the next week after she met him 
This is better than soap operas. I am impatiently waiting to hear what happens when they do meet and have the cocktail party.
I do hope the MIL finds her happiness. I think there are people who like to have a partner in their lives. It can be lonely when one gets old.
I think we’re all hoping for happiness for the MIL, whatever that looks like! It is quite the story, and we’re following along :).
I think we need a nanny cam spying on the Happy Hour. We all want to be there, see if there is a first impression rose, judge the outfits.
(Just kidding of course)
I actually know a few couples who got together after high school reunions and lived happily ever after.
Ehhhhhhhhh, seeing what happened to Anne Boleyn, she should had the sense to NOT cheat on old Henry.
Unless…that was the only way to ensure an heir.
Well, that was quick!
So, Bob arrived at mil’s house today around noon, and I received the following text from sil around 5:00 pm.
Fwd:From mom just now
Bob and I have already made the decision that we’re not long lost lovers, but we’re still interested in happy hour tomorrow if y’all want come and meet him.
No deets. Should know more after sil meets him tomorrow and definitely after he departs. Do wonder if he’ll stay until Saturday or leave on Friday.
Fun while it lasted.
Well that ending was a let down
But - better than some things that could have happened.
Good!
My dad, 88, is still seeing his lady friend, 83. But after his stroke in January, their relationship isn’t the same. He’s doing better now, though, so who knows. LF had said she couldn’t afford to move into Dad’s facility, so he pays for Uber so she can go back and forth. But then she talked to her financial advisor, and he said her money would last until she’s 110 even if she moves. She likes where she lives now, so it will be interesting to see what she decides. Sis and I don’t mind Dad spending money on her, because she really is helpful.
Your MIL probably dodged a bullet there.
All so interesting @Hoggirl ! Like, how did they decide so quick? Was it a physical thing? I know you don’t know but as an avid “watcher” it makes me wonder!
I know, right?!?!
They’d been texting and talking every day for at least 5-6 weeks, and in four and a half hours it was already a, “Nope!”
But it sounds like MIL has perhaps rekindled a friendship, even if it does not seem like it will be a romantic pairing.
Did they see each other on Facetime or did they see each other for the first time? Did they figure out there was no chemistry when they actually saw each other?
I think they just saw each other for the first time. But, I’m pretty sure they had exchanged recent photos. They did not FaceTime
SisIL is likely quite relieved by this development so no one threatens her relationship with MIL.