Maybe he had B.O. or bad manners. Or she did.
Sort of like when Mary Tyler Moore and Lou Grant tried a date. They did a quick kiss, both started laughing and then they went back to the old relationship (Mary and Mr. Grant).
As you said, just not meant to be.
Sometimes you “click” and sometimes you don’t. It’s good for folks to recognize it and not try to force something that just doesn’t work.
When I was single, I’ve dated men where it just didn’t work as a romance. We were friends but never got past the friend-zone in my mind/heart. It could have been as simple as that.
It could be physical/chemistry of a host of things—glad they’re not stuck on a cruise in a cabin together—that could cause a ton of issues.
If anyone is still following along here is sil’s text after having met Bob at the Happy Hour gathering:
Bob seems to be quite into Mom. Guess I’ll get the whole story when he leaves.
So I called sil. She said he seemed very nice. Sat right next to mil on the sofa and would occasionally touch her arm. So we’re kinda confused. She did say he seemed more into her than she was into him, but she also kept saying, “I don’t know!” over and over again.
Tomorrow I’m going to casually ask how the visit is going on our Wordle/Quordle text the three of us do each morning.
I’m concerned he is a gold digger…
I don’t think mil has that much gold??? I mean, her house is paid off, and she is certainly comfortable.
I don’t think of her as, “wealthy.”
But, you may be right. I do wonder if he’s developed some expensive habits. Wife #3 was pretty well off.
Love bombing?!?! With his track record, hope she remains cautious.
Or he just wants to get laid.
Or he may be just interested in whatever he can get at the moment. He may be a gold digger AND want to get “some action.” Who knows?
Maybe he is running out of funds to pay for his nice living arrangements and is looking for an easy way to fund his living expenses? Like moving your MIL in with him and having her pay monthly bills. Smells like a rat to me.
I wouldn’t trust “Bob” at all and hope that MIL stays wary and the SIL does as well. “Friends” is fine, as long as no one is taking advantage of the other “friend.” “Bob” really has quite the track record—sorry but 4 failed marriages tell a sad story.
And…NO cruise!
They are not mutually exclusive😀
I was wondering if he just came in too strong/pushy/presumptuous (in a sexual way), and if that could have been why there was such a quick and definitive shutdown. A lot of other problems could have been slow-rolled.
The big question is: will she say???
Sil thinks she will after he leaves. If not right away, then for sure once they get on their trip to Temecula and are a few wine tastings in 
I asked on our group text what was on everyone’s agenda for the day, and this was the reply and follow-up from mil.
She doesn’t know that sil copied and pasted that first text about not being long lost lovers to me.
This is the kind of monosyllabic reply I expect from my ds . She’s really holding her cards close to the vest.
We so enjoy and appreciate you sharing this season of the Golden Bachelorette with us!!! Maybe she should apply…..??? 
It’s making me question if maybe I need to get a new hobby or two for myself
Well I got pretty darn excited when I saw I had posts to read in this thread today.
Clearly I need some hobbies, too! (Bc the sight of my kindle doesn’t excite me near as much as seeing these post updates.)
I’m relieved that my folks had each other and didn’t have any interest in starting new romances later in life. It certainly gives the next generation a lot to think about, particularly about how to help keep the elders safe as they explore new relationships.
hahahahaha
