@Youdon_tsay - I mean, I guess mil could demand to see his supporting documents. As part of the pre-nup, they each individually attest that the balance sheet they have provided is true to the best of their knowledge. A couple of the numbers on his are pretty precise (to the penny and as of a specific date). The car and boat are likely estimates by him, but it hardly seems worth quibbling over. The cash items are precise, so I think they are probably true. I have not spoken to mil since our tea other than on our group Wordle/Quordle texts where we kind of discuss our plans for the day.
@abasket - @conmama has it right. Mil very much likes to be waited on. Expects to be waited on. And, I agree with her assessment- after waiting on fil for 58 years, I think she felt like she’d earned a turn. But, it was tiresome to have her visit when we lived in Florida.
She has always made jabs about my height. “Is that step stool for short, squatty people?” “Can you reach that in that cabinet?” Etc. She’s called 5’2” Friend L a midget to her face. And, yes, she tends to have what I call, “observational negativity,” where she constantly comments on the physical appearance of others. Height, weight, etc. I finally reached a bit of a limit the last time we were in her town visiting. She’d received their professional pics from the Transatlantic crossing. On showing us the one with the captain, she said, “He wasn’t a very big fellow.” (Bob is tall. Fil was tall. Tall is definitely viewed as, “superior,” and desirable in her mind for both men and women). My ds is 5’9”, and I’ve commented on some of the young people dating threads that the setting of height filtering at 6’ annoys me. So, I will concede that I am probably hyper sensitive about height. Anyway, when she commented that the captain, “wasn’t a very big fellow,” I looked straight into her eyes and calmly said, “Ds must be such a disappointment to you since he isn’t tall.” She had no response. Whew - talk about off-topic - sorry!
Overall, she is a good mother-in-law. She does not meddle. She was a wonderful grandparent to ds as he was growing up, which means so much to me since both my parents died before dh and I were even married. I really don’t have standing to complain. Lord knows, I am sure that I annoy her as well!
@sbinaz makes excellent points. As do others! This is a significant change for mil. I’m sure it is both physically and mentally exhausting.
They are headed to NOLA tomorrow as Bob is on a panel discussion there on Friday for some petroleum conference. Or something like that. Dh is taking them to the airport in the morning. Quick trip. Back on Friday and then back to her town on Sunday.
) I think he is a lonely person who needs a woman to feel good about himself and to tend to his various needs (ahem) and finding one who can more than carry her own financially is a plus.
