She is some better. How kind of you to ask! Still has a terrible cough I’d honestly feel better if she’d get a chest x-ray.
She signed the pre-nup today! 
However, I don’t think she’s planning on getting married on Monday, since she is still not feeling great.
They return to our town tomorrow.
That’s a like for the prenup and the wedding postponement, not the cough.
There’s a new strain of flu that’s horrific. A friend had it, and even with the vaccine, it knocked her out like nothing she’s ever had, she said.
Coughs can really linger—weeks to months. Maybe a new MD who could see her in your town could order an X-ray to be sure it hasn’t turned into pneumonia and whatever antibiotic really took care of any bacterial infection.
Many urgent cares also have X-ray machines. (I’ve gotten an x-ray performed and read by a radiologist at urgent care). It needed to be re-read and a more x-(rays at orthopedic urgent care because there was some question as to whether there was a fracture or not.
Turns out the urgent care ER doc was right that it was fractured but the radiologist said it wasn’t The orthopedic urgent care showed the fractured bones even better
@Hoggirl hoping you don’t get a “surprise” text or call tomorrow that they did indeed tie the knot.
On the other hand do you think they might do it - but not tell others right away??
I guess once they get married we will have a new thread - Season 2, The Honeymoon, and Beyond…
Well, I hope your MIL fully recovers from her infection(s) and is able to move forward in a way that works well for her. I hope she and Bob become more responsive and responsible to people who care about them.
I think MIL would do this! If she’s willing to go to a restaurant when she feels bad, unless it’s much worse, she’ll get married I bet!
Mil texted today on the group (mil, sil, and I) that she has not, “crouped,” one time this morning. Her coughing has, thankfully, much improved.
Mil had texted me separately about Thanksgiving plans, so I asked her outright about a new marriage date. She had told sil directly they weren’t getting married today but not dh and me. Here is a screenshot of her reply:
Mil has had a neighbor in her town contact her about buying her house. Dh is going to call mil today about that and about his driving her back to her town so the three of them (and possibly my nephew) can go through items in the house. There isn’t much my dh wants. Some memorabilia of his dad’s from his college football playing and refereeing era which spanned decades. They do not want Bob to go down for that trip. They would like that to be a nuclear family time. I have no intention of going either. Dh envisions this as a one-night trip. This would also allow mil to drive her car back here. She could follow dh back.
So do you think she is thinking of unloading the house? Last I remember she was going to keep that link to her life for now??
Oh good idea for her to have her own car at the condo. That will help a lot with her independence I hope!
She was originally going to keep it a year or two. Then for some reason she switched to selling it in March.
I remember helping my mom with some financial things when she was in her mid- and late 80s. If she wanted to do something that didn’t make the MOST financial sense but wasn’t a big deal either, I let her do it. That house sale sounds similar. Personally, I’d rather she keep the house so she’d have an escape hatch in case things go south with Bob, but even if that does happen it could make sense that she live in a smaller, more manageable place. And, certainly, March is the right timing where I live.
And if someone wants to buy it, that can save her a lot on real estate listing fees and the hassle of showings.
It’s also possible that as she’s worked her way down the Bob road, she’s decided that a move to a CCRA makes sense for her. Meaning the house does not.
It doesn’t sound like any of her thinking revolves around the marriage not working out, and that is pretty normal (and healthy) - especially for that generation.
Glad for everyone that there is already a buyer.
Oh, I don’t know that this person will wind up being the buyer. My dh hasn’t talked to his mother specifically about this. It’s REALLY hard for me not to nag him. What he has talked to her specifically about is driving her back to her town so, mil, sil, and he could go through her home and sort through what items that she doesn’t want that they might want. Then she can drive her car back to our town with him following her
Mil’s neighborhood is pretty desirable, so I don’t think he feels the need to jump on the first thing that comes along. However, he hasn’t communicated with the potential buyer, so we don’t know what the offer will be.
She (potential buyer) is a former real estate professional. As is my husband. He didn’t work in residential real estate very long, and he isn’t licensed in our state, but he feels comfortable helping his mother navigate through this. He works in commercial real estate now in a financial capacity. We also have several friends who work in real estate.
He pulled sales for the last three years. Fourteen houses have sold in that time.So he thinks he has a good idea of the valuation.
But, yes, it is encouraging that someone is already knocking on her door. Friend L (who lives in mil’s neighborhood) says most homes sell by word of mouth.
Hopefully they aren’t seeing her house as a quick grab from an older lady who doesn’t know any better!
Thought I’d put this here
We are in a cruise, asked my husband if he wanted to do the thermal spa or tea.
He picked tea
FYI, there were tons of men there with their significant others
Nice! Enjoy. 
My husband would have picked the tea, too - for sure!
My H would have picked tea also, but his family is Scottish heritage and H loves a good afternoon tea!
My dh would’ve picked the thermal sauna and then complained about how hot it was.
A friend had to move her mom after the stepdad died pretty unexpectedly. The neighbors bought the house and moved her parents in. I hope you get something that smooth.
