<p>I love the comment about “breaking them in”…you must be weatherproof leather?</p>
<p>Combat high heels babe…;)</p>
<p>Speaking of the cruel shoes…</p>
<p>From life experiences on our honeymoon, we were spending a day walking around a city near where we were staying. I told my wife “you know we’re doing alot of walking today, make sure you wear some comfortable shoes.” She pulls out a pair of 3" heels. "Don’t you have tennis shoes? " “these will be fine.” OK? </p>
<p>About an hour into our walk…“my feet are killing me.” “Really? I had no idea.”
She’s a bit more sensible now. She realizes the 17 inches difference in height isn’t going to be overcome by 3" heels. ;)</p>
<p>Okay, one of the hardest parts about this break up is still to come…proms, graduations, etc cause this piece of work of a male seems the type to be obnoxious about his new “friends”…she probablly assumed she was going with this jerk, and now its all up in the air…so if she isn’t going to the senior prom, and that night comes up (she is in a different grade right?) then plan a fun girls night with her friends, or a show or something to distract</p>
<p>that is how we mom’s can he;p iwth the heartache</p>
<p>Oh, I see why it’s confusing…</p>
<p>Not “Holding back important mistakes you made during those years, helps a great deal.”</p>
<p>lead fingers this morning.</p>
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<p>Lol, that’s really funny! I wondered when you said earlier that you should share your mistakes if you meant ALL your mistakes…</p>
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How odd. When TheMom and I are asked how many children we have, I say “one” and she says “two.”</p>
<p>A lot of kids here go to the beach unchaperoned at Spring Break and high school graduation (I think I must be in your state SharonD). I did it myself 25 years ago. S1 did it his senior year. He didn’t stay in a hotel though. One of his friends has a beach house that the family let them use and it was not in a “party beach” location. I’m not saying they were choir boys ( I’m sure a lot went on that I’m better off not knowing) but they did have a great time and came back all in one piece and nobody got arrested. It was the same for me when I graduated.</p>
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<p>Lol, That’s how I feel sometimes too, I have 4 unruly sons, not 3! I’m definitely outnumbered :)</p>
<p>Packmom, I was surprised that they could rent a place without a parent, but I’ve been told in a pm that if you’re 18, you can rent a room, and that if there is any damage, the amount goes on the credit card. I’m sure there have been some pretty shocked parents over the years that got that “incidental damage” charge after the fact. </p>
<p>This is just not something kids do around here, it hasn’t ever come up, so we haven’t had to make a decision about whether to allow it or not.</p>
<p>Wow!! Can’t bellieve the advice here. First, there is a problem if this guy had major character issues and your daughter didn’t know it. That really doesn’t sound like the case though. Do you really expect a kid to never experiment and be a teenager including some things you’ll probably regret?</p>
<p>From what I’ve seen, your daughter may well end up being the type when she goes away to school who goes wild when she realizes the things you’ve been telling her are normal all of her life really are not.</p>
<p>SpS,</p>
<p>Good point. Alot of the kids from “good homes” fall into that overdo group.</p>
<p>My mother doesn’t hesitate to tell me the mistakes she made at my age. She has also always give me an honest assessment of any guy I brought home which I totally respect because she’s open to different types of people. Good kids drink sometimes, trust me! The hardest working best students in the country. They don’t make a habit of it but bright minds do want to explore. My mother understands this. Don’t get me wrong, there better be no drinking at her house and I better not be caught drinking at school or driving, but she expects I’ll have a drink before I’m 21:)</p>
<p>I’m only 17, but I’ve never been involved with a guy who surprised me in any way. The girls who I see who are involved with sketchy guys tend to be naive and sheltered.</p>
<p>Who ever said don’t bet it’s over is right. Everyone is enjoying the drama too much. If your daughter told him to get lost in a serious way (not lets be friends and go on a double date to the prom) he would take her seriously unless he’s a psycho.</p>
<p>So you’ve heard of the “other” 3 Little Pigs, as told by the Big Bad Wolf? OK for the sake of Devils Advocate here goes. You’re welcome to give feedback/corrections</p>
<p>So my girlfriend…she’s really sweet. I really love her. We’ve been going out for a year now ya know, and now that I’m a sr and getting ready to go off to college me and my buds are going on a spring break trip to the beach. My best friend has a condo and we’re just gonna chill, hang out get some rays and drink a little brew. Anyway, all of a sudden my gf, she’s going crazy over it. I think she wants me to hang with her and her family at their place. She’s saying it’s cuz Im drinking and all, but actually, she’s been to a few parties where there has been a keg and never had a problem. Anyway, I think shes bummed because I wont be spending brake with her, and imm leavin in the fall and shes staying behind and all. So Ive been trying to jtalk to her about it but I think her moms in on it and buggin g her about breaking up with me. So I dont want this to be a big deal and I dont want to brake up and I odont think she does either.</p>
<p>Your viewpoint may be perfectly valid, doubleplay, but I’ll tell you something - as a mother of a daughter, I don’t care what his viewpoint is. I only care about what her viewpoint is. I’m not an unbiased observer; I’m a mother bear protecting her cub. And I’ve always told her that if something doesn’t feel right, it’s probably not.</p>
<p>chevda, you’re right. I hope I didn’t offend- just trying to throw some lightheartedness into this. If he was trying to talk her into experimenting with alcohol or drugs, or bullying her, or physically abusing her, I wouldn’t have responded that way.</p>
<p>Break… the other you do to stop a car. 
But you have a valid point about pov.</p>
<p>thanks,
I was trying to rite in character. The typos were intentional two.</p>
<p>ANYWAY…
don’t mean to hijack or sidetrack. You’re daughter is better off without him. She’s outgrown him.</p>
<p>Why was she reading his texts?</p>
<p>doubleplay…I enjoyed your ‘take’ on what you think is really going on here with D and her X-boyfriend, unless of course your story was about you and your sweet thing. However, believe it or not my D has never been to a party where there was a keg although I am sure she has had the opportunity and will probably do so once she is in college.</p>
<p>As far as her being upset about his going to the beach with his buds and the drinking issue, she was willing to trust him and hope that he would be safe and act responsibly even though she wasn’t thrilled about it. That was until she found out Sat. night that he has been talking to another girl and was probably very close to hooking up with her and this was without being at the beach with his buds and the beer. He knows he was a moron and messed up a good thing because the 40+ text messages he has sent her in the last day or so are saying just that…his words not hers or mine. </p>
<p>I am sure D is overly sensitive to the drinking issue because 2 years ago when she was 14 our neighbors’ 19 year old son died in front of our house after an afternoon of drinking when he fell out of the back of a pick-up truck. She saw it all because she heard them racing down the street and got up to look out the window right as the boys’ best friend jerked the steering wheel causing him to slam into the side of the truckbed and tossed into the air like a ragdoll. He landed on the pavement on the back of his head and died in his mothers arms from massive head trauma and blood loss. There was a lawsuit from the accident and D being the only witness had to go to court and testify on behalf of his family as to what she saw.</p>
<p>Anyway…she made the decision on her own to break-up with him even though she really cares for him and he is begging her to take him back and promising her the world. As far as her being left behind while he was going to be enjoying his break at the beach with his buds and beer, she was and still is also going to the beach and taking several friends with her and I promise you they will have a blast. Our condo has a beautiful pool right outside and it is always amusing to watch and see just how many boys gather around trying to get their attention and flexing their muscles…you know how you guys do. D isn’t just a nice girl she also happens to be gorgeous…be glad to email you a pic if you want. She will be fine…he on the other hand is a mess right now.</p>
<p>unregistered…she was reading his texts because a friend of hers told her she heard he was texting and calling a girl that goes to her friends school. When D asked him about him and he denied it she said “then you won’t mind me looking at your phone” she looked…she saw…she read…and she canned him.</p>