<p>I’d just break up with the other person if I were ever i that situation. It’ll save me alot of trouble.</p>
<p>If you don’t want to hear or seek opinions about your relationship, why in the world did you ask on a forum? </p>
<p>And if someone has a different take on your relationship, you get all huffy</p>
<p>You asked, and shared, and from what YOU shared and how YOU described your relationship, I gave my opinion</p>
<p>I can only judge from what YOU tell me, Enn, so if it doesn’t fit into what you were hoping to hear, well grow up a bit</p>
<p>Asking for opinions, well that means you are going to get some, doesn’t it, and not all are going to make you happy.</p>
<p>If you want to talk about respect, just look inward a bit.</p>
<p>And if I don’t think your relationship is great, well, all I know about it is from you…</p>
<p>I don’t hate you, why would you say that, and I really don’t care who you make out with, but remember you asked the question yourself if it was cheating, and if you don’t think it is, well, fine and dandy</p>
<p>But I have to tell you, feelings to come into play and people do get hurt…and if you want to think it is all okay with you if the person you are in love with can make out with other people, well, that of course is your choice…as it is anyones</p>
<p>and yes, people do “slip”, but if they care about the relationship, they will maybe feel a little bad about it IF the relationship has any meaning at all</p>
<p>you can say you have a BF and are in love and all that swell stuff while still making out with another guy, but most people try and set up boundaries because they respect the other person and control the phyiscal desires, because the relationship is more valuable than getting some on the side</p>
<p>ps- How is it going, anyway?</p>
<p>Long distance relationships never last. it’s that simple.
and, like CGM said, howz it going?</p>
<p>Alright College Confidential, you have never heard neverborn say this before. Ever.</p>
<p>Citygirlsmom is right.</p>
<p>stuck: Yes they do.</p>
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<p>okay, maybe some of them do. But in this case, since they both feel that it’s okay to flirt with other people or whatever (I can’t rememberthe exact problem), it might not have a happy ending.</p>
<p>It’s going stonger than ever.</p>
<p>Enn: Is this because neither have you have cheated on each other?</p>
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<p>Agreed! Love alone isn’t enough to make the relationship good. It also requires lots of interaction (duh), fun (gotta keep it fresh!), and respect (another duh). :)</p>
<p>love is but a chemical reaction inside the brain. Once the two (or more) people involved in a relationship get angry with each other (one [or more] cheated on another) then the brain stops secreting the chemicals that produce that feeling. And thus the “love” is gone.</p>
<p>and I hate it when people say “I’ll love with all my heart”
The heart PUMPS BLOOD! It’s not the touchy feely part of our body. The Brain is!!
say" I love you with all my brain…</p>
<p>**** relationships. Females lie. I am permanently done with anything beyond casual sex.</p>
<p><em>**** relationships. Females lie. I am permanently done with anything beyond casual sex.</em></p>
<p>Better be careful with that too, if she’s not satisfied the day after she can accuse you of rape, claim that the baby she delivers a few years later was yours, etc etc. </p>
<p>Do what you want to, but from this one post (I didn’t read your others), it looks like you might be interested in joining the marriage strike and I’m just passing along information I learned from people already in that movement (and other places).</p>
<p>^Wow…yes because that is the typical response to casual sex…:/</p>
<p>Actually I cheated on him… but not really. But I guess mentaly. Hard to explain.</p>
<p>Still going strong.</p>
<p>o_o
does he know?</p>
<p>Alright time to set this thread straight.</p>
<p>It’s all about honesty. If you guys agreed to an “open” relationship, then when you screw another person its not cheating. And btw, you can’t limit the “openness” to kissing or what not, when you’re attracted to a person, you’re either going to act on it or not act on it. You can’t start making out then convince yourself to ‘not go any further,’ it doesn’t make much sense.</p>
<p>Again, you guys were honest and defined the relationship as open. And if you fool around with someone, you should be honest and be willing to tell your bf if he asks. Don’t bring it up yourself but if he asks be honest. I mean he told you that you can fool around if you want, so if you do, just tell him. If he gets upset, remind him that he said he thought it was okay. Obviously, if he changes his mind you may have to change to an exclusive relationship if that’s what you want.</p>
<p>For those of you who have taken Psych 101, you are probably aware than biologically men are more concerned with their partner’s sexual infidelity and women are more concerned with their partner’s emotional (falling in love) infidelity. Just a heads up. Btw evolution has nothing to do with morality, it’s just how the most survivable humans were wired.</p>
<p>Btw, there is nothing wrong with open relationships, as long as the honesty remains. It’s just a matter of personal opinion whether you’d be willing to do one or feel its right, etc.</p>
<p>hey Stuck-- it’s hilarious how some people worship science like it’s a god. Yeah, your mind is just a bunch of buzzes of electricity-- so why should I give a **** about anything you have to say? Your definition of love is merely an operational defintion of love; a grounded, measurable term used to help scientists conduct experiments. The scientists themselve don’t even claim its all-ecompassing. Science cannot give an essentialist definition of love. In fact, science cannot answer ANY essentialist questions: What is the meaning of life? Is there a God? What is life? What is love? Why are there atoms? What is gravity? Why is there gravity? the list goes on. In other words, science cannot answer any of the IMPORTANT questions. Yeah, science is pretty powerful, huh.</p>
<p>If you don’t believe love is real, fine, but don’t try to bring others down just because some relationship you had turned sour, or someone dumped you. Funny how your new beliefs are an emotional response rather than rationally thought out.</p>
<p>And Vail, don’t become a women-hater. Yes, they act and think differently but don’t take it too seriously. Don’t use women for self-validation or to fill some void, either. Only you can do that.</p>
<p>Yeah, of course he knows, Crash.</p>
<p>It is about honesty. We’re really trying to make this work by just putting everything out there for the other to see. It’s hard and a little scary to be so honest about yourself and how you feel about them…</p>
<p>Relationships do take work, but it should also be easy</p>
<p>If alot of time is spent analyzing, confessing, talking about who you really like outside the relationship, it can take over…and I have to tell you, any guy that is okay with you lusting after others and making out with, really doesn’t care that much for you, no matter what he claims, or he is saying things just to keep the peace</p>
<p>but if you have the special “relationship” where you talk about all the other people in your life you are attracted to, neato</p>
<p>All this talk about “honesty”- I don’t think you are really being truely honest with yourself, because if you cared so much about you BF, other guys woulnd’nt interest you beyond friendship, because THAT is an adult “relationship” - caring for someone enough that others just don’t do it for you, but hey, whatever floats your boat- see you will truely know deep love and caring when you would do nothing to hurt the other person, you would be true to them, and no body else is even in your line of vision, that is not to say you are dead, but that you wouldn’t consider doing anything that might cause harm because that person means that much- that is love- you can call it a “relationship” if you want, and if you need to, but think about this, all the people you know, they know you are in a relationship, yet, you are willing to cheat, wonder what they think about you then</p>
<p>I showed my HS d’s your posts, and they laughed…yeah, sure…they said, any girl that says she is in a relationship and they can see other people and fool around and make out or whatever is just kidding herself, and they said they would have no respect for the “relationship”, whatever that meant to the people involved</p>
<p>so think about what your family thinks of how you want this relationship to be, your friends, his friends…hey dude, heard Enn was hooking up with Ben…Uh, it is okay with me, we have an open relationship…sure…</p>
<p>cgm’s right. if the relationship was truly an honest one, you wouldn’t have even considered cheating on him. (the same goes for him)…
did he cheat on you too or is it just you?</p>