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I’d have said, since I am obviously too incompetent to do this job, you now own it. Thanks, and have fun.</p>
<p>That said, with both of you working full time, hire a cleaning service. You shouldn’t be spending your spare time scrubbing toilets.</p>
<p>My 2c.</p>
<p>That’s what you should spend the $25K on, not a motorcycle! You can get 7 or 8 years of weekly cleaning service @ $75/week for that amount. :)</p>
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<p>Wonder why the Mr is not cleaning the toilet himself since he obviously think he can do a better job. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>I agree about hiring a cleaning service.</p>
<p>HCP Do you think he really wants to move to the home office city? Or is this a red herring to deflect attention from his inappropriate remarks? I’d let him have ample oppty to demonstrate his superior toilet cleaning skills…</p>
<p>If he’s serious about the move, is there actually a job offer on the table? What about the impact on your childern, the rental properties, etc? Is he willing to give up some luxuries so you can stay home/take your time finding a less stressful job with more vacation in the new city? Can your parents/family handle the situation with your sister for now, with you returning to the area when needed?</p>
<p>I’d be even more inclined to do the trust…</p>
<p>DH belittled me this morning…wasn’t happy with the toilet cleaning that occurred on my vacation day yesterday.</p>
<p>OMG… </p>
<p>I really don’t know what else to say…</p>
<p>m2ck, we are counting on you for something right to say on this.</p>
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<p>I would have told him that if he does not like the job that I did, he knows where the cleaning supplies are and he can get started on working on it!</p>
<p>I had a neighbor who had a husband who tried this little number. The only difference was that he was not happy with the way she cleaned the inside of the dishwasher. That’s right, the dishwasher! He wanted her to get into all corners, using a toothbrush. The marriage did not last long and they were divorced before their first child was 3 years old. They sold their home and moved. I guess that had to clean his own dishwasher with a toothbrush after their seperation.</p>
<p>I didn’t even know that people cleaned the INSIDE of the dishwasher!!</p>
<p>My ex would admonish me if he found me reading a book in the evening - I should have been out on the lawn pulling dandelions instead. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>He had exacting standards that I never managed to live up to.</p>
<p>I now live in a somewhat messy, but happy household. If we weren’t so busy, it would be less messy.</p>
<p>…He wanted her to get into all corners, using a toothbrush…</p>
<p>She should’ve said “Show me how.” and let him do it. That’s plain abusive in my book.</p>
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I’d venture a guess that it wasn’t about the dishwasher, it was about CONTROL. DH has similar control issues. After things reached the breaking point, it took a year of counseling to get to a better state. Occasionally we have to remind him he can’t do it to the children either.</p>
<p>This is why household chores are best split up according to which spouse cares more about particular tasks. In our family, my H loves superb, adventurous food, so he taught himself to cook to a high standard and does all the shopping and meals. He is, however, a hopeless slob and hardly ever goes outdoors, so I take care of the cleaning and yard work. We both appreciate each others’ abilities, but the real advantage is that if one of us gets busy with other stuff and can’t do such a great job for several weeks or months, the other party is not even likely to notice.</p>
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So, what was the dishwasher’s name, and was he good looking? ;)</p>
<p>Oh, lol, jym! I am sure at that point any dishwasher looked better than her husband!</p>
<p>sylvan, you hit the nail on the head. It was about the issue of control. The guy had other quirky things that he ordered his wife to do. I don’t recall all of them, but some were about micromanaging what she does while caring for their child (ie: lay the baby down this way, hold the bottle that way, etc.). She was also left most of the time without access to a car. She really did not have a good life with him.</p>
<p>“This is why household chores are best split up according to which spouse cares more about particular tasks”</p>
<p>Totally right. Everybody does what they like (or whoever hates it least). My husband pays the bills, I do the taxes. I cook, do alot of the cleaning, he does the outside. Of course, I don’t like cooking and cleaning, but he likes it less. We need a wife!</p>
<p>This is why household chores are best split up according to which spouse cares more about particular tasks.</p>
<p>LOL…if I had tried this with my H he would have said…I don’t care how any tasks are done, so I guess they’re all YOURS. </p>
<p>As a matter of fact…when we were first married, when I tried to get chores shared, H told me that my standards were too high as an excuse not to do much (LOL …because any member of my family would attest that I am in no way a clean freak. On a scale of 1-10…I’m probably a 6/7 when it comes to neatness/cleanliness of rooms/closets/drawers.)</p>
<p>*I didn’t even know that people cleaned the INSIDE of the dishwasher!! *</p>
<p>That’s what throwing a couple cups of white vinegar into the DW is for. LOL…let the DW do it’s own work!</p>
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<p>DH belittled me this morning…wasn’t happy with the toilet cleaning that occurred on my vacation day yesterday…btw, I also worked 2 hours for my normal job even on my vacation day, cleaned the stinky basement (we have an incontinent cat being put down next week). I really laid into him. (i.e. isn’t it wonderful that I spend half a vacation day cleaning so he can belittle the job I did)</p>
<p>*OMG…</p>
<p>I really don’t know what else to say… *</p>
<p>*we are counting on you for something right to say on this. *</p>
<p>…is that cuz I can be such a smart a$$ that has a “take no prisoners” stance? LOL</p>
<p>Honesty…this upsets me because hotchilipepper already works more than a 40 hour work week with her job, plus probably is responsible for much more than half of the home/kid responsibilities…and this guy has the nerve to complain about something that he probably has rarely/never done. </p>
<p>And, that’s another thing…I hate when people criticize or underestimate the effort for a job that they have NEVER done themselves.</p>
<p>When my H has complained about something stupid about something, I tell him that I’m coming to his office and overlook his efforts and put forth a few comments and complaints.</p>
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<p>How exactly did he ‘belittle’? I bet he said something like ‘well I still wouldn’t eat my breakfast off it’. And how was it that you ‘really laid into him’? I bet like a neutron bomb.</p>
<p>^^ Rude and unnecessary. No need to insult the OP. Maybe you are the OP’s DH??? ;)</p>
<p>the appropriate response to a critique of toilet cleaning is, in fact…a swirly. :D</p>
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