<p>Guys, way too many posts addressed to me and they are coming like machine gun fire. I just can’t answer them all. Please don’t consider this to be rude. I tried to keep up and failed.</p>
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<p>College students who need their mothers to drop everything and nurture them will have a very difficult time becoming president of the US. They will also have a difficult time becoming an adult, making independent decisions, getting a girlfriend, etc…It’s a cultural thing.</p>
<p>I love permutations, especially all the ones you have created about the same topic. I just wonder how many posts can be reused without losing any continuity (notice I didn’t use the word logic) in the thread. </p>
<p>Glad to hear you finished up your geometry ( er, uhm… I mean your son’s) homework. Time for a beer and time in front of the TV!</p>
<p>The getting a girlfriend theme is constant in your posts Lima. LOL!</p>
<p>I am trying to make a point with you IP. Glad you picked up on it!</p>
<p>I was once 18 too, Lima. I know how you must feel.</p>
<p>Having someone to share your life with is more important than making a lot of money.</p>
<p>Look Lima, 18 is way too early to have that kind of “share your life with” talk. Have some fun in college, you are still just a kid.</p>
<p>hehe IP, i love how you assume I’m a guy. That spanking post of yours was particularly hilarious (and a little dirty);)</p>
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<p>Funnily, my Asian parents say the exact same thing, all the time and in different permutations. As someone living between both worlds, the immigrant and the American mainstream, I do see what IP mean about this prejudice that exists on CC. Some posters here have some negative preconception about Asian parents that they can’t wait to apply to everything Asian, and that I find deeply offensive.</p>
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<p>Of course. Not necessarily as the president, but to reach for his goals and live a fulfilling life. By telling someone that they can’t do something, you impose limitations, adding to the obstacles the person faces from external sources. You can inform him of the potential difficulties and let him explore, figure it out on his own, but you shouldn’t discourage him.</p>
<p>IndianParent, the last time I tried to suggest something that I thought may be helpful, you attacked like I was trying to condemn your personal beliefs or something ;). So instead of pointing out that the top schools you endorse actually aim to offer a liberal arts education, I think I’ll just concede your debate supremacy and do something productive instead, like going to bed… </p>
<p>It was nice bumping into this thread. It should win an award for always being on the top of the “Lastest Posts”.</p>
<p>Lima, Guy, girl, makes no difference. Hormones are still raging for all 18 year olds. It’s very cute when kids your age try to act like they are adults. Trust me, being an adult is no fun. You are bogged down with responsibilities. Enjoy as long as you can when you are still a kid. With that, I have to call it a day.</p>
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<p>Well, of course I’m not going to discourage him or tell him he can’t do something! That wasn’t my question. Is it <em>my</em> job or <em>his</em> job to pick that goal?</p>
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<p>I am going to go to bed as well. Look, frankly, I don’t care what people study. I don’t care what schools try to teach. For goodness sakes, I am a libertarian. I don’t endorse any top schools either. I didn’t go to HYPSM myself. I am not exactly excited about my son going there either, or even going to college for that matter. </p>
<p>I have only one point. There is an American cookie cutter style of parenting. I have no intention of passing any judgment on it. It may be good, bad, or neutral - I really don’t care. However, there is a strong belief - not just on CC, but among all Americans - that the cookie cutter parenting style is good for everyone, and anything else is uniformly bad. That’s really equine excrement.</p>
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<p>OK, one last freaking post. Your job is to make sure he stays on that goal. It is more relevant when he is a minor. But, even as an adult, if you see him behaving like Rep. Weiner, for example, which you know will ruin his chances of becoming the POTUS, it is your responsibility to tell him to cease and desist. Not as a mother. Just as a good friend. Hope I could give more positive examples, but I know nothing about the US political system.</p>
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<p>But IP didn’t write that he chose the path for his son either, at least not in the parts I read. Not in the part you quoted. I think if you look beyond IP’s cyberspace unpleasantness and tendency to argue, the two of you actually hold some views in common.</p>
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<p>You see, you insult people even when you’re not trying to disprove anyone of anything ;).</p>
<p>you mean you are quitting?
I don’t know why but I read the whole thing and I like your guts.
let me just say everyone here got issues, Indian, American all the same.
some marry white to produce somewhat white offspring and life, some just don’t understand why anyone would want to play musical instruments. some never had to deal with anyone who does not share same value.
I was laughed at before here in parents’ forum for not acting along with CC parents’ code of conduct. (and for can’t write well being ESL)
you won’t understand them as much as they won’t get you, but neither of you could stop.
It is kind of hard that the best known Indian is either Gandhi or the Simpson’s Apu.
I didn’t know any better either until I read White Teeth.
maybe you can explain solid facts as they are, step by step by step, like the IIT thread. then folks might listen.</p>
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better no kid of CCer or self would be the president. things you posted here could be dug up and used against.</p>
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<p>I look around co-workers, and there are plenty who went to non-flagship state universities. Some went to community college before transferring to the state universities as juniors to complete their bachelor’s degrees.</p>
<p>I have only one point. There is an American cookie cutter style of parenting…strong belief - not just on CC, but among all Americans - that the cookie cutter parenting style is good for everyone.</p>
<p>So unfounded.</p>
<p>I think you’ve figured it out, lookingforward.</p>
<p>I hope that, as parents who are trying to do right by our kids, in our own variety of ways, we can resist the temptation to argue back with the OP tomorrow. It’s clearly futile.</p>