<p>PG, Back from Mexico or posting from there?</p>
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<p>No one has said that Asian kids in total must be really oppressed. But when I read stories of kids who are forced to practice music (or anything else) for hours and hours on end – yes, such kids are oppressed IMO. When kids are forced into studying STEM (or anything for that matter) that they don’t want to because their fearful parents can’t see other paths other than a select few – yes, such kids are oppressed. When kids – wonderful, smart, talented kids that any of us would be proud to call ours – come on these boards crying because they “only” got into Cornell or Carnegie Mellon and their parents tell them they are ashamed of them because they didn’t get into HYPSM – yes, such kids are oppressed. I don’t care what the color of their skin is.</p>
<p>Posting from Mexico, thanks for asking. Met a fellow CC poster and had a grand time. Now I’m procrastinating, LOL.</p>
<p>“But that’s exactly what American expats do!” What an immature thing to say.
“He did it , so why can’t I!!??” sounds like something a 5 year old would day.<br>
So? You feel that in order to pay back some ugly american expats who acted in a boorish manner in your country[ none of whom are here on this forum] you think you need to do the same here? Become the ugly expat ? Tit for tat? with total strangers? Just because you can?
“Indians don’t care.”
We are not american expats. Some obviously do care. Because most posters on this forum would not react as those boorish american expats did , no matter where we go.</p>
<p>PG, There you go again with the oppression stuff! :-)</p>
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<p>Wait a minute - didn’t you denigrate US kids, particularly those who went for LA majors, as not being interested in working hard and ultimately winding up being unhappy failures who are either waiting tables or working at Starbucks - but either way, certainly not able to compete with other ethnicities?</p>
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<p>That was not my point MPM. My point was that Indians don’t care how others raise their kids, contrary to what jonri claimed. I don’t think it is boorish behavior either. Perhaps it is because I grew up in India, with 20 national languages and almost double the number of states, which are all very different. There is no expectation of assimilation and people do what they want to do. So if an American expat believes in teaching their kid baseball, I am all for it. No skin off of my nose.</p>
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<p>Absolutely. And it felt bad, right? Now play it in reverse with your nerd and dork comments.</p>
<p>Sometimes I feel like I am back to the days when my son was a toddler and I was teaching him the boundaries of acceptable behavior by giving counter examples of consequences of his action.</p>
<p>Be very careful, I could be an expat to India at some point. It could be kind of confusing…I would be an Asian origin, but more of a New Yorker, and an ugly expat.</p>
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<p>I vote in favor. Too many questions directed at me and it is taking up all my time.</p>
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<p>Well then spell it out for me IP–you seem to have no trouble asking a lot of pretty basic questions, “uhm what am I supposed to talk about at the parent teacher conference?”</p>
<p>As far as the other items you are complaining about–apparently you have been burned somehow and feel that ALL AMERICANS have the same beliefs. YOU are the one that is stereotyping Asians. I can honestly say I has absolutely no idea about how oppresive Asian parents were until YOU brought it up. Now I llok at Asians a little differently, wondering how different their childhood may have been from mine. I know lots of Asians/Indians and they did not grow up with these silly “rules” that you claim Asian parents all have ( 3 hours of whatever per day–none of them did this).</p>
<p>There are other Indian parents on this forum that have never expressed the negativity or the victimization that you have. I think it is you, IP that is perceiving Asian bashing that just doesn’t exist. You are insecure and uncomfortable in your own skin and it is a tragedy that you are passing this onto to your son. If he is “the best” at what he does, then no one can marginalize him and make him feel the way you do. You’re an open book IP. We are all tired of hearing how victimized you are.</p>
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<p>Do you think that demanding that he practice his music X hours a day and that he practice squash X hours a day has anything to do with why some people suspected he was under your thumb?</p>
<p>I deleted my “shall we close this thread?” post to re-place it at the end. In the meantime, OP agreed.</p>
<p>OP, this isn’t your first thread that got closed. I, for one, do not believe you are what you pose as. It has occured to me you may be a ■■■■■. Sorry, but even when solid info is presented, you argue and argue and argue.</p>
<p>I feel that you prolong your threads with what seems to be an intent to scorn us. Not nice.</p>
<p>Still not getting it Lima. It has been spelled out already, you are just not getting it.</p>
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<p>We have gone through this before. Didn’t you require your kids to go to school 6 hours a day?</p>
<p>“When kids – wonderful, smart, talented kids that any of us would be proud to call ours – come on these boards crying because they “only” got into Cornell or Carnegie Mellon and their parents tell them they are ashamed of them because they didn’t get into HYPSM” </p>
<p>IP
we, who have been on CC for years, read so many posts like this every single April! And the overwhelming majority of them are from Asian kids, I kid you not!
Why would so many Asian children say their parents are disappointed in them for not getting into the most selective colleges? Because they do say that, year after year… What would cause parents to put so much pressure on their kids? And make them feel as if they have failed when they aren’t accepted?</p>
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<p>Why is that too much pressure? Parents are supposed to set high goals. I am not going to start out by telling my son that I am totally OK if he sucks in piano and then expect him to do his best.</p>
<p>Didn’t you require your kids to go to school 6 hours a day?
US LAW requires kids to go to school IP.
Sheesh…</p>
<p>If there was no law, then would you let your kids not go to school?</p>
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<p>Yes. What does one have to do with the other? Just because I may require my kids to do SOME things (go to school, take out the trash, call grandma on her birthday) doesn’t mean that therefore requiring them to do anything and everything at my personal whim is appropriate. Forced hours and hours of daily practice is a qualitatively different thing from making them attend school. Why are you trying to equate the two?</p>