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That is a priceless story!!</p>
<p>I am feeling extremely fortunate. We had 95 guests at our house for our daughter’s wedding, all of whom had RSVP’d. Only two glasses were broken (and I broke one of them myself, and the caterer broke the other). Not a single person complained about the food or demanded anything special. We got thank you notes from several guests, in fact, which I thought was terribly nice.</p>
<p>I am of course wracking my brain trying to come up with a bad guest story. I can’t think of any. I have a terrible suspicion that means <em>I</em> was the bad guest.</p>
<p>I can’t resist adding mine.<br>
I host Thanksgiving at my house every year (will be the 23rd time this year). We started out with 15 people and as the family has grown it is now 22 if everyone shows. It’s all good, except my DH’s side of the family (12 of the 22) refuses to tell us until the last minute who will attend and sometimes they say they’re not coming and then show up - for example last year we were told 6 of them would come, so I had dinner planned out table set for 16, and ended up with 20 people - fun!
DH doesn’t see an issue - it’s family, we’ll make do.</p>
<p>If I can’t think of any good stories, does that mean I’M the rude guest?? ;)</p>
<p>^ Nah, you’ve just lucked out with a good/reasonable family lol.</p>
<p>Eyamom, call me a skeptic but I would maybe think that the 20 guests RSVP’ed to the bride but she forgot to tell you. But then I’m a great conspiracy thinker. </p>
<p>I once lost a wedding invitation. I was so upset about it. I called my MIL and got the number and called the groom’s mother and RSVP’ed. And true to form my SIL never did but showed up anyways.</p>
<p>My sister once asked if our dog could stay outside during her weekend visit because she thought her asthma might act up with a dog in the house. Uh … NO! This is Sadie’s house and she lives indoors. She’s never spent the night outside and I told my sister if she was afraid her asthma would act up, she should consider a hotel. She survived the visit.</p>
<p>Oh, there are so many stories about this particular BIL, like when he & SIL got engaged. We invited the happy couple to our house to celebrate their engagement. We went to some effort: made an hors d’oeuvre plate, pulled out the good china & got a bottle of champagne. As we lifted a glass to toast their future happiness, future BIL refused to participate because he was engrossed in the Farmer’s Almanac. After we finished toasting their happy future, he looked up and proceeded to announce the optimal time to castrate cattle. :eek:</p>
<p>This wasn’t a request per se, but when my children had their b’nai mitzvah, one of their invited classmates brought along her mother and several younger siblings to the service. OK, fine, they’d never been to a synagogue and were curious to see the service, no problem. </p>
<p>At the Oneg afterwards (=small reception with cakes, cookies, fruit, punch) afterwards in the foyer, we were mingling and greeting our family members and friends. The mother walks up to me and says how much she enjoyed the service. Great, glad you enjoyed it. Then she proceeds to comment on my makeup (my makeup was perfectly understated and appropriate to the occasion, trust me), whips out a brochure, and starts to try to sell Mary Kay to me, right then and there.</p>
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<p>Because they don’t want children at the wedding, of course. They want to have an adults-only type of thing. And there are plenty of families where there simply aren’t that many children in the first place. I think I only had about 3 children at my wedding of 200 people - the young children of a cousin of my husband. Who was there to ask? I didn’t have cousins, nieces, nephews, that kind of things.</p>
<p>^ Pizza, I understood that they didn’t want children there. I just didn’t understand why that would be the case. Weddings just always seem to be family/friend community events. I understand now that some people might not have the desire to risk unruly children, cost, etc. I’ve just never heard of them is all.</p>
<p>eyemamom–But you lived to tell the tale! Good hubby you have–he was right of course–just deal with it and do what you can. It’s harder when so the planning has taken so much time.</p>
<p>^^ It is possible that the ‘adults only’ weddings are a northeast thing.</p>
<p>Here it is very common to host a sit down dinner/formal reception. Cost is most certainly an issue. It is my understanding that in parts of the south, it is common to have a cake reception which is less formal. This kind of situation seems much better suited to young children. </p>
<p>When I got married and when my kids got married, we all had ‘adults only’ receptions. Children were invited to the ceremony but not to the reception. My one SIL had 8 children. This would have added a considerable cost to the reception. They also act like children. Having them in attendance would have added a few family stories - and not the good kind.</p>
<p>^ book that could very well be! Almost all the weddings I go to are some sort of backyard reception events. Very rarely is it in a formal setting. </p>
<p>I’ll most likely be planning a wedding in the next 3 years so all of these things are things I’ve never thought about. CC is so informative!</p>
<p>As to kids at weddings–I have seen weddings where a sitter was hired to take care of any children who became tired and needed to be removed for the ceremony and/or the reception.</p>
<p>We were unusual in that we specifically wanted children at our wedding…but then we’re considered weird for a bunch of reasons…</p>
<p>On the other hand, we had a kids-only party for my son’s bar mitzvah (in addition to several other targeted events). A couple of close relatives and family friends were allowed to crash, much like the handful of kids who might be included in other people’s weddings. Seemed only fair!</p>
<p>At my niece’s wedding, some of the young adults out of control with the drinking and dirty dancing. We left early, but before we did three different people had shattered glasses right on the floor because they were too drunk to dance and hold a glass at the same time. One young woman was on all fours on the dance floor while a guy rode her like a mechanical bull. Shockingly vulgar.</p>
<p>Oh my Zoosermom. Words escape.
I am so thankful that that did not happen at any of the wedding we hosted this year! I, as the host, would have died of embarassment!</p>
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<p>Priceless! And I just love that you weren’t just another guest she was trying to sell to…it was your event! </p>
<p>We have had a couple of people try to sell us Melaluca Oil products under very inappropriate circumstances, but none were in connection with a religious observance!</p>
<p>Worst house guest ever.</p>
<p>First time she stayed with us she decided the pictures on our wall belonged in a different spot so she moved them. Also, that the trash can should go somewhere else. Smoked in our house even though we had small children until my husband asked her not to.</p>
<p>Subsequent visits: I gave her the guest room which was nicely made up but she wanted a different room so she took it. Took an antique chair from the living room and moved it into her room. Ran the dishwasher when I asked her not to because there was still plenty of room and we had a full house. When I commented on it she said “yeah, I knew you didn’t want me to. That’s why I waited until you went to bed”</p>
<p>When she came for my son’s wedding she didn’t want to stay in our house because we also had other guests. Mind you we have three guest bedrooms and the other guests were only taking one of them. We also offered to let her stay at my son’s house but she insisted on staying in a hotel and then asked us to pay for it. </p>
<p>When she comes for a holiday she will come before or after and then leave because “she doesn’t like crowds”. Namely, my side of the family. Will stay at our house when we go to a relatives house from my side of the family. </p>
<p>When we go out to eat while she’s here, we treat. Even though she’s been staying at our house for a week. When we go grocery shopping she adds things to the list. We pay. Parks her car and we drive her everywhere. </p>
<p>Back before she had a cell phone she used to call us collect. Retired at the age of 50 and complains she has no money so my husband treats her to everything. It’s his only sister and I’m so glad he has no other family.</p>